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Old January 4th, 2011, 12:38 AM   #1
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I was told by my parents that my uncle did something inappropriate to me, and I swear to god. Every detail of that day came back to me. But my uncle lives really far away and I want to be back in contact with him, is it the right idea? I'm 16 years old
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Old January 4th, 2011, 12:48 AM   #2
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I was told by my parents that my uncle did something inappropriate to me, and I swear to god. Every detail of that day came back to me. But my uncle lives really far away and I want to be back in contact with him, is it the right idea? I'm 16 years old
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Old January 4th, 2011, 01:50 AM   #3
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id recommend against it.

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Old January 4th, 2011, 01:59 AM   #4
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If he did something of that nature to you, I wouldnt contact him.

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Old January 4th, 2011, 03:19 AM   #5
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Why would you do that it could give him the wrong feeling that everythings okay

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If your uncle SEXUALLY ABUSED YOU, yes, an unconsented sexual relationship with a child is sexual abuse, why would you ever want to get involved with the paedophile again?

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I personally wouldn't want to get back in contact with him but if you do just be really careful about it and try to make it clear that you (if you haven't) haven't forgiven him

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Old January 4th, 2011, 10:38 AM   #8
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I mean I was 13 when it all happened...
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Old January 4th, 2011, 10:41 AM   #9
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A grown man had a sexual relationship with a 13 year old, the fact you want to regain contact bewilders me.

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Old January 4th, 2011, 10:53 AM   #10
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When you say you want to be back in contact with him I'm not sure whether you mean just normal birthday and christmas card type contact or if you are implying to want further sexual contact with him. Either way it sounds like a bad idea. Even though you were at an age where you should have understood what was happening what he did was abuse and it would be better to keep well away.
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Old January 4th, 2011, 02:17 PM   #11
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Why would you if he did something like that a couple of years ago? I mean if he is now not interested in you and you feel safe and your parents agree with you maybe but make sure that the incident wont happen again
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Old January 4th, 2011, 06:17 PM   #12
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It depends I might talk to him until he does something inappropriate also don't see him just talk/txt
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Old January 4th, 2011, 06:34 PM   #13
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I dont talk to my parents about sex stuff, too awkward, but if it was them who told me that some1 had done something to me I would feel OK about asking what they thought about me getting in contact with him again, anyways your parents would find out if you just went ahead and did it. So I would ask my parents. Tbh I wouldnt want to contact him tho.

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Old January 4th, 2011, 07:37 PM   #14
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Well I mean I was 13 when this one thing happened, i agreed to what he wanted to do to me, I've moved on from it and I'm ready to start a brand new and mature relationship/friendship with my uncle. I mean after all of that happened, he told my stepdad and i believe he moved to Washington state.*
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This has little to do with puberty, and more so to do with family ties. I moved your thread from Puberty for Boys to Family and Friends.

Also, from the information you've provided for us, it sounds like is a sound thing to get back in contact as long as you feel that it's right. Even though this sounds twisted - I don't think you should shun your uncle for having a sexual relationship with you. Especially if you want to get back in contact with him - if you avoid doing it but you really wanted to, you might regret your decision. I mean, what you did was consensual, and you've moved on, so it seems okay to proceed.

Now, of course, if something you don't want to happen happens, then you should remove yourself from the situation, to safety. You can't assume that being related will guarantee things to be safe.
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This has little to do with puberty, and more so to do with family ties. I moved your thread from Puberty for Boys to Family and Friends.

Also, from the information you've provided for us, it sounds like is a sound thing to get back in contact as long as you feel that it's right. Even though this sounds twisted - I don't think you should shun your uncle for having a sexual relationship with you. Especially if you want to get back in contact with him - if you avoid doing it but you really wanted to, you might regret your decision. I mean, what you did was consensual, and you've moved on, so it seems okay to proceed.

Now, of course, if something you don't want to happen happens, then you should remove yourself from the situation, to safety. You can't assume that being related will guarantee things to be safe.
I disagree, a sexual predator is a sexual predator. This man, an adult took advantage of a child..

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Move family and friends to abuse

And I honestly think you should never get anywhere near him again

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I disagree, a sexual predator is a sexual predator. This man, an adult took advantage of a child..
That's a fair argument, but seeing as it was consensual and the poster feels confident (not shaken or disturbed) I think it's okay. But I place the responsibility of mike.virtualteen's safety on himself if he decides to pursue this situation.

Further precautions that could be taken are call him from a street phone, create an alternate email and use that to contact him, tell your parents about the situation, do not be alone with him, do not get into a sexual relationship again and if you do, DO NOT let any pictures be taken of you (unless you wanna get him busted), I mean there's a lot of things that could happen.

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Even though it may be consensual, it's still illegal. But it was consensual, which gives me the impression that it's not as scary as it sounds.
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Old January 4th, 2011, 09:01 PM   #19
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You are just askin to be re-victimized by seeking contact with ya uncle again
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o wow ive never had an experience like this but yeah i think you should talk to him (not meanly but well uhh idk) closure is good

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