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Old November 14th, 2017, 01:06 PM   #1
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Question need a opinion what i did with my friend yesterday

So Basically i have been thinking about this..
I'm not sure what this is what friends do really okay let me give you a brief background.

I'm made friends with a 11 year old girl a few weeks ago at a youth club, and only starting coming to her house last week, she always wants me to come to her house probably cause she gets bored easily and wants company/someone to talk to

So yesterday i went to her house talking to each other, went outside for a bit to talk and play around, then went back into calm down and relax, was watching TV i was leaning towards her a bit cause i was feeling a bit tired then we cuddled each other she put my head on my shoulder and i put my head on hers.

i don't see anything wrong with it as much, i just want a opinion on what others think about this. Her parents was also there in the living room with us, not sure if they thought anything bad about it.

I guess i'm just wondering if this is okay, since me being 14 and her being 11 just thought it may be a bit strange.

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Old November 14th, 2017, 01:17 PM   #2
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11 seems really young to me to have a boyfriend, especially one who is 14. But if her parents were in the room, and they seem okay with it, I guess you're fine.
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Old November 14th, 2017, 01:58 PM   #3
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11 seems really young to me to have a boyfriend, especially one who is 14. But if her parents were in the room, and they seem okay with it, I guess you're fine.
Definitely, not boyfriend, just a friend nothing more than that
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Old November 14th, 2017, 03:25 PM   #4
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Definitely, not boyfriend, just a friend nothing more than that
So it wouldn't lead to kissing then or anything? And do you know for sure that she just wants to be friends?
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Sounds like you both being friendly?
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Old November 14th, 2017, 03:37 PM   #6
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I don’t see anything wrong here especially with her parents in the room.
Cuddling or hugging is something you can enjoy without having any plans to go further.
It can just be really nice and pleasant.

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As long as the two of u just remain
friends I don't c anything wrong. She
may have other things in mind as time
goes on like a crush.
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Old November 14th, 2017, 04:22 PM   #8
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So it wouldn't lead to kissing then or anything? And do you know for sure that she just wants to be friends?
I think i can handle myself not to do any kind of things like that.
I'm sure, i did ask her, but she just said we are just friends, like very close friends

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Sounds like you both being friendly?
Yeah i find myself pretty friendly, always try to be caring and kind
And she is very bubbly so yeah, guess that's why she has no care in the world what she does.

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I donít see anything wrong here especially with her parents in the room.
Cuddling or hugging is something you can enjoy without having any plans to go further.
It can just be really nice and pleasant.
Yep as long as nothing else happens, it's fine.
Yeah, i like it a lot felt happy kinda miss it tbh, just not used to it

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goes on like a crush.
Yeah, i get what you mean.
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Old November 14th, 2017, 04:33 PM   #9
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Yeah i find myself pretty friendly, always try to be caring and kind
And she is very bubbly so yeah, guess that's why she has no care in the world what she does.
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Yep as long as nothing else happens, it's fine.
Yeah, i like it a lot felt happy kinda miss it tbh, just not used to it
sounds like u hit it off as good friends!
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I think i can handle myself not to do any kind of things like that.
I'm sure, i did ask her, but she just said we are just friends, like very close friends
Sounds like you got it handled dude.
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Old November 14th, 2017, 09:42 PM   #11
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sounds like u hit it off as good friends!
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Old November 15th, 2017, 04:01 PM   #12
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Sounds like platonic friendship for now. You are both very close, since you cuddle and hug quite early. Plus, even if she does enter a relationship with you, you are 3 years apart, and that is ok for dating, but her being 11 years old is really way too young. She should wait to start dating until she is 15 years old at the youngest, but the same goes for you.
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Old November 15th, 2017, 04:49 PM   #13
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Sounds like platonic friendship for now. You are both very close, since you cuddle and hug quite early. Plus, even if she does enter a relationship with you, you are 3 years apart, and that is ok for dating, but her being 11 years old is really way too young. She should wait to start dating until she is 15 years old at the youngest, but the same goes for you.
Yeah get what you mean, i think we just seem to hugged a lot after the first hug, then we just starting to get used to hugging everytime we saw eachother.
She's childish/immature not saying there's nothing wrong with that, i just think even if we did date wouldn't work out since i'm kinda mature, and don't really like doing stuff like.. Playing outside or going to the park i don't do any of that anymore, but i would for her.

I have dated young as 11 when i was in school, think that's just how it is these days, things change as years go on

Thanks for the opinion Adarest.

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If everyone involved, including her parents were ok with it then I think it's fine. Are you worried about her falling in love with you or something? cause that could get weird.


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Old November 16th, 2017, 04:52 PM   #15
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If everyone involved, including her parents were ok with it then I think it's fine. Are you worried about her falling in love with you or something? cause that could get weird.
I'm only a tiny bit worried about that, but i really just think it's more like a platonic friendship with her, we seem to be happy when we are together.

But things seem to be fine nothing seems to be a issue at all

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Yeah as others have said if itís friendship and nothing more then cool.

Sheís 11 and likely doesnít have many of those ďthoughtsĒ yet so donít overthink.

Iím glad youíre as cool as you are, because there are a lot of creeps out there who would probably take advantage of her naivety and innocence.
Itís good she feels comfortable with you and it sounds like you donít have bad intentions.
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Yeah as others have said if itís friendship and nothing more then cool.

Sheís 11 and likely doesnít have many of those ďthoughtsĒ yet so donít overthink.

Iím glad youíre as cool as you are, because there are a lot of creeps out there who would probably take advantage of her naivety and innocence.
Itís good she feels comfortable with you and it sounds like you donít have bad intentions.
Yeah, thanks Echo.
I honestly haven't really had a friend for awhile and for it to be a girl that's my friend is hard for me to think, do i love her or do i just like her as a friend.

But yeah i understand what you mean there's a lot of people who are weird, and people who can be really mean to her and i try to help her to ignore them things.

She did say she had a "boyfriend" at her school, but i have heard about things about him when her parents was talking about him, that he was saying nasty words to her, but that's 11 year olds for you, they don't understand love very well yet

Anywho, thanks for the opinion, really helps me think
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Just a hunch but maybe youíre questioning if itís ok or not maybe cause you might be developing feelings for her?
Iím sure if you are itís ok, so long as you donít act inappropriate with her
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Yeah, thanks Echo.
I honestly haven't really had a friend for awhile and for it to be a girl that's my friend is hard for me to think, do i love her or do i just like her as a friend.

But yeah i understand what you mean there's a lot of people who are weird, and people who can be really mean to her and i try to help her to ignore them things.

She did say she had a "boyfriend" at her school, but i have heard about things about him when her parents was talking about him, that he was saying nasty words to her, but that's 11 year olds for you, they don't understand love very well yet

Anywho, thanks for the opinion, really helps me think
No problem man.

Yeah I wouldnít doubt it. I was 11 once ( feels ancient now lol ) and yeah you have thoughts about wanting to fuck at that age. But I feel like females take a bit to mature at that young and theyíre easy to manipulate ( unfortunately ) and can easily be forced into things.
I have a 9 year old sister who likes boys in her school, but I know itís just innocent crushes and nothing more.

Good on you for recognizing itís just friendship. The world would be a better place if more 14 year olds thought with the right head like you do.

Youíre cool
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Just a hunch but maybe youíre questioning if itís ok or not maybe cause you might be developing feelings for her?
Iím sure if you are itís ok, so long as you donít act inappropriate with her
Just a thought is all
I think do have feelings for her, but it's also i'm pretty sure that i have never had a friendship with a girl for a long time. Yeah i would never be inappropriate to her, never really am to be honest

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No problem man.

Yeah I wouldnít doubt it. I was 11 once ( feels ancient now lol ) and yeah you have thoughts about wanting to fuck at that age. But I feel like females take a bit to mature at that young and theyíre easy to manipulate ( unfortunately ) and can easily be forced into things.
I have a 9 year old sister who likes boys in her school, but I know itís just innocent crushes and nothing more.

Good on you for recognizing itís just friendship. The world would be a better place if more 14 year olds thought with the right head like you do.

Youíre cool
Yeah get ya, thanks Echo think i'm like this cause i'm pretty quiet and shy so, not a average 14 year old really xD but i can be mischievous when i want to
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