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Old March 17th, 2012, 11:06 PM   #1
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This is gonna be long but I dont care.A few months ago my mom asked me if I wanted to meet my real dad.I said no because it would hurt my stepdad. I now regret it and have no one to talk to about it.its slowly eating away at me and i dont know what to do
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Old March 18th, 2012, 12:10 AM   #2
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Corny but follow your heart. If you really want to meet him, give it a try. And if your step dad get disappointed; which I doubt, then explain to him that all you want to do is meet the person who's your blood. Good luck.
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Old March 18th, 2012, 12:56 AM   #3
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Corny but follow your heart. If you really want to meet him, give it a try. And if your step dad get disappointed; which I doubt, then explain to him that all you want to do is meet the person who's your blood. Good luck.
^ Great advice. Just like skep said,follow your heart. Perhaps it's too early? maybe you need a bit of time before your ready to meet your dad. Maybe you can talk to him on the phone or chat through the internet before meeting him in person. If the guilt is really eating away at you, then you might as well get it over with and meet him. It's all up to you.
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Old March 18th, 2012, 06:15 AM   #4
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You ought to explain to your mom that you don't want to hurt your stepdad but you just want to meet your birthdad. It's not like he'll be replacing your stepdad in anyway, its just that you want to meet him. Good luck
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Old March 18th, 2012, 10:19 PM   #5
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i found out i have half sisters and they want too meet me~once again i said no and dont know why
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Old March 18th, 2012, 10:25 PM   #6
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i found out that i have half sisters that want to meet me.IM LOST
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Old March 19th, 2012, 01:05 AM   #7
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What's honestly stopping you from meeting them?
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Old March 19th, 2012, 12:57 PM   #8
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It sounds like you may be having some fear over meeting your dad and half sisters. You can take this a step at a time. Maybe a phone call first. That way you can break the ice and not be all in yet. That might help you to feel more comfortable about the situation, as well as give you a chance to decide if you want to take it to the next step. Good luck man

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Old March 19th, 2012, 01:07 PM   #9
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You have the upper hand here, you are in control remember that. Like Corey said you don't have to rush into meeting him and your sisters straight away. Maybe start with phone calls or even emails/instant messaging if you find that easier. Then you could progress onto video calls and then meeting up if you feel comfortable then. Do it in the stages that are right for you, don't rush into anything if it feels unsteady, no one will force you. About your step dad if he cares for you then he will want you to be happy and do whats best for you and if that is finding you Dad then he will encourage you and be with you every step of the way. Taking you Dad back into your life doesn't mean that your step dad has to be left out of it.
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Old March 19th, 2012, 04:33 PM   #10
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I don't have his number or have any way to contact him.and when I ask my mom about it she just cries and I can't deal with that.I'm losing sleep over this
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Damn. I'm sorry about that though. You should maybe give your mom some time and tell her that you truthfully want to talk to him over the phone and work off from there.
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Old March 19th, 2012, 06:20 PM   #12
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Oh how do you know your half sisters want to meet you?like Eddy says, give her time and im sure she'll come round. You deserve to know about your father and who's she to keep you from getting to know your biological dad (yes I know she's your mum it was a rhetorical question). Just ask her for an email or something that seems small and she might be more open to the idea rather than a phone number or address.
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Old March 19th, 2012, 07:58 PM   #13
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ok im going to ask her for a phone number or address to mail him
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Old March 19th, 2012, 08:03 PM   #14
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I was in the same position.

Talk to your dad about it. you might regret not knowing. i know that i met with my dad, and i was alright with it, and now he and i talk sometimes, but my step dad and i are cool. so ya.
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Old March 20th, 2012, 09:24 PM   #15
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i just want someone to talk to...
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Old March 20th, 2012, 10:33 PM   #16
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Then talk to them, seriously, nothing can stop you! Starting out by talking to them via emails, instant messaging etc. isn't a bad idea, actually. If you mean you just want someone to talk to, then we're all here for you. You can always feel free to contact me, whether it be onsite with a PM or VM, or offsite.

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