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Old December 8th, 2013, 07:00 PM   #1
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I wasn't sure exactly where to put this post, as it doesn't really fall into the "Sexuality" category but it somewhat does fall into the "Mental Illness" Category. If an admin could tell me where exactly this falls into, that would be great.

Anyways, in order to explain my problem I need to go back to 6th grade. I started masturbating around that time, and one of the first things I thought about was my mom. It made me feel very... Odd. Like it was WAY better than thinking about anything else or watching porn, but at the same time afterwards it always made me feel like total shit. A scumbag. A pervert. Etc. So, I looked online and did some research about it. I found out that it was actually quite common amongst young boys, and that they typically grew out of it. I was semi-relived, and for the meantime I just dealt with it, and tried to use other things so that I wouldn't think about my mom. Sadly, most of the time, images of her would pop into my head while I was masturbating and I would then finish with thinking about her and fantasizing. As the years went on, it didn't stop. I was having wet dreams about her practically every other day. I was having trouble talking to her at all because every time I saw her, I would imagine what it would be like to... You get the point. Now it's been five years and the torture is still never ending, the only good side is my libido is going down a tiny bit and so I'm not horny all the time and therefore thinking about her all the time. Yet, I still feel horrible. I'm depressed almost every other week. Furthermore, I am wondering as to whether or not it's affecting my ability to have a relationship because so far I have asked out five girls, and each time I was rejected. This may or may not be a coincidence, but I'm still wondering.

You may not understand what I'm going through, and I certainly don't expect you to, but does anybody have some advice? Aside from going to a therapist because there is NO way I could ever tell anybody this that knows who I am.

Thank you.

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Old December 8th, 2013, 08:20 PM   #2
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Unfortunately a therapist is the only person who can help
you deal with something like that. Having had therapy what
they do is get you to understand why you have certain thoughts.
Basically buried stuff comes to the surface and you are able to
see it and then deal with it. This has nothing to do with you as
a person. It is more like a short circuit in your brain that needs
to be fixed.
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Old December 8th, 2013, 08:25 PM   #3
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That would be impossible for me. How would YOU explain to someone that you lust after your own mother? Yeah, it's not easy. Thank you anyways though

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Old December 10th, 2013, 12:41 AM   #4
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Well therapist is the only one really. You'd want to see a therapist tat deals with this type of thing. You are not the only one, believe me what ever weird things you do some one else out there has the same problem and is just as scared to say anything.

Therapy is completely confidential so no one would ever know. You could also look into over the phone therapy for it and use a fake name or nick name. Some places do this as well. Hotlines mostly, do some research

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Old December 10th, 2013, 01:46 PM   #5
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Well therapist is the only one really. You'd want to see a therapist tat deals with this type of thing. You are not the only one, believe me what ever weird things you do some one else out there has the same problem and is just as scared to say anything.

Therapy is completely confidential so no one would ever know. You could also look into over the phone therapy for it and use a fake name or nick name. Some places do this as well. Hotlines mostly, do some research
Well, I know that it's confidential.... But still.. Thanks for the advice. Are there any online therapist services that are free, cause I don't want my mom to overhear me if I'm on the phone and I can't just leave the house for no reason just to make a phone call. My mom would get suspicious.

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Old December 12th, 2013, 12:34 PM   #6
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Well, I know that it's confidential.... But still.. Thanks for the advice. Are there any online therapist services that are free, cause I don't want my mom to overhear me if I'm on the phone and I can't just leave the house for no reason just to make a phone call. My mom would get suspicious.
Do some looking. I know boystown national hotline advertises on TV all the time about being able to talk confidentially about anything. When they ask for your info just tell them you prefer to remain anonymous and they won't care. They do that mainly for crisis situations where cops may need to be called.
They may also know another free line that deals with your type of issue more spevificly.

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Old December 12th, 2013, 12:35 PM   #7
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Oh and the hotline I mentioned above has an online chat thing too that is confidential. As well as phone and I thought I seen text too but idk

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Oh and the hotline I mentioned above has an online chat thing too that is confidential. As well as phone and I thought I seen text too but idk
Thank you, I'll be sure to look into it.

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Old December 15th, 2013, 11:30 PM   #9
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Thank you, I'll be sure to look into it.
Best of luck!

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How would YOU explain to someone that you lust after your own mother?
All I would need to say is that I have an Oedipus complex.
Millions of guys have had those kinds of feelings from what
I have read it is not all that uncommon.
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