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View Poll Results: What should i do about my brother touching me in my sleep?
Should i just say nothing 6 5.36%
Should i see if it happens again and see where it goes 39 34.82%
Should i just be honest and direct and approach him. 57 50.89%
Should i pack my things and go to Hoggwartz :p 10 8.93%
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Old February 23rd, 2017, 12:14 PM   #1
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Hi, so I am a 15yo bi male. I have a lot of siblings all brothers. The other night I woke up to my 12 yo brother holding my penis. I looked and saw he was holding his as if he was comparing them. He only held them both for a couple seconds then he left. I have gone through this with my older brother. I know being curious is natural and being curious about your older brothers and size differences and puberty is normal as well.. However, all my other brothers and I could talk about it and express our curiosity. This little brother has never said anything to me or expressed any curiosity at all until this happened. I am a very heavy sleeper and I wondering if he has not done this before. I just don't know how to approach him without making him feel ashamed or embarrassed.

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Old February 23rd, 2017, 01:22 PM   #2
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Be friendly helpful brother that makes him comfortable to talk with you about puberty. React positively to him in all situations. You are in a position to be great help to him.
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Old February 23rd, 2017, 01:28 PM   #3
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I am very open as where all my older brothers to me. I understand that it is a natural part of puberty. I am ok with his curiosity. I just don't know how to confront him out him touching me when I am asleep instead of talking to me and why he feels he can't talk to me
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Old February 23rd, 2017, 01:37 PM   #4
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That sounds extremely creepy, you should tell him it is not okay to grope anyone non-consensually. That's the main issue here.

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Old February 23rd, 2017, 01:58 PM   #5
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I do not want to make him feel ashamed or embarrassed about his curiosity though.
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Old February 23rd, 2017, 03:58 PM   #6
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I do not want to make him feel ashamed or embarrassed about his curiosity though.
there are better ways for him to explain his curiosity though than to go fondling someone in their sleep.

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Old February 23rd, 2017, 03:59 PM   #7
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I agree Black but I want to be gentle and not make him think I am mad at him non the less
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Old February 23rd, 2017, 04:11 PM   #8
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Just start off by asking him in to your room and sit him next to you when you know both of you have time on your own. Speak softly (no raised voices) and tell him that you don't mind and are happy to answer any of his questions. How far you go in showing anything is up to you. He could be more terrified if you "wake up unexpectedly" whilst he was doing something when you are asleep again. I think he would appreciate it more.
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Old February 23rd, 2017, 04:12 PM   #9
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I agree Black but I want to be gentle and not make him think I am mad at him non the less
that's fine, you don't have to be mean to him...but you should still let him know that sort of thing is usually inappropriate. If he wants to talk about things, let him know you're available to do so.

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Old February 23rd, 2017, 04:13 PM   #10
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Yea that is why I didn't yell at him when I woke up. I just waited a few seconds and he left.
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Old February 23rd, 2017, 04:45 PM   #11
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Even if you don't mind being the recipient of the touching I think it important that your brother understands that when touching someone there it is important to ask first. So I think you should have a conversation with him. Something along the lines of "I don't know if you realised but I woke up while you were touching my penis last night. While there isn't anything wrong with touching someone like that, and while it can be fun for both people, it is only ok to do it if you have asked first and the person has said yes".

Where you go after that depends on what you are comfortable with. Hopefully as part of that you will enourage him to talk and make it plain it is better to talk than to feel weird about things.
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Old February 23rd, 2017, 05:36 PM   #12
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Yea thank you for the advice
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Even if you don't mind being the recipient of the touching I think it important that your brother understands that when touching someone there it is important to ask first. So I think you should have a conversation with him. Something along the lines of "I don't know if you realised but I woke up while you were touching my penis last night. While there isn't anything wrong with touching someone like that, and while it can be fun for both people, it is only ok to do it if you have asked first and the person has said yes".

Where you go after that depends on what you are comfortable with. Hopefully as part of that you will enourage him to talk and make it plain it is better to talk than to feel weird about things.
This. What I will add is how it would sound should the story get out, or your parents find out. People may assume the worst, given that he is still a child and you didn't stop/report his behaviour straight away. That could turn ugly quickly. Especially if you told him not to tell, that just sounds worse. At least if you have the above conversation you are more covered.

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Old February 23rd, 2017, 07:44 PM   #14
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He's your younger brother and you're help him grow up. How about telling him that our bodies belong to us and people need permission before they can touch. Then ask him if he has any questions.

Don't treat it like it's/he's weird. Treat it matter of factly.

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Old February 23rd, 2017, 07:47 PM   #15
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Thank you for the advice :p
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He should not have touched your with your knowledge and consent. But since he is only 12, I would give him the benefit of the doubt.
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Old February 23rd, 2017, 10:35 PM   #17
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I do give him the benefit of the doubt and ty for your advice
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Old February 23rd, 2017, 10:39 PM   #18
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He should not have touched your with your knowledge and consent. But since he is only 12, I would give him the benefit of the doubt.
I agree. You should teach him that touching without consent isn't appropriate, and that he should come to you or your parents and ask questions he may have, instead of hiding it and trying to figure out himself.

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Old February 23rd, 2017, 10:40 PM   #19
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I agree Black but I want to be gentle and not make him think I am mad at him non the less
But you should be mad and you should tell him so. Whether you know it or not and whether you liked it or not he violated and molested you. Moving forward let him know he can ask you anything and that family is forever so you will help him. Imo if you are open with him about puberty he will be open with you. I'm 17 and my 13yo brother knows he can ask me anything.
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Old February 24th, 2017, 09:58 AM   #20
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Thanks for the advice Iron and Harrier
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