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Old March 17th, 2008, 06:14 PM   #1
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Ok this girl named karra rides my bus and lately she has told me that her dad has thrwon her and also kicked her. she says this happens alot. Her dad also cuesses at her for no reason and yells at her this has been goin on alot and her best friend travis isnt helping so i came here for help. Do you think this is abuse? what could she do to stop this?
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Old March 17th, 2008, 06:18 PM   #2
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This sounds most definitely like abuse, have you talked to her about going to the police? if it's as bad as she says it is she NEEDS to do something before she gets seriously hurt!

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Old March 17th, 2008, 06:20 PM   #3
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This sounds most definitely like abuse, have you talked to her about going to the police? if it's as bad as she says it is she NEEDS to do something before she gets seriously hurt!
Yes i have tried to tell her to call the cops but she said she already tried but her dad noticed and told never to try that again. but i will keep suggesting it to her.


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Old March 17th, 2008, 06:32 PM   #4
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Yup this is abuse. it's verbal and phisical. So go ahead and talk to the police about it. They will be able to help


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Old March 17th, 2008, 06:35 PM   #5
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ok well i will tell her that but i may have to contact the cops too but i dont want her dad to find out and hurt her.


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Well just go and tell your parents about it and they will call the cops. Make sure that you give them the adress and all before ok?

this situation will be over trust me


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Old March 17th, 2008, 07:13 PM   #8
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Well just go and tell your parents about it and they will call the cops. Make sure that you give them the adress and all before ok?

this situation will be over trust me
ok well ill have to ask her for her address tho then tell my parents and give them the adress and tell them the story i just hope she tells me.


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Old March 17th, 2008, 07:22 PM   #9
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Old March 17th, 2008, 07:26 PM   #10
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Ok thatl be tomorrow morning on the bus. thank you so much.


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Old March 17th, 2008, 11:08 PM   #11
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I was in this situation, with my 'dad' where, if we had called the police on him, he'd only be in there for one night the next day, well we never found out. But the fear of being murdered wasn't a good fear to live with.

So look at it from this side, when he gets out, he's going to be extra mad, which undeniably means more pain for her, then again, she just gets the police again, and arrest him again. I'm not sure how the entire system works, but as far as I know, after that one time, I wouldn't wanna face him.
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Old March 18th, 2008, 12:24 AM   #12
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ya thats why i am so confused


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Old March 18th, 2008, 07:05 PM   #13
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My solution was to simply get myself kicked out of my home, live with my grandparents, its all I could do.
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ok well i told her but she said "he said he was sry and that i wasnt listening" i thought that wasnt a good reason to hurt her but she said no its ok. so i just told her if she gets in trouble to try that plan out. i just hope shell be ok. but i tried my best and ill be on my gaurd ill ask her how shes doing with her dad every now and then. so ya thanks for the help The Reaper and Leagelbeagle and Ifpiratescouldfly and The sphinx thank you all, i will make sure to keep you ppl updated b/c i have never delt with a problem like this before and i need to learn. and i am.


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Old March 18th, 2008, 09:09 PM   #15
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Learning is probably the best thing ever, so its good you learn. And yes, keep us updated :3
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Old March 19th, 2008, 06:33 PM   #17
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ok so today she talked to me and said something about her mom doing something abusive and her dad not. it confused me but she didnt want to say more so ill ask her tomorrow on the bus. So far i can only help her by listening to her but eh it is workin she does seem more happy now.


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Old March 19th, 2008, 10:48 PM   #18
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i think that maybe you should go to your school counselor and tell him/her what is going on. i know that i was once in an abusive situation and i had no idea how to get out of it, so if i were you i would just go to your school counselor, tell them what is going on, and they will have to do something about it. it's the law here in the U.S. and it will help your friend in the long run. especially since she is afraid. better to do it now, before it gets any worse than what it already is. hang in there and stay strong. you're a good friend and she is lucky to have you!

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Old March 19th, 2008, 10:58 PM   #19
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i think that maybe you should go to your school counselor and tell him/her what is going on. i know that i was once in an abusive situation and i had no idea how to get out of it, so if i were you i would just go to your school counselor, tell them what is going on, and they will have to do something about it. it's the law here in the U.S. and it will help your friend in the long run. especially since she is afraid. better to do it now, before it gets any worse than what it already is. hang in there and stay strong. you're a good friend and she is lucky to have you!
i am? lol ok thanks im just doin what i no is right but still thank you. So today she was a bit confused. She said that her dad had stop and that her mom who lives in san diago is doing something to make him angry. I told that i could help her by calling the police but she doesnt want to risk it so after that i didnt kno what to do but since you mentioned school counseler ill try that. But before i do i gotta tell her about if shes ok with it then ill go but if she doesnt im gonna make sure to ask everyonce in awhile how shes doin with her dad but if he starts bieng abusive well i have no choice but to go to the counseler cause i cant let it happen.


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Old March 19th, 2008, 11:50 PM   #20
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I dont like guidance councelors or however you spell it, mostly because they really don't care in my personal opinion, but if it gets the job done, then yeah, you should tell them.
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