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Old September 26th, 2017, 07:29 AM   #1
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Default Is it acceptable to say 'that's gay'

Almost half of young people (49%) think the term "that's gay" is acceptable to use.
Newsbeat asked YouGov to survey 3,000 18 to 29-year-olds about where they draw the line with offence when it comes to sexuality, race and sexism.

I dont think it is but ive heard it loads of times
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Old September 26th, 2017, 07:31 AM   #2
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I'm gay and I don't care, it is the least of my worries lol. Say what you want.

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Old September 26th, 2017, 07:42 AM   #3
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Yes (free speech, etc.)


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Old September 26th, 2017, 08:13 AM   #4
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I think it depends on the context, the people you're with and the topic at hand. I can see some finding it offensive as it does imply negative connotation of being gay but then again so many people use the term as a throwaway comment and a lot of people get the meaning of it.


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Old September 26th, 2017, 08:24 AM   #5
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As I support free speech I am not a supporter of declaring things as unacceptable to say. I also don't believe in a general right not to be offended.

On the other hand I don't see any point in causing offence for no purpose. If you mean "That's stupid", or "That's foolish" or "That's crazy" then why not say that. Using "gay" as a euphemism for something completely different is just being crass.
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Old September 26th, 2017, 08:25 AM   #6
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It's only offensive if you make it such.
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Old September 26th, 2017, 08:39 AM   #7
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I mean I don't have a problem with it in essence. it's just a word, after all.

The problem I have with it is that you're equating the word "stupid" with the word "gay", as if they were interchangeable. The don't mean anything even remotely similar to each other, therefore to me it is a clear parallel to calling gay people stupid. People may not mean it that way, but in history, that is how the slang originally came up.
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Old September 26th, 2017, 09:17 AM   #8
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As I support free speech I am not a supporter of declaring things as unacceptable to say. I also don't believe in a general right not to be offended.

On the other hand I don't see any point in causing offence for no purpose. If you mean "That's stupid", or "That's foolish" or "That's crazy" then why not say that. Using "gay" as a euphemism for something completely different is just being crass.
Totally agree with that.

I don't feel personally offended by people saying it but just don't get the point why this word has to be used as an euphemism in such a context.
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Old September 26th, 2017, 11:50 AM   #9
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Personally, it does not offend me unless it is being used in a truly derogatory way. My friends and I use that phrase with each other all that time but never for anything serious. We use it to say the equivalent of "that's stupid" or "that's dumb", but we don't look at some and they way they dress, for example, and say "Oh that's so gay". I feel that would be offensive and I would be offended if someone said that to me.

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Old September 26th, 2017, 04:05 PM   #10
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Most of the kids that say that
don't even know they r saying it
cause it is used too frequently.
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Old September 26th, 2017, 06:48 PM   #11
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Most of the kids that say that
don't even know they r saying it
cause it is used too frequently.
Being gay it really doesn't bother me. As Ska8er says many don't even realize that they are saying it and do not necessarily mean it to any certain individual. It is usually an act that has taken place when it is said not to someone in particular.

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Old September 26th, 2017, 08:59 PM   #12
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I'm torn on this one. Generally I don't take personal offense by it as there seem to be far worse things people can say. But I think the problem is that at its root it really is derogatory since it's usually used to refer to something negative. Unfortunately it's become so commonly used that we're almost oblivious to it. Would people feel okay if the phrase was "that's so n*gg*r"? I seriously doubt that would be tolerated. And sorry, those who want to claim "free speech"? That's an excuse for saying things that are rude. Free speech has to come with some responsibility. Just my opinion.
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Old September 26th, 2017, 09:38 PM   #13
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I'm bi so what I think may not be as important but generally I don't care when I hear someone say that. generally when someone says it there not actually being derogatory to gay/same sex attraction. Someone can obviously use it to be demeaning towards people who are gay and that is obviously wrong. in general though, I do not usually give it a second thought when I hear people say it. Is it something people should say? probably not, but whatever

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Old September 26th, 2017, 10:14 PM   #14
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Being bi, I say it sometimes, although I avoid it around certain people for the sake of courtesy because I can't tell people they're not allowed to be offended. When people say gay that way, it's usually not because they think homosexuality is gross, it's because language often evolves so that the same word can have different meanings depending on the context. So I don't think it's a big deal.
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Old September 29th, 2017, 09:40 PM   #15
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Almost half of young people (49%) think the term "that's gay" is acceptable to use.
Newsbeat asked YouGov to survey 3,000 18 to 29-year-olds about where they draw the line with offence when it comes to sexuality, race and sexism.

I dont think it is but ive heard it loads of times
When I was a bit younger and my friends said "gay" or "fag" I got really upset, but I never said anything. Now, I could care less what people say. I've grown a thick skin to offensive words.
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Old October 21st, 2017, 09:25 PM   #16
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I'm usually not offended unless it is used in a derogatory way. But if someone keeps repeating it in a conversation, that I don't like. It also depends on the context it's being used.
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Old October 24th, 2017, 01:38 AM   #17
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Saying that clearly implies that being gay is a negative characteristic and it promotes stereotypes. For that reason it is completely unacceptable. It takes time for these old sayings to lose popularity. Most of the times when it is said it is not meant as an offensive thing.


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Old October 25th, 2017, 08:21 PM   #18
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Free Speech is important but there is no reason to use derogatory terms to promote stereotypes and give general unnecessary hate and so I guess it is down to the context it is used in as to where the line should be drawn with offensive terms towards gay people
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Old October 26th, 2017, 11:10 AM   #19
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Honestly, I have no quarrel with people calling things "gay". I do it myself. I also don't particularly care about words like "faggot" but that's just because I'm a big believer in that words mean nothing unless they're meant to be used with contemptment. If someone came up to me and said "you're a disgusting fucking faggot", then I'd be a bit more inclined to be offended rather than if someone just jokingly called me gay or faggot.


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Old October 26th, 2017, 02:49 PM   #20
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IMHO...it's rude to use the term "it's gay". There are other sayings you can use in place of that which is so offensive.
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