Should I call this girl I haven't spoke to in four months?

[theoburray]

I asked this in December: http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?p=1106468#post1106468

it's the same girl. I tried two or three times but it went to voicemail but I didn't really try hard, I should have left a message or something I don't know. Maybe should have left it a week or two then tried again HOWEVER there was another girl I was interested in which I've posted about here I think as well which was someone at work, however that didn't materialise so I want to move on and I think instead of starting from scratch I try to make something happen with someone I also liked a lot (and I'm starting to like again).

Anyway a couple of Thursdays ago I texted her 'Are you going to this club?' but I didn't want to seem random for texting her after so long so when she responded 'No, having a quiet one. Who are you going with?' I texted back 'Sorry, I accidentally texted you blah blah. But it's (my name) from the other month how are you'. I know I ****** up there, I said it wasn't for her because I didn't want her to think I'm a creep for texting her after we haven't talked in four months and that's the only time we have talked ever, in hindsight that was a **** move but at least I know I still have her number and it's working. I REGRETTED this about 3 seconds after I sent it and it became clear when she didn't message back, why did I SAY THAT!?!? It wasnt MEANT FOR HER!?!?! I'm an idiot at times :( I've never been in a relationship at 19 but that was no excuse, it could have been a good and back texting convo but I fucked it up :(

But like I said at least I still have her number but I'm not sure whether to just call her but I don't want to text her again after that incident at least if she hears my voice and it comes up I can apologise and make something on the spot to hide what an idiot I was :p

Think I should go for it? How do you start a conversation with a girl you haven't talked to in months? Would I be too forward to ask her out to a coffee if it was seemingly going well?

[anonymous53]

I'd suggest not, if it went to voice mail twice right away she was probably brushing you off.

[theoburray]

I'd suggest not, if it went to voice mail twice right away she was probably brushing you off.

This was back in December, I haven't called her since. One of those times was late on a Sunday Night and another on a weekday afternoon, I never know when the right time to call a girl is literally.

[Amnesiac]

Dude, chill. You're over-thinking it. Either call her or don't. If you can't man up to the idea of calling her, try chatting her on Facebook or some shit.

Either way, what've you got to lose?

[theoburray]

Only thing that is making me hesistate is the time factor and how long it's been, I don't really want to move backwards but at the same time now with these two girls who have both been very attractive physically and had the personality to support them (at the end of the day looks only get you so far, I still want to be able to have an intelligent conversation with a future gf) my mind has created them as almost perfectionists or a benchmark as bad or as shallow as that sounds. Not that I feel I deserve a 'hot' girl but since I've sort of established something here with these two girls who I would say are 'hot' my standards have gone up and so I'm pretty much crossing off girls before I even meet them.

But yeah everyone is saying I over-think which is true, probably due to the fact I don't have much experience in this at all so I analyse what can go wrong and what's the aftermath, I look forward too much instead of 'staying in the moment' but I think I'm at a cross-roads. It looks like it won't happen with the girl from work and if nothing materialises here I'm stuck at the very start again which for me is bad because these two girls have been the only major chances I've seemed to have in the past year if not longer.

Either way I'll hopefully call tommorow evening (Sunday) my mind changes a lot but I'd love to be involved with either of these two girls to be honest, not for convience but I have liked both girls a lot and it keeps alternating but at the end of the day there isn't anyone else I'm interested in.