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Old August 27th, 2016, 09:02 PM   #1
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I have a cousin that's 3 years younger than me, and he doesn't have any bros, so basically I'm the only guy he can talk to. The other day he approached me and asked me many questions related to puberty, will his penis grow, will he have pubes like me, pimples, will his dick be massive like mine one day, what type of underwear should he wear etc etc.... I told him I could tell him later, and I think it's time I tell him. Before I do I wanted some suggestions of things I should tell him out talk to him about, any thing I should introduce him to (porn, jacking off). Please help me, give me any ideas to help me talk to my cousin about puberty. Thanks!!
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Old August 27th, 2016, 10:47 PM   #2
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Just tell him what you do and if he has any other questions answer them. A lot of people learn to jack off from cousins or other male friends so you could show him.
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Old August 28th, 2016, 02:29 AM   #3
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They teach this stuff in sex ed.
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Old August 28th, 2016, 03:11 AM   #4
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I have a cousin that's 3 years younger than me, and he doesn't have any bros, so basically I'm the only guy he can talk to. The other day he approached me and asked me many questions related to puberty, will his penis grow, will he have pubes like me, pimples, will his dick be massive like mine one day, what type of underwear should he wear etc etc.... I told him I could tell him later, and I think it's time I tell him. Before I do I wanted some suggestions of things I should tell him out talk to him about, any thing I should introduce him to (porn, jacking off). Please help me, give me any ideas to help me talk to my cousin about puberty. Thanks!!
I think it is appropriate to talk with your cousin as long as you do not ever get physical with him. Tell him the truth as best you know it, and explain to him the changes that he should expect and how is the best way to handle them. Talk about guy stuff be it underwear, erections, body hygiene, etc. because all of that is needed.

As for penis stuff, it is fine to talk to him about how his penis will grow and to expect that he will get hair around it and that he may (if he has not already done so) start making semen and sperm. Explain how he should always be responsible because his sperm can easily make someone pregnant if he does not take precautions.

You can talk to the kid about masturbation, but definitely do not jack off with him. You can use a prop like a banana to describe masturbating, and you can go over lube and techniques. I would say the most you can ever do is probably be in the room as he jacks off for the first time as long as you are not touching him. You can only supervise and nothing more.

Porn is a tough topic, but since many boys watch it between 12-18 you cannot deny its existence. Just tell him that he needs to be careful around it so that he does not get addicted and that porn is not reality. He can admire the human body, but he just needs to understand that what he is seeing is generally not what the average person does otherwise porn would have a hard time finding viewers if it was ordinary sex.

As for sex, everything depends on your family's morality and whether or not pre-marital sex is allowed. If it is allowed in your family to have sex once one becomes a teenager, then talking to the kid about protection and how his partner should be on birth control (assuming he likes girls) is fine. If having sex before marriage is not allowed, then explain why your family believes that and why you support it (if you do).
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Old August 28th, 2016, 03:36 AM   #5
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Massive-Huh? Anyway y not just ask him
the questions he has u will b able to answer
them for him-y do u need suggestions-just
let him know u r there for him and b honest.
U know the answers.
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Old August 28th, 2016, 08:32 AM   #6
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I would be as open and honest with him as you can. It is better to learn these things from a trusted male relative rather than friends at school or the internet. My question is how did he know about your pubes and size?
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Old August 28th, 2016, 09:02 AM   #7
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no porn. and you can direct him to puberty sites that explain masturbation as well as upcoming changes to his body
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Old August 28th, 2016, 09:38 AM   #8
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I have a cousin that's 3 years younger than me, and he doesn't have any bros, so basically I'm the only guy he can talk to. The other day he approached me and asked me many questions related to puberty, will his penis grow, will he have pubes like me, pimples, will his dick be massive like mine one day, what type of underwear should he wear etc etc.... I told him I could tell him later, and I think it's time I tell him. Before I do I wanted some suggestions of things I should tell him out talk to him about, any thing I should introduce him to (porn, jacking off). Please help me, give me any ideas to help me talk to my cousin about puberty. Thanks!!
How old are you and how old is your cousinly?
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Old August 28th, 2016, 05:38 PM   #9
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Depending on his age, I think it would depend on how deep or to what level you get I to this stuff with him. I'd answer his questions as si ply and as direct as possible. Answer his questions without offering any more info than what he's asking. If he come up with more questions from there just keep doing the same thing.

If you start feeling uncomfortable with it, just say ok that's enough for now and we'll talk again late or something like that.

As far as his knowledge or your developments in puberty, how would he know how much pubes you have and how big your dick is anyways?

I get your cousins, but if he knows those things he probably knows more than you might think
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Old August 28th, 2016, 06:25 PM   #10
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Just anwserr is questuion and if he ask about porn or jacking off tell him about it
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Old August 28th, 2016, 06:51 PM   #11
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There is a great resource for boys. This is NOT a porn site but it is very informative.

http://www.jackinworld.com/
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Old August 28th, 2016, 08:11 PM   #12
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I think be as open as you are willing to be. I'm a single child and would have loved to had someone help me out with that growing up.

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Old August 28th, 2016, 08:56 PM   #13
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I have a cousin that's 3 years younger than me, and he doesn't have any bros, so basically I'm the only guy he can talk to. The other day he approached me and asked me many questions related to puberty, will his penis grow, will he have pubes like me, pimples, will his dick be massive like mine one day, what type of underwear should he wear etc etc.... I told him I could tell him later, and I think it's time I tell him. Before I do I wanted some suggestions of things I should tell him out talk to him about, any thing I should introduce him to (porn, jacking off). Please help me, give me any ideas to help me talk to my cousin about puberty. Thanks!!
It depend on how comfortable you are with your cousin. Also depend on how old r you and him. If your cousin didnt ask u about porn or jack off just leave it. If he is interesting about those stuff. It up to you to decide. I have a older sis so I dont have a brother. My older cousin did teach me stuff try stuff when I am around 14-15 and I have taught my younger cousin about these stuff recently. Answer what he ask and do what you feel comfortable with him is the best way.

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Old August 28th, 2016, 10:13 PM   #14
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I think be as open as you are willing to be. I'm a single child and would have loved to had someone help me out with that growing up.

Yeah me too, I wish I had an older guy that would have taught me this stuff growing up! So yeah I think just be open and honest with him, give him as much info as he wants, you don't have to tell him everything right now but let him know you are there for him if he has questions.
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Old August 29th, 2016, 02:17 AM   #15
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I'd just answer his questions. I'm sure he will probably ask about porn at some point, and I think it would be okay for you to introduce him to it if he brings it up.
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Tell him about it all but not porn he will find that in his own time
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Old August 29th, 2016, 07:12 AM   #17
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Some good advice already, especially from Second Chance. What I would add is let him lead it. You said he was asking questions and perhaps the biggest thing you can do for him is demonstrate that it's fine to ask that kind of question and that you are not embarassed to answer them honestly. Answering questions rather than giving him a lecture will mean that he goes at his own pace.

You can still impart a decent amount of impormation is you give decent, full answers to the questions so, for example, answer the question of "will my dick get as big as yours" instead of answering "maybe", or "probably" you could go for something like "People end up different sizes when fully grown just like some people are tall and others shorter but it will certainly grow a lot and quickly during puberty. You'll probably find it gets hard a lot too, you'll want to examine it in details and probably want to play with it too and that's all fine".

You get the idea?

On questions such as porn you can tell him how you feel but maybe also mention that other people have others views on such things.
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Old August 29th, 2016, 08:52 AM   #18
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My cousin is 22 and has answered questions for me, but I wouldn't have asked him to show me how to masturbate or have him let me look at porn. We are OK changing clothes together so we have seen each other naked lots of times over the years. I did ask questions about the difference in our penises and stuff. He suggested I join this site so I could hear from other boys my age what they are going through. It's really helped me. @Sanchez16620 maybe you should have your cousin join.
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As far as what you should talk to him about you've just got to the the conversation develop naturally and don't try to force it. Answer him honestly and you'll be fine. I've talked to my younger brother about everything.

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