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Old December 11th, 2007, 04:07 PM   #1
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Its not really that big a problem, im just wondering if anyone has any advice

So theres this kid and his friends that walk the same way home as me and my friends. For about 2 weeks - 1 month now he has been bullying me on my way home (i dont know if bullying is the right word, he just pointlessly harrasses, calls me names and pesters me for no reason) and Ive not done anything about it. So Im wondering if anyone has any ideas what i should do. I wont tell any adults/teachers/parents etc so please dont suggest that. As I said before though, its not that big a problem, if he pushes me over the edge ill put him in hospital.

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Old December 11th, 2007, 05:43 PM   #2
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I know how hard it is but maybe you SHOULD tell someone. Have you done anything wrong to him? If you have apologize. Next time he does that, just ask him [nicely, mind you] to stop.

Overall, tell someone.
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Old December 11th, 2007, 05:59 PM   #3
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I havent done anything wrong as far as i know. Im one of the few people that dont laugh at him and treat him differently in school. The reason I havent already fought him is because:
1. I prefer to only retaliate with violence, not start it
2. I have too many things going on in my life to get suspended from school
Ive asked him a few times to stop but he doesnt listen, Ill give him 1 more chance tommorow to stop, if he doesnt then ill get him on the way back from school
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Old December 11th, 2007, 06:41 PM   #4
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It sounds like you've already decided on how you're going to handle this, right? You're going to give him 'one more chance' before you bash him. Eventhough you recognize that violence isn't a good thing, and that there's some risk here that you'll get into trouble as a result. So, he's asking for it, right? You think he deserves it.

I suppose everyone has their limit, but you might try to recognize that what he's doing isn't actually threatening you in some vital way, it's more of an annoyance. As such, maybe this is an opportunity to practice self control. Blowing him away (using physical force) with someone who is annoying you with just their words might be an over reaction. Try ignoring it, or, maybe better, laugh loudly and heartily when he teases you. Most don;t ppreciate when their taunts are experienced as humorous, it's really the opposite response they're expecting. And, if he doesn't get what he wants from you, he's more likely to stop.

Just because you 'can' respond violently doesn't mean it's called for. Use some judgement here. True power is always used with discretion.
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Old December 11th, 2007, 07:34 PM   #5
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If he is just.. Stupid from the head ignore it.. If he is not beat him up.

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Old December 12th, 2007, 05:02 AM   #6
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If you dont want to tell anybody, and you dont think you can continue to ignore him, just fight him (if you know you can win!) at he wont ever annoy you again.

PS - even if you cant beat him, showing him that you can stand up for yourself is a massive start. He might even stop after just trying.
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Old December 12th, 2007, 12:01 PM   #7
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No violence isn't the answer here, when someone bully's you they expect a reaction. And if you don't give them a reaction thats 10X worse then beating them up. If you simply ignore it or counter attack him with kindness he won't feel its worth while to bully you any more.

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Old December 12th, 2007, 12:23 PM   #8
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Yeah, I can stand up for myself. Ive tried the not reacting thing, but it doesnt work because its his friends giving the reaction by laughing. The sad thing is that everyone laughs at him in school. But like i said, ill give him 1 more chance
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Old December 12th, 2007, 05:19 PM   #9
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Well it seems that the kid has issues and is taking them out on you, maybe try talking to him when his friends aren't around and nicely tell him that it is not right to make fun of you and that you would like him to stop.
I would treat this situation like he doesn't know how to deal with his problems, you beating him up won't help him at all.

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Old December 12th, 2007, 05:31 PM   #10
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I know everyone says "Don't let them see that it gets to you" and "Don't react to them" but it doesn't work. I was bullied relentlessly for years because I never stood up to them. I pretended I couldn't hear them etc.

I'm not condoning violence. But stand up to him. Show him that you are not scared and that you wont take his shit. Dont beat the shit out of him. Just challenge the situation.


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Old December 12th, 2007, 05:59 PM   #11
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Yeh, tryed the whole standing up thing when he started it, doesnt work. I doubt that I could talk to him alone though, im too busy. Ill tell him to stop it on the way home from school, If not then ill try a different way. Oh and yeah it looks like he has issues, people laugh at him and hate him, Im just pissed off because he is taking it out on me.
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Old December 12th, 2007, 06:04 PM   #12
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Maybe I am just evil.. But I would give him a good smack.. Or be very convincing.

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Old December 12th, 2007, 06:10 PM   #13
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If he really has not responded to anything else then punching him seems like the only thing that will actually get through to him.
I'm not talking about just "losing it" and beating the shit out of him. Just a couple of controlled and well placed punches.


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Old December 12th, 2007, 06:28 PM   #14
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Yeah, its his friends jumping in that i have to watch out for though, If they did that my friends would jump in too (I dont want them to get hurt though...) which would be really bad. Anyways tho, thanks for the help on the matter everyone, ill give him his last chance tommorow
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