Attracted 2 Older - Is this Normal?

Hi, I find that I am only attracted to older men, I'm talking like 35 - 55 year olds. Once in a while I'll see a guy around 25-30 that I find attractive, but very rarely. And never anyone my own age. I'm afraid people would tell me Im weird so I have never told anyone this before now. But since no one on here knows me I dont mind talking about it. What does everyone else think about this?

Im not saying I wanna go have sex with every older guy I meet, I mostly like flirting with them and talking to them. It turns me on if they touch me, like on the shoulder or whatever.. Ive neverhad sex before or done anything like that. I am still a virgin although Im starting to wish I wasnt. I know virginity is something that once its gone you can never get it back, so I wouldnt want to just randomly give it away for no reason, even though a part of me is kind of curious.

Is it wrong to flirt with older guys? Do you guys think Im strange? I'd like to here from both girls and guys on this one.

i think you are too young but it isnt weird to be attracted to older people. just you need to wait to do anythiong with them until ur legal age. age is just a number but there is certain ages where it is against the law. but i think its normal to like older guys. i do lol. but you cant really do anything with them because that would be bad on their part because your still a minor.

I don't think it's odd. I can understand it. Maybe part of the attraction is that you are mature for your age, so you find immaturity unappealing. Plus older people support themselves and live how they want to live. I don't think I'm immature for my age, but I'm def not mature for it. I'm a 16 y/o guy. Stupid stuff makes me laugh, I don't work, I have what I have because of my parents. Period. People in school will say, "you're rich" and I'll say, I'm not rich, my parents are - I don't have jack!

I'm not saying you would or wouldn't like me or the other poster, Chris, but he does seem like he thinks about what he posts, so he's more than likely a nice guy. I (we?) still have a ton of testosterone flowing through ,me, so I'm moody, horny, hyper and if ya listened to my parents, they'd tell ya I lack good judgment, that I could be more kind, have more empathy, be more appreciative and on and on. It's all normal stuff of being 16, but I can certainly understand why it's not attractive to others at times.

As for the difference in looks between me and a man. I still have a little baby fat, my muscles aren't as developed, I'm not hairy like a lot of men are, I go three or four days without shaving and could never pull of any real facial hair. And i don't think I'm very different from most guys my age, but you are probably attracted to all the things that we don't have yet.

You shouldn't change what you are attracted to, but you should be aware that it's okay to be goofy or goofed up a little at this time. It's our time to not know a bunch of stuff and make mistakes and learn from them and move on. I really hope you don't miss out on that part of your teen years. idk about you, but I have very few responsibilities. Committed to school, my lacrosse team, my family, friends and attempting to understand what Christ said and did and put it to practice. That's it.
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There's an old movie out there, ferris bueller's day off that's on cable quite a bit and the guy, ferris says at some point, "life moves pretty fast, if ya don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it". That's my only concern for you and older guys, is don't miss out on the goofy guys your age that are all around you. Hope this helps. -mike

Originally Posted by AmyMay

Hi, I find that I am only attracted to older men, I'm talking like 35 - 55 year olds. Once in a while I'll see a guy around 25-30 that I find attractive, but very rarely. And never anyone my own age. I'm afraid people would tell me Im weird so I have never told anyone this before now. But since no one on here knows me I dont mind talking about it. What does everyone else think about this?

Im not saying I wanna go have sex with every older guy I meet, I mostly like flirting with them and talking to them. It turns me on if they touch me, like on the shoulder or whatever.. Ive neverhad sex before or done anything like that. I am still a virgin although Im starting to wish I wasnt. I know virginity is something that once its gone you can never get it back, so I wouldnt want to just randomly give it away for no reason, even though a part of me is kind of curious.

Is it wrong to flirt with older guys? Do you guys think Im strange? I'd like to here from both girls and guys on this one.

I have seen some older guys that turned my head also have a few male teachers I wouldn't mind messin with. so yea I would say its normal

I have a lot of experience concerning this type of thing. I go on dates with older men, and that sort of thing, but I am older than you by a few years. Here's the thing:

You need to stop and think about it. WHY are you attracted to these men? There is a reason, whether you realize it or not. Many times a much younger girl pursues older men in search of someone who can take care of them, are already matured and no longer growing or confused about life, and are often times financially stable. Lots of times, it might be because your own father wasn't around in your life while growing up. It can also be alluring to know that he is sexually experienced, and knows how to treat a woman right (Or, you hope so. Lots of men never learn!). Older men often times aren't looking for one-night stands or casual flings, so it can be very attractive to know he would keep you.

You can take all these into account, and the idea is sexy. You see these men, these thoughts occure, and wall-a. You're attracted.

Please do not decide to lose your virginity to one of these older men. It may seem attractive, but it is very dangerous. Not only is it illegal, but it would upset your parents far beyond what you could ever imagine. When I was 17, I told my mother about the 28 year old who was trying to take me out, and I got the biggest lecture of my life. Lord only knows what would happen if I had introduced her to the 37 year old who took me to see the new Twilight movie when I turned 18!

Granted, it is normal for you to be attracted to older men. I understand it completely. But do not act on these urges until you're legally an adult. Limit your flirting. You may look older for your age, and accidentally lure an adult into doing something that can potentially land him in jail without him actually knowing! It's very dangerous and also, in the long run, can be very hazardous to your mental health after a long while.

If you ever need to discuss anything like that, you can PM me anytime. I'm always around and willing to help!