Why do some guys have rape fantasies?

i have been reading some stuff in the internet (not here) and learned that there are lots of guys that get sexually excited when they watch porn where girl is rape (fake rape, not the real read), or read about it, or think about raping a girl.

from what i read, these guys don't go out a rape girls, they just get turned on by thinking about.

i just don't get it. why would they get sexually excited by it?

and it is mental illness if they do?

I don't know if it's a mental illness or not, but all I can say is that they just have a fantasy. A weird one, but a fantasy in the end.

There's some "explanations" here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...rape-fantasies

The article is not exactly about guys having rape fantasies, but the explanations may be related.

Any psychologist around to shed some light?

Originally Posted by Shiny Moon

I don't know if it's a mental illness or not, but all I can say is that they just have a fantasy. A weird one, but a fantasy in the end.

There's some "explanations" here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...rape-fantasies

The article is not exactly about guys having rape fantasies, but the explanations may be related.

Any psychologist around to shed some light?

The answer to that question may be part of the question of why do some women also have rape fantasies?

It might be one of those dominance things, but in my opinion, they’re just sickos

Not for me! I like light bondage tho. Handcuffs and stuff. How a guy (or a girl) can get off on rape fantasy is beyond me. BUT it's just fantasy (until it's not) so no harm i suppose?

Originally Posted by hayley2003

i have been reading some stuff in the internet (not here) and learned that there are lots of guys that get sexually excited when they watch porn where girl is rape (fake rape, not the real read), or read about it, or think about raping a girl.

from what i read, these guys don't go out a rape girls, they just get turned on by thinking about.

i just don't get it. why would they get sexually excited by it?

and it is mental illness if they do?

Speaking as a guy I have never had a fantasy about the act of raping a girl but part of being a male is having predatory type feelings when I see a super beautiful female for the first time, its like an involuntary reaction but I would never hurt a girl. I have talked to a lot of girls who have fantasies of being raped though and get off on thinking about that or reading or even watching the type of porn you mentioned...

The article @Shiny_Moon shared says two-thirds of women have had fantasies about being raped... I don't think as many men have had fantasies about raping girls...


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I get the light bondage and control sexual play stuff it’s fun
But there’s a different realm (sp) where someone (typically younger) who’s experienced sexual trauma. And it’s like reliving that same trauma in a way to have control over something they once did not
And that can come across as a fantasy or whatever
Sorry to give such a visual it’s not pretty I know

i don't know exactly what bondage is, but i think it means people like to get tied up when to sex stuff. i am not sure i under that either, but it might be different because the person likes being tied up.

do some girls like to pretend that they are being raped?

It's like a dominance/power thing. I think it's also a taboo thing as well, like they get turned on by "doing" things that they aren't supposed to be doing.

The people who have rape fantasies would likely never actually rape someone given the opportunity, they just like the idea of doing something that's wrong.

Originally Posted by hayley2003

i don't know exactly what bondage is, but i think it means people like to get tied up when to sex stuff. i am not sure i under that either, but it might be different because the person likes being tied up.

do some girls like to pretend that they are being raped?

Many girls that I’ve talked to like to imagine being raped while they masturbate and in my experience a few girls have wanted me to be rough with them during sex. One girl even said “rape me” tho of course it wasn’t real rape.

you also can ask: Why do some women have getting raped fantasies?

People have different fantasies for different reasons.

It becomes insane if they develop an ever-increasing need to live out their fantasies and their thinking is practically almost 24/7 about that stuff. That imo goes especially for violent fantasies.

I guess it's a dominance thing, that's the only rational (still isn't) way I can imagine any other guy would have that fantasy for. Some guys may just like to be really dominant, although as a guy, i know that guys who like hardcore dominance tend to either be abusive mentally and physically, or a really shitty person. But, in my own opinion i think any guy that gets turned on by the thought of violating a female has psychological issues.