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Old January 19th, 2010, 09:51 PM   #1
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Is there anything good about abuse you can think of???
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Old January 19th, 2010, 09:58 PM   #2
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It can make you stronger, in some ways. In some ways it can also bring you closer to those that you love, and, dare I say it, to the abuser. I'm relying on personal experience here, so take from it what you will.


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Old January 20th, 2010, 03:07 PM   #3
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..the hell? abuse is bad all the way and why would i myself become close to my abuser?? i would wanna kill him the first chance i get. abuse is terrible.
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Old January 20th, 2010, 05:03 PM   #4
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Your opinion. Not mine.


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Old January 20th, 2010, 05:05 PM   #5
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Makes you tougher is you can get over it.
It changes your perspective on on life.
Teaches you that there are worst things in life.

and ehh idk. that's what I got out of it.

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Old January 20th, 2010, 05:29 PM   #6
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Mine made me tougher on some things. It def did not bring me closer to my abuser or to a certain member of my family. Like it was said above, it does give you a whole new perspective on things. Are you asking this because you've been abused or are you just curious?
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Old January 20th, 2010, 11:52 PM   #7
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It can make you a stronger person but that is only if you can come to terms with the abuse.



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Old January 21st, 2010, 01:20 AM   #8
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In my case, it pulled the strings from me and my family completely apart beyond repair. I'll never forgive them for anything they did, no matter what. BUT, it brought me extremely close to 4 people. 4 people that I'd give and owe my life to for helping me stay alive in my time of need.

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Old January 21st, 2010, 05:13 AM   #9
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Abuse does no one any good. It is the healing process that yields positive change.

The abuse destroyed what little self confidence I had left, taught me not to trust people, that I am inferior and left me a broken woman.

But the healing process is what is making me stronger, more confident, more trusting and feeling more like a person of equal value.


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Old January 21st, 2010, 02:44 PM   #10
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Your opinion. Not mine.
yea. sorry if i'm blunt but its really how i feel.
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Old January 21st, 2010, 05:17 PM   #11
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I don't know if what my dad did to me was abuse, but it didn't do me any good, I was still in a bad state for the first couple of months I was away from him, but I'm ok now, it's been 5 months, but sometimes I cry at night when I think of it
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It can be good if the healing process ever is successful, as some will never heal, but they are still very strong people, and courageous, to go through all of that & still be here.
They can relate to others, help others, support others, perhaps even save others lives before it gets to the point of nearly destroying it.
There can be an upside, but it's never an upside to be abused in any way, shape or form.

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Old February 7th, 2010, 01:35 AM   #13
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Whether or not abuse is good or bad, sterotypically its bad, it varies on the form of abuse, who, or whats involved, age, sex, response to the abuse and so on.
Personally I've had to help alot of friends through sexual and physical abuse, trust me, its not fun to stand there watching your freind's life fall apart because they won't talk to you about it. But what I found is that I didn't constantly nag them, in time they just came to me for help.
So... It CAN be looked as a good thing, it CAN make you a stronger person...
Or...
It could utterly destroy you and your freinds...

As i said, it varies from person to person and the situation.

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Old February 7th, 2010, 01:52 AM   #14
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Whether or not abuse is good or bad, sterotypically its bad, it varies on the form of abuse, who, or whats involved, age, sex, response to the abuse and so on.
Personally I've had to help alot of friends through sexual and physical abuse, trust me, its not fun to stand there watching your freind's life fall apart because they won't talk to you about it. But what I found is that I didn't constantly nag them, in time they just came to me for help.
So... It CAN be looked as a good thing, it CAN make you a stronger person...
Or...
It could utterly destroy you and your freinds...

As i said, it varies from person to person and the situation.
wisely put, i second this
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Old February 7th, 2010, 02:28 AM   #15
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I was abused, mentally and partially physically. Mentally every day by my father for years.

Anyway... I feel as if that and my Grandfather being there for me has made me grow intelligent over the few years I have lived, and made me grow polite. I don't know if that is the reason but I swear to god or whoever is watching me that I will not turn into my father.

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I don't think abuse should have a place in this world.
Unless and until the healing process is successful it leads only to damage.

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Old February 7th, 2010, 06:14 AM   #17
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I don't think abuse should have a place in this world.
Unless and until the healing process is successful it leads only to damage.
It doesn't have a place in this world.
But... Unfortunately, when there are cities, and people and social webs around, there will always be abuse.
Its just another form of people trying to get what they want how they feel best fit. Be it for their own reason its never right, but, its like saying, "Crime is wrong, so it shouldn't be here" easier said then done.
The most we can do as bystanders is be there for people who need our help.

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Old February 7th, 2010, 07:23 AM   #18
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*Applauds Mattasaur94*

Couldn't put it better my self, Abuse is a horrible thing, to both live under and see other people go through, a best friend of mine get emotionally abused by his mother, i hate knowing that i can do things to help, but he wont let me as he doesnt want to leave the area he lives in.

Unfortunatly some people over use the term 'abuse", many of the girls at my school say "Oh, my dad touched me" or "I was raped when i was younger" 99% of them say it to get attention, i know that because you cant just talk about that and not show some form of emotion, When a friend of mine thinks about how someone sexually abused her she just breaks down into this emotional state. Sorry all who are offended

But overall, abuse is horrible and doesnt need to be here, if you abuse people, someone should abuse you and see how it feels :S


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Unfortunatly some people over use the term 'abuse", many of the girls at my school say "Oh, my dad touched me" or "I was raped when i was younger" 99% of them say it to get attention, i know that because you cant just talk about that and not show some form of emotion, When a friend of mine thinks about how someone sexually abused her she just breaks down into this emotional state. Sorry all who are offended
For a while, I didn't feel anything towards one of my abusers and the things he did to me. I could say "so and so didn't take no for an answer" without feeling anything or experiencing anything. But that does not mean that I was lying. That does not mean that I was attention seeking.
I wasn't letting myself feel or experience anything to do with it out of self protection. It was the darkest period in my life and I couldn't cope with the rest of the mess I had to deal with, let alone that.

So, think before you speak. Things are never straightforward. Especially with something as complicated as abuse.


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