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Old December 23rd, 2017, 11:45 AM   #1
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Unhappy Is he ghosting me or is he busy?

I've been seeing this guy for the past month now and I started realising I'm usually the one to text first. I know it's a bit of a silly game but I decided to not message him until he texts me first. Now we haven't spoken for a week. I'm starting to think he's ghosting me which is hurtful since we have had sex and I don't just do that with anyone. However he seems like a nice guy and it is the holidays so I'm trying not to overthink and taking into consideration that he may just be busy with family. Also he's Jewish and I'm Christian so he knows I'm super busy at this time of year so knows I don't have time to hangout. BUT then I feel like I'm just trying to convince myself he's still interested when he might just be totally done with me lol. What do you guys think?
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Old December 23rd, 2017, 02:00 PM   #2
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Don't wait for him to text-u text him
and c if he answers ur message. Don't
play games.
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Old December 23rd, 2017, 02:29 PM   #3
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This is a really complicated situation. I can't give you some kind of guarantee that he is ghosting but it might be possible. Maybe he has so much to do that he is very busy.

But I had to through something like that too. I think I was in the same situation. It was a long distance relationship so it was more difficult to manage some things.

My Ex used to watch YouTube all the time in our relationship. Sometimes I looked if she was online again after she said she is watching YouTube, she was online in WhatsApp instead. I did not like it and i was a little bit angry if this happens.

She used to phone her best friend too. The called each other and spoke to each other more times than her and I did. I was really jealous at the and I had a reason for it.

Now, i quit the relationship and I am single again. They both are in a relationship now.

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Old December 23rd, 2017, 09:22 PM   #4
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Some people just never initiate conversations or texts. It's just the way they are. You should go ahead and text him and keep the conversations going. Good luck with your relationship.

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Old December 24th, 2017, 03:36 AM   #5
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In my situation this was really bad because in a long distance relationship texting and phoning are the most important ways to keep in touch. She didn't want to text or to phone and the contact to each other got more and more less. It was really sad for me but I try to look forward.

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Old December 24th, 2017, 04:26 AM   #6
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I think it's silly to play games. Especially, during one of the busiest times of the years.

I think that you need to be direct. Being blunt isn't rude, it's being realistic. Call him and ask him if he's still interested. You owe it to yourself to know if you need to move on or if there is actually something between the two of you.

Tag, reply, or PM to let me know how it goes. Good luck!


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Old December 24th, 2017, 09:15 PM   #7
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Some people just aren't big talkers, but at the same time, if he was into you, he would probably text you at least once in a whole week.
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Old December 25th, 2017, 02:47 AM   #8
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I guess many boys or girls have the fear to get on the nerves of him or her. If you text too often, you could be devoted. This is what people don't want.

But I think, if he wants a little bit more from you, he could be more active in this situation.

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Old December 27th, 2017, 10:49 PM   #9
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Hi guys. Thanks for your replies. I messaged him and asked if he still wanted to speak to me and he said he does. We chatted a little then again some more on Christmas Eve but once again it was me initiating conversation. We said we would hang out this week but I haven't heard from him in 4 days. I'm growing increasingly impatient with him. I don't want to waste my time or be lead on by him. What should I do now? Shall I confront him?
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Old December 28th, 2017, 03:27 AM   #10
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I can understand that you don't want to waste your time on him. But you don't have to forget that he has a private life too. He doesn't have to give you a 24/7 record of what he is doing. Maybe he has do prepare for something. I don't know. I would arrange an appointment with him. I think this is better.

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Old December 29th, 2017, 07:21 PM   #11
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Stop playing yourself. Text him and find out for yourself

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Old January 1st, 2018, 10:17 AM   #12
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Hi, I don`t know, I am right or not. But, I guess, you need forgot him. Because, he is not busy (maybe, he is, but most of times, it is just lie). He don`t want leave you with words, sentences, or he don`t want hurt you. But, he is not interested with you. I think so. When you will ask him: do you love me? he will say: yes. But, you can see: look like bother of you. Again, this my guess and sorry for my bad English. Good luck.
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