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Old September 28th, 2013, 07:27 PM   #1
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Hi guys. My name is Morgan. Last week when i was at my boyfriends house, my boyfriends father raped me. I am scared to report what happened, and I dont know how to tell my boyfriend that his dad raped me, as he's really close to his father. Im really scared that if i dont report it, its going to happen again, either to me or someone else. I dont know what to do. Please help!
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Old September 28th, 2013, 07:44 PM   #2
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You are right that you need to report it. Do it NOW. You could have an STD, be pregnant, or seriously hurt in another way. Call 911 (in USA). Tell your mom or dad. Even your boyfriend. You need to get help, and you're absolutely right, if you don't report it it could very well happen again. Try and get him in trouble, because if he doesn't he could very well hurt another girl. Please, for your own sake and possibly for other girls, tell someone now.

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Old September 28th, 2013, 07:45 PM   #3
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Tell your boyfriend and talk to your parents about it. Might want to bring it to the police aswell if you wish. It was a wrong move on his father. And you're right, if you dont report it, it might happen again. It is a possibility that your BF will back you up, and if his father goes to jail, he might still be with you. However if your BF is mad, you might just have to stop with him. Your safety is first, there are plenty of others out there.

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Old September 28th, 2013, 07:47 PM   #4
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Im really scared that i wont be taken seriously. I don't know what to do.

Im afraid to report it, besides, there's no evidence that i was raped other than my word.

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Old September 28th, 2013, 07:50 PM   #5
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First off. It was last week...dont call 911 about it. Use the local Non emergency line (Im in the police explorer program....some places are really picky, if the assault didnt occur within the past 30 minutes, they can/will give you a citation for 911 abuse....it happens, It ties up their emergency lines since its not in progress.)

But like I said in my other post, talk to your boyfriend and your parents. Call the Local Non-Emergency number or local PD during business hours. (911 can get you a citation for 911 abuse since its not in progress/occured in the last 30 minutes). If you have to break up with your boyfriend, then do it. There are plenty of other people. Who knows, if the father goes to jail, your boyfriend may stay with you since he knows his father was wrong.

EDIT: You will be taken seriously if he admits to it or if you somehow have proof. If you are the only one that was there during the raping, all they can do is talk to him about it to get him to admit it. Because if he doesnt admit it, how do they know that you just arent fooling the system?

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Old September 28th, 2013, 07:54 PM   #6
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I took a shower as soon as i got home, and i washed the clothes that i had been wearing. Im really scared because i dont want to hav e to relive what happened, and not have him punished for what he did to me.
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Old September 28th, 2013, 07:55 PM   #7
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Im afraid to report it, besides, there's no evidence that i was raped other than my word.
Why not report it? Either way the police are gonna talk to him, and you can get a no-contact order against him. That way he cant be within a certain distance or talk to you. That's only against his father, you can still talk with you boyfriend (Unless the father says its not allowed)

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Old September 28th, 2013, 07:56 PM   #8
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It must be the hardest thing to do but i think u need to sit down and tell ur boyfriend.
u have been violated and u must be strong and make a decision.
If you report it, it will be hard as your name and case may become public in the media but you really have to tell ur boyfriend.
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Old September 28th, 2013, 07:58 PM   #9
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Because i dont want to have to relive it. Im really scared that it will be for nothing because there is no evidence.

Im really scared

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Old September 28th, 2013, 08:04 PM   #10
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You dont have to relive it. You tell the police your story. Police like to pressure people. Once they get your story, they will go try to pressure him into confessing. And 90% of the time it works (According to my police explorer leader, who is a police chief)

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Old September 28th, 2013, 08:06 PM   #11
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You dont have to relive it. You tell the police your story. Police like to pressure people. Once they get your story, they will go try to pressure him into confessing. And 90% of the time it works (According to my police explorer leader, who is a police chief)
Really?
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Old September 28th, 2013, 08:08 PM   #12
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Thats according to what I was taught in my police explorer class. You can also get a no contact order with him aswell, which will not let him contact you or be within a certain distance.

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Old September 28th, 2013, 08:10 PM   #13
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How do i tell my boyfriend what his dad did to me? What if he doesn't believe me? What then?
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Old September 28th, 2013, 08:12 PM   #14
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Just tell him straight up, If he doesnt believe you, thats his problem. It shows that he doesnt trust/believe in you, which is a problem in your relationship right there.

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Old September 28th, 2013, 08:14 PM   #15
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I haven't told anyone yet about what happened. How do i tell my parents?
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Old September 28th, 2013, 08:16 PM   #16
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Straight out tell them that you were raped by your boyfriends father. They are there to help/support you.

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Old September 28th, 2013, 08:17 PM   #17
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I haven't told anyone yet about what happened. How do i tell my parents?
I'd suggest going to them FIRST. They will know what to do and how to handle it better than you can. Parents know how to get the job done.

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Old September 28th, 2013, 08:18 PM   #18
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What if they dont believe me?
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Old September 28th, 2013, 08:19 PM   #19
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You know they will. They're your parents. They would be jerks if they didnt belive you, dont you think? All parents...well, most parents care about their children and want to protect them. Of course they will belive you.

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Old September 28th, 2013, 08:20 PM   #20
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What if they dont believe me?
They are your parents. They are not going to think you are joking about a topic this serious.

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