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Old June 17th, 2008, 10:59 PM   #1
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How to Fix a Broken Friendship


Friendships are built on trust. Many a confidence is shared between two 'good' friends, and once that confidence has been violated, then expect the friendship to be broken. It is difficult, and at times impossible to restore a friendship, and most of the time, it will never be the same.

Steps to try and solve your problems: Say you are sorry but you should mean it, the person will be able to tell if you're being sincere or not. It's the best word to use, to explain your feelings. Explain how much you value and miss their friendship, and that you would like to speak to them in person. Mention simply what had occurred, and how you wish you could turn back that moment in time. Speak quietly, sincerely, and allow them to feel the pain that you feel, and the loneliness you have endured since the break up of the friendship. Even under the worst of circumstances an honest face to face conversation may be all that is needed to reestablish a bond. Show him/her that you are sorry. You made a mistake (probably a big one). Show that you did not want to hurt him/her, because he/she was (or most preferably is) your friend, and friends do not want to hurt friends.

Some more Tips: When you meet, hug, and say 'I am sorry'. Be honest, and apologize for your thoughtlessness. Tell them how much your friendship meant, and that you hope you can get it back. Be a good listener, once they have finished what they have said completely, respond and give your thoughts. It's okay to cry and show emotion, it shows you care.

Some Warnings: Make sure you're not still angry at this person. Make sure that you will not explode when they say something that might get you mad. Do not leave repeated messages on their machines/phones. Leave two or three, but not a hundred. That will make them think that you are too clingy and they won't want to be around you.

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Old June 18th, 2008, 01:48 PM   #2
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Old November 3rd, 2008, 05:35 AM   #3
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thanks for the advice
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Old December 19th, 2008, 10:38 PM   #4
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how does i mke friends? i go to a boardingschool in newhampshire... 99% of the kids there are assholes.. its helll there...

at home... ive been soo out of touch... my "friends" i never see and i mdae plans and they stood me up tonight... i dont unnnerderstand whats wrong with nme?
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Old August 27th, 2009, 07:15 PM   #5
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That is some good advice but, I'm not so sure about sayin "i wish i could go back in time and change it". It just sounds to cheesy to me lol, but thats just my opinion. I would just say tell thetruth (see what i did there) and just say "im sorry, i spoke out of anger and what i said was not true".

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Old January 11th, 2010, 12:32 AM   #6
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Thanks for the advice, Me and my friend just had a fight last night/This morning. We were both saying sorry, but she was saying it becoz she didnt wanna be friends anymore. I should be pissed off at her becoz she stuffed up my relationship with my girlfriend, But im not. I want to be friends with her again, but she said there was nothing i could do to fix it.. I hope your advice works, if not thanks for it anyways ( :
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Old April 3rd, 2010, 11:14 PM   #7
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thanks a lot!
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Old May 1st, 2010, 10:55 PM   #8
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I had a SOME WHAT SIMILAR personal experience. in short....
I am from California and went to college in New York. did not stay in contact with my friend.

I went back to California for winter break
Firstly, we did almost exactly what was stated here...plus a little more
Secondly, the next day (my final day in California) it seemed we were back to normal
Then out of the blue my friend tells to never speak to them again.....and I can't go talk to them now in person because I live 3,000 miles away. and they wont answer their phone


So i don't think whats stated here is enough for all friendships
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Old May 23rd, 2010, 12:36 PM   #9
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im definetly guna use this.
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Old May 27th, 2010, 06:22 AM   #10
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Old June 2nd, 2010, 07:41 PM   #11
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I really hope this can help. I recently said something to a friend, but it seemed fine when we texted each other, but when we saw each other in person at school the next day, it was different. He didn't speak a word to me and wouldn't look at me. We usually talk or high five in the hallways but today we did nothing, and I really don't want it to stay like that.
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Old June 3rd, 2010, 07:02 AM   #12
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wow this is actually very good advice, thanks
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Old June 25th, 2010, 02:56 AM   #13
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Yea umm I spent that light ovet my friend's house and while I was going to sleep and he started touching my dick so I left his house and now we act different around each other...... HELP!!! Please.
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Old July 9th, 2010, 01:26 AM   #14
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this did not work to save my friendship and the friendship i had was one of the best ive ever had... but now i have new friends and i cant say that it still doesnt hurt but i can say that i dont worry about his problems anymore, but idk i miss my friend.

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Old April 12th, 2011, 02:56 PM   #16
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Thanks for the help, but I do not think it would fix one friendship I had two years ago. This person hates me because I am in a Religion that differs from Christianity, well in a way. He claims that all Religions outside Christianity is Satanism, but, his mother is the one who put that in his head. I hope one day, he will see the truth for himself. Again thanks, I am sure this would help with other friendships.

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Old April 14th, 2011, 12:08 AM   #17
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Thanks for the advice, i'm still mad though. Trust has something to do with our argument, but not really.. I apologized for telling her to" Shut the beep up." But that was the only thing I really regretted...I was just sick of her whining, and putting people down.

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Yeah, i had that working for me... but the hug is a really good idea

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Old September 12th, 2011, 04:57 PM   #19
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When me and my bestfriend had a massages fall out it was very difficult, giving them time and space to themselves is very important, and take it slowly when you start the making up process, if they really are your bestfriend I found that they will forgive you and now I'm even closer to him, but this is just what I've experienced, really good advice thanks
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dont text or message the person, talk to them face to face to show them you care
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