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Old November 10th, 2017, 12:54 PM   #1
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Hi everyone , I am new here so I don't really know how this works but I really need relationship advice .
Well, for the past two weeks I have been dating a guy from my class and we were friends for more than a year before we started dating. I've never been in love with him but he was in love with me so we started dating . At first few days everything seemed to be right and I thought I was falling in love with him too . But , we made a rule that we shouldn't speak or hang out in school because my ex bff is now his bff and she doesn't let him spend time with me . At first it was anoying me that she is telling him what to do and he listens to her but now I know it is better this way . But the thing is that i stopped to even like him . I know that only two weeks passed but I feel like I hate him and I don't want to spend any more time with him . But he loves me so much and he also knows that I am not in love with him but he doesn't know that i can't stand him anymore . He is a great guy but he's just not for me . He is a year younger than and sometimes he acts childish . I feel so bad for him falling in love with me and I don't know how much more I can lie to him that I love him . I want to break up and at the same time I don't . My feelings are mess and I honestly don't know what I am doing anymore . I don't feel right when I am with him and I also don't want to break up because sometimes he is helping me that much that I could never help myself and he is always here for me and he wants to be with me for real . And it is not just him . I have been dating other boys earlier and I felt the same way . I know I am just 16 years old but I am now starting to feel like I will never be able to fall in love and find the right person for me . I really don't know what to do now so if anybody has some advices I would love to hear them .
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Old November 10th, 2017, 12:59 PM   #2
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Old November 10th, 2017, 08:57 PM   #3
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I think this is the emotion of anxiety.

You need to find out where it's coming from, and if deep inside yourself you prefer to be single at this time.
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Old November 11th, 2017, 07:52 AM   #4
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I think this is the emotion of anxiety.

You need to find out where it's coming from, and if deep inside yourself you prefer to be single at this time.
Thank you , I 'll try my best
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Old November 11th, 2017, 06:23 PM   #5
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you just need to be honest with him and try to end things on good terms. If he already knows you don't feel the same way as he does, it shouldn't be too much of a shock for him if you explain that things just aren't working out between the two of you.

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Old November 12th, 2017, 10:31 PM   #6
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i agree, be direct and sincere. i've kinda learned that guys don't understand polite hints like saying "i'm busy" or whatever. they just feel hurt if you don't return their calls or text.

my mom doesn't want me to have a bf, so if a guy starts getting too serious, i tell him that i'm not allowed to have a bf until i'm 35...lol and he can give me a call then, but in the meantime we can be friends...
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Old November 13th, 2017, 07:10 PM   #7
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Most people have several relationships before they find the right person. Let him down easy but do break up with him. He will get over it.

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Old November 14th, 2017, 10:49 PM   #8
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It's nice to see a fellow Serb here.

I suggest you break up with him. It will hurt him less now than later, trust me on that.

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Old November 14th, 2017, 11:48 PM   #9
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It sounds to me like you're looking for our permission or approval to break up with this guy. Well, you were developing feelings for him at one point so I think there's something there. I think that you need to have a frank conversation with him and talk about how you felt about him when you were starting to fall for him and what changed that. Give it a few weeks after that and see what happens.


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Thank you guys a lot , you all really helped me
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