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Old July 27th, 2012, 09:53 PM   #1
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i think my boyfriend has biopolar
he gets really angry over the littlest things
the other day i accidentally disconnected his play station and he threw a fit and started calling me a bitch and raised his hand to me but he didnt strike me. but could it happen? could he possibly hit me
he says he would never hurt me and he loves me very much but should i believe it?
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Old July 28th, 2012, 06:38 PM   #2
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Well, if your boyfriend can do that without apologizing I'd recommend leaving him. I wouldn't do something like that to a girl that I was with, but even if I 'somehow' did, I would have apologized later.

Just for disconnecting his playstation c_c?
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Old July 28th, 2012, 06:43 PM   #3
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If he gets that mad over you disconnecting his playstation, he has serious anger issues and it is very possible that they could get worse. He sounds like an asshole.
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Old July 28th, 2012, 06:49 PM   #4
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that's emotional abuse and no you should not believe him if he will raise his hand to you then he will hit you eventually
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Old July 28th, 2012, 07:38 PM   #5
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i really want to like agree with you guys but some part of me says hes better than that. but will he actually hurt me?
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Old July 28th, 2012, 08:51 PM   #6
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i really want to like agree with you guys but some part of me says hes better than that. but will he actually hurt me?
Sweetheart no one can judge that but you. We don't know him, and probably never will. Have you spoken to him about it?



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Old July 28th, 2012, 10:05 PM   #7
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yes we have discussed it since and he apologizes over and over and over and says he would never hurt me... and i am hoping he is being serious
i dont wannt to lose the best thing that has ever happened to me
but idk if what i am going through is healthy
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Old July 28th, 2012, 10:06 PM   #8
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he doesnt sound pleasant you should end it before it gets worse. that'll teach him a lesson

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Old July 29th, 2012, 12:13 AM   #9
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That sounds like it could turn into something more over time, but of course I don't know him so like everyone else I cannot say for sure. While this is your decision and you should ultimately do what you feel is right, it seems to me that it would be safest and healthiest to leave him. Even if he never hits you, it sounds like he could potentially be emotionally abusing you, which can be scarring and damaging as well.

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Old July 29th, 2012, 08:16 AM   #10
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Well, if your boyfriend can do that without apologizing I'd recommend leaving him. I wouldn't do something like that to a girl that I was with, but even if I 'somehow' did, I would have apologized later.

Just for disconnecting his playstation c_c?
totally - ditch that loser, he is a ticking timebomb and you deserve better
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Old July 29th, 2012, 08:54 AM   #11
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Wow what a gamer lol.But if he dose it again say stop.Or end it
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Old July 30th, 2012, 07:52 PM   #12
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Like others have said, I don't know your boyfriend but the fact that he was on the verge of turning violent about something so trivial, is definitely a red flag.

If I were you, I would give him another chance but I would be on the lookout for any sort of similar aggressive behaviour in the future. If he does something like this again, then I would end the relationship no matter how many times he tries to apologize, because that would mean that he's not a safe person to be with.
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Old August 1st, 2012, 03:42 AM   #13
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Yes, what he did is considered abuse. Its known as emotional abuse, considering you were more than likely hurt by being called a bitch. Just because he got mad doesn't mean he's bipolar, he could have severely bad anger issues. Being bipolar is kind of like having mood swings, where you're happy, then sad, then angry, then depressed, etc.


You can give him another chance, but be clear that if he ever talks to you like that again or even attempts to strike you, you will be gone. No matter what you do, there is no reason for him to be abusive.
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Old August 1st, 2012, 11:56 AM   #14
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It is abuse, and for your safety, I would leave. What he did is not acceptable.
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Old August 1st, 2012, 01:13 PM   #15
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It seems like he could abuse you, be careful and go public places instead of in his/your house. If he touches you, leave him.
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Old August 25th, 2012, 10:00 PM   #16
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ok thanks for all the advice but now ik that hes a good man and he wont hurt a fly. he just had a very stressful day that day. and he doesnt stop with the "sorry" which now i just think is cute lol. but anyways for those of u who keep talking bad about him, please watch what u say cause u have no idea who he is. now for everyone else thank u for not jumping to judgementle coments and replys.
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Old August 26th, 2012, 08:43 PM   #18
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Possibly. Perhaps you should ask his parents if he is?



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Old August 27th, 2012, 01:20 PM   #19
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I know you say you've talked through and that's good but just be wary about it, especially if it happens again (which I'm not saying it will... But, you never know).

I've seen the aftermath of what happens when people are in abusive relationships and it isn't pretty... Trust me. If you start feeling threatened or scared of him, whether its something he says or does, put some space between you.

And just another thing, my girlfriend's ex (who she got abused by) was very good with words, so be careful.

I hope it was just a one time thing down to stress but, like I said, be careful

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Old September 1st, 2012, 01:08 PM   #20
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i really want to like agree with you guys but some part of me says hes better than that. but will he actually hurt me?
Unfortunately I've seen this kind of behaviour before. Please don't get upset, but it seems to me that you're having a hard time accepting that HE can behave like that just because it's something that YOU would never do. I've learned the hard way that the person you love is not always the person who you think or hope they are.

Some people get abusive and violent over the smallest of things. They have a problem that they need to solve by themselves. You really can't help in that and will probably get hurt even more in the long run if you just keep hoping for the best.

Hope things work out for you!
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