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Old September 22nd, 2008, 05:44 AM   #1
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Tips for Asking Someone Out!



There are few things in life are as exciting as the prospect of a new relationship. It can be a scary thought sometimes while at the same time lifting your spirits and giving you a better look on life. While the initial attraction is rarely love, what it has is the promise of love to come and that can be very exciting. But the question that remains, and is what often frightens us the most, is how to move on from the initial attraction to the dating stage.

The answer is not simple. First you have to be ready to put your heart on the line by letting the other person know you are interested. There are different ways that you can let the other person know you are interested, whether it be in an obvious or subtle way. A good place to start is with some innocent flirting. It doesn't have to be anything major, maybe just complimenting them, and if your crush seems receptive and appears interested, then the next step is to ask him or her out.

Asking someone out can seem like a big deal, but really it doesn't have to be like that. It can be something simple like, "lets eat lunch together today" if you want to start off slowly. Or if you are feeling more confident or adventurous, you could try something more like, "do you want to see a movie with me on Saturday?" Once you have put your feelings out there in the open, you will soon know if the other person is interested as well.

If they say "no" it is pretty obvious that they aren't in to you the same way that you are in to them. Although this might be a bit disheartening and feels like a kick in the guts, it is ok and you should not see it as a fault with yourself. Unfortunately it is the risk we take in asking somebody out. But you shouldn't let a rejection stop you from asking somebody out in the future. Remember, because one person doesn't return those feelings, it doesn't mean that everyone else is the same.

Sometimes they may answer with "I'll think about it". If that happens, don't try and prejudge what their answer will be and try not to get too paranoid about it all. The waiting game can be very annoying, but most likely your crush didn't see this coming, and they will need time to sort out their feelings. The worst thing you can do here is rush them into giving you an answer. Ideally, waiting for them to make the first move in giving you the answer is the way to go, but if its been an extended period of time since you asked them out, then it would be worth just casually asking them again. Remember, an "I'll think about it" means just that, so you need to be patient.

But if they will say "yes" then you will have a chance to at the very least, to get to know your crush a bit better. The best relationships start by being friends and getting to know each other. So take advantage of that, you never know where this will lead. Maybe you will find that you are better off just being friends? That might hurt a bit, but think of it in a positive way, at least you have a new friend to share good times with. But maybe you will find that you are both well suited together and you end up dating and sharing a meaningful relationship together. It's the happiness you have when you find someone to share a relationship with that makes this all worthwhile.

When it comes to the crunch, if you want to date somebody you have to ask. Sitting around looking at someone you like and hoping that it will come together nicely on your lap will not get you far in the love game. Take the chance, remember you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. You don't want to look back in the future regretting that you didn't get to know a certain person or asked them out. Remember, you have everything to gain by asking someone you like out including, maybe, love!

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Old September 22nd, 2008, 10:04 AM   #2
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Nice Stephen. It's even capitalized!
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Old September 22nd, 2008, 03:31 PM   #3
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Nice Stephen. It's even capitalized!
when i originally typed it out it was in a word document which capitalised it for me, so a bit of cheating there. lol

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Old October 4th, 2008, 07:57 AM   #4
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how do you ask someone out when you like them ???
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Old October 26th, 2008, 09:43 AM   #5
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haha yeah i heard it on the simpsons right but anyway.. haha

i go to this girl, serious face and everything right im like

"Sarah.. i think we need to call heaven"

shes like.. what?! why?!

so i look to my left and then look back at her right and again proper serious go

"I think an angel's gone missing"

upon which she slaps me round the face and walks off.....

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Old October 30th, 2008, 03:33 PM   #6
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Very well said!!!
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Old November 5th, 2008, 05:56 PM   #7
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I like this girl in my class but she likes my mate but he dos not like her :s
Can anyone help me?
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Old November 16th, 2008, 06:09 AM   #8
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if you like someone go and if he/she does not like you then go away.........
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Old November 25th, 2008, 09:08 AM   #9
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Nicely said! Great advice! but i got a bit of a problem, 2 days ago I asked out this girl who ive known for ages, we were texting for hours, then i asked her out (not the best way i know but it was the only way to ask her at that moment). She hasn't replyed in any way and it's really bugging me now and it's making me not sleep.

Does she not feel that way about me? Any advice would be awesome

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Old November 25th, 2008, 03:35 PM   #10
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Nicely said! Great advice! but i got a bit of a problem, 2 days ago I asked out this girl who ive known for ages, we were texting for hours, then i asked her out (not the best way i know but it was the only way to ask her at that moment). She hasn't replyed in any way and it's really bugging me now and it's making me not sleep.

Does she not feel that way about me? Any advice would be awesome
well there could be any number of reasons why she hasn't replied. and even though she hasn't, don't necessarily jump to the conclusion that its because she wants to say no. i think the best thing you can do is go and talk to her in person, or at least talk on the phone. that way you will know what she is thinking and it will put your mind at ease.

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Old November 26th, 2008, 09:26 AM   #11
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Right, she finally did reply! She said she had no credit on her phone so she couldnt reply, which I can understand. The bad news is she said no, but I can live with that it was just not knowing what she would say is what got to me.

She only said no because she enjoys being single and she said that it's not an overal no, she still might in the future!

Gumleaf, cheers for advice tho you helped me calm down
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Old January 27th, 2009, 05:26 AM   #12
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thanks for the reassurances, i wanna try to start something with this one guy and just reading this helped me calm down.
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Old February 4th, 2009, 09:28 PM   #13
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Thanks so much this can help me better

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Old February 16th, 2009, 03:10 PM   #14
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I LOVE HER, i dont know how to start relationship, is it good to write "I Love You" on a Paper for her?

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Old February 16th, 2009, 03:13 PM   #15
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No. I think some girls will find that a little....what's the word??? 'Desperate'?
Nope I can't think of the right word. The best way to tell someone you love them is to the face.

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Old February 16th, 2009, 04:32 PM   #16
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well, thanks

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Old March 6th, 2009, 08:59 PM   #17
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No. I think some girls will find that a little....what's the word??? 'Desperate'?
Nope I can't think of the right word. The best way to tell someone you love them is to the face.
oooohhh...i didnt do that...i told her i loved her over myspace....lol xD....but she knew....are boys really this obvious???!!! or is it just me....
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Old March 11th, 2009, 03:42 AM   #18
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Good advice

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Old April 21st, 2009, 04:02 PM   #19
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haha yeah i heard it on the simpsons right but anyway.. haha

i go to this girl, serious face and everything right im like

"Sarah.. i think we need to call heaven"

shes like.. what?! why?!

so i look to my left and then look back at her right and again proper serious go

"I think an angel's gone missing"

upon which she slaps me round the face and walks off.....

phsstt
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Old April 22nd, 2009, 08:59 PM   #20
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I want to ask this girl out but I need some like lines what should I say?
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