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Old August 17th, 2008, 11:06 AM   #1
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My older brother is about 10 years older then me, when he was starting high school he tricked me into doing stuff on him. I didn't know what it was at the time and believed him so I started doing it. When I got a little older and learned what it really was I totally stopped and would never do it again. I now of course totally hate him and don't even talk to him unless I have to. My parents are mad I don't get along with him now, but I would be way too embarassed to ever let anyone know about it
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Old August 17th, 2008, 11:39 AM   #2
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It is illegal, it is statutatory rape and incest. You shouldn't feel embarrassd to tell. Tell someone now or else the pain will get worse and cause a rift in your family.

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Old August 17th, 2008, 01:45 PM   #3
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it would cause problems if i did tell anyone too. and it was over a few years ago. I just think i would die if other people, especially anyof the guys at school, ever found out i was stuid enuff to be tricked into doing blowjobs on my own brother and one of his buds
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Old August 17th, 2008, 02:04 PM   #4
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it would cause problems if i did tell anyone too. and it was over a few years ago. I just think i would die if other people, especially anyof the guys at school, ever found out i was stuid enuff to be tricked into doing blowjobs on my own brother and one of his buds
They wouldn't have to find out. If you told the authorities, like you should, then it would be confidential.

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Old August 17th, 2008, 02:05 PM   #5
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Yes, like Michael said, it's rape, and incest.
You should tell your parents, so your brother can't harm anyone else.
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Old August 17th, 2008, 02:07 PM   #6
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u know how it would go... eventually EVERYONE would find out why my brother and his friend went to jail and it would be AWEFUL
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Old August 17th, 2008, 02:11 PM   #7
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Well with the police, it would be fully confidential.
You will probably have no problems with your family telling [What mom would want to say 'My son got sent to jail for rape and incest' and what brother would want to say 'I got sent to jail for raping my brother'] and the police aren't legally allowed to tell anyone outside of the case, so you could make up a story, like he stole something really valuable or something like that.
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Old August 17th, 2008, 02:14 PM   #8
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u know how it would go... eventually EVERYONE would find out why my brother and his friend went to jail and it would be AWEFUL
His friend? You have to tell the police now! Don't worry about the consequences, usually if someone is convicted for rape, thats as much people ( kids especially ) will look into it.

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Old August 17th, 2008, 02:20 PM   #9
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I just cant, and it stopped years ago now
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Old August 17th, 2008, 02:25 PM   #10
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I just cant, and it stopped years ago now
Well what are you hoping to achieve by posting then?

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Old August 17th, 2008, 02:27 PM   #11
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i was wondering if i really been raped or just tricked
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Old August 17th, 2008, 02:30 PM   #12
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Ok, (sorry if this comes off as if i had an attitude)

Legally: Yes, it was rape. And is highly illegal. It can also be classified as molesting children etc.

but

Morally: No you weren't. You consented, regardless of whether you were tricked or not. YOU COULD SAY NO. But you didn't. You knowingly engaged in a sexual act.

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Old August 17th, 2008, 02:33 PM   #13
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so it is kinda my fault for keeping on doing it then? i mean not now! but back then
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Old August 17th, 2008, 02:33 PM   #14
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I am sorry that you had to go through this. How do you see things going from here?

I'm going to be picky here. It would be classed as statutory rape though I think the term sexual abuse would fit better. It is not your fault that this happened. You weren't even aware of what was going on. He is the one to blame, not you.


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Old August 17th, 2008, 05:07 PM   #15
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Morally: No you weren't. You consented, regardless of whether you were tricked or not. YOU COULD SAY NO. But you didn't. You knowingly engaged in a sexual act.
It is not consent since the person was not in the age of consent ( since you did use the word consent ) that is putting it legally on top of the assumption that the brother was problably over the age of consent which would be automatically making it rape.

Morally it was not consented due to the fact that the OP stated that he himself did not know at the time what he was doing.

In otherwords the brother abused his sibling.

Both morally and legally

What you choose to do about it is your own responsibility but you should do whats best for you and others.

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Old August 17th, 2008, 08:17 PM   #16
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It is illegal. The close age exceptions only go down to 16, and your brother had to be younger than 24. It was rape, because whethyer you gave your consent or not, you were under the age of consent and the close age exception law.
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Old August 17th, 2008, 08:26 PM   #17
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It doesn't matter if it happened a while ago.
As long as you have that with you, its going to destroy your family.

And yourself.
My mom was molested as a child basically the same way but by her brothers friend.
And it still haunts her to this day.

It's best if you just tell them.

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Old August 17th, 2008, 08:28 PM   #18
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He just wanted to know if it was rape. You probably missed that post, but he said there wouldnt be proof that he was raped by his brother.
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Old August 17th, 2008, 08:31 PM   #19
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You guys have to remember this is his brother and the best thing for him to do is to talk to him first instead of trying to get him arrested. They still have a brotherly bond and maybe he feels bad about doing it.
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You guys have to remember this is his brother and the best thing for him to do is to talk to him first instead of trying to get him arrested. They still have a brotherly bond and maybe he feels bad about doing it.
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I now of course totally hate him and don't even talk to him unless I have to.
I dont think talking is the best answer.
Usually thats what you should do first, but in a situation like this, it doesn't work very well.
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