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Old August 20th, 2011, 04:13 AM   #1
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Default Jar of Stars - Reward Yourself

It's sort of like a Non self-harm calendar. If you do something good for yourself, post it on here. Example:

"I ate all my meals today! Star for me!"
"Today I didn't exercise. Star!"
"I didn't weigh myself today. Another star!"

Just keep going. There's no 0. You -never- fall back to 0. There's no 1, 2, 3, 4, 5. You don't have to count the steps. You just have to keep going up. Keep going up and one day you won't need your stars anymore. You deserve a hug, you deserve love from -yourself-. You're doing better than you think.


If you made a step towards or in recovery, give yourself a star. If you gave yourself a break or bought something for yourself, give yourself a star. If you ate one extra spoonful of food today, give yourself a star. If you ate a piece of cake, give yourself a star. If you didn't purge, give yourself a star. If you didn't count calories, give yourself a star. If you looked in the mirror and gave yourself a hug, give yourself a star.

So, girls and boys, start collecting your stars and put it in a jar and one day you'll find that you don't need it anymore.

Remember: All you need is Faith, Trust and Pixie dust. And the Pixie Dust is you.

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Old August 20th, 2011, 06:19 AM   #2
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I think this is a great idea, thanks honey (:
keep up the positive thinking! hope youre well
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Old August 20th, 2011, 06:23 AM   #3
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I think this is a great idea, thanks honey (:
keep up the positive thinking! hope youre well
No probs, Amber. I hope you're doing alright. I'm okay. I just ate -way- too much and now I feel really sick. But I haven't eaten this much in a while so... It's okay. I'll start over tomorrow.



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Old August 20th, 2011, 06:27 AM   #4
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This Is a lovely idea, good one Z <3



I hope you manage to fully beat this one day, all of you


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Old August 20th, 2011, 06:39 AM   #5
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This Is a lovely idea, good one Z <3



I hope you manage to fully beat this one day, all of you
We will. You will, too. Remember, you have only 2 choices. Death or recovery. And we chose recovery



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Old August 20th, 2011, 10:50 AM   #6
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Whooo, ate breakfast.
+1 star, lol.


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Old August 20th, 2011, 10:52 AM   #7
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Whooo, ate breakfast.
+1 star, lol.
You do deserve a star for that ;P Yay <3 I'm happy



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Old August 21st, 2011, 07:15 AM   #8
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Didn't weigh myself this morning even though the scales were right there!

1 star for me
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Old August 22nd, 2011, 03:26 AM   #9
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Well done proud of you. Baby steps. One day you won't need them.

I haven't counted calories in a -long- time.



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Wow Z this is actually a brilliant idea that im actually going to do and not just with my ED but with every other issue i deal with
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Old August 22nd, 2011, 05:37 AM   #11
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Wow Z this is actually a brilliant idea that im actually going to do and not just with my ED but with every other issue i deal with
I'm glad you think so. I hope it helps you. I truly do ^^ Good look, hun <3 I'm here if you need me.



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Old August 22nd, 2011, 05:50 PM   #12
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I'm not exactly suffering from an eating disorder, but I do think I'll improve my system of rewards for doing good things. Whenever I do something good for myself I normally reward myself with a hot bath, a nap, a mini candy bar, etc. I also reward myself for not going over my calorie limit sometimes, although that varies.
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Old August 22nd, 2011, 09:32 PM   #13
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Please don't promote pro-ana here. None of us need that. I'm sorry, Dee but I don't want anyone to think they should be rewarded for not going over their calorie limit. Hell, they shouldn't be counting calories anyway. I'm not trying to be mean but please.

Reward yourself for going -over- your "calorie limit". For not having a friggin calorie limit. For not caring about the calories. For not even counting the calories. Reward yourself for taking a step towards freedom. Not for adding another chain to your ankle.

Good luck, Dee.

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Old August 22nd, 2011, 09:52 PM   #14
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...having a calorie limit doesn't promote anorexia. My calorie limit keeps me from eating too many calories and becoming overweight. A limit isn't always a bad thing. It's healthy to have a goal you set for yourself that's reasonable and achievable. If I was saying I rewarded myself for 300 calories a day then yes, I would be promoting anorexia. But a limit of 1200 a day is definitely not promoting anorexia.
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Old August 22nd, 2011, 11:30 PM   #15
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A lot of these girls and guys need to -gain- weight, Dee. And do you really want to calorie count for -the rest of your life-? I was obsessed with it. I counted calories like it was a goddamn religion. I watched the food channel like it was bloody porn. And I read calorie counter books like they were bibles.

This isn't the life you want.



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Old August 22nd, 2011, 11:34 PM   #16
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I monitor my calories on Livestrong once a day. It doesn't consume my life. I'm mindful of what I eat, but I'm not obsessing over it. You can monitor your calories without be obsessed about it. I'm not letting it control my life; sometimes you simply have to do things like that to keep yourself healthy. I'd rather count calories than gain weight that I don't need (I'm already overweight; I'm not talking about girls that are underweight and need to gain a few pounds to be healthy).
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That's a very good idea, thanks for sharing it with us.

And good luck to everyone!
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Old August 23rd, 2011, 12:53 AM   #18
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Thanks Julie. Good luck as well!

And I understand, Dee. I was just worried recovering fishies would think calorie watching was something good. Personally, I'm tired of counting calories. I have wasted my life and destroyed myself doing so. I over-estimated and what was a cup, I thought of as 2 and a half. I'm not going to live like that. I deserve more. But that's me, not you.



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This is a fantastic and great way to promote recovery! =D

Also, Having a calorie limit isn't pro-Ana, unless its like 500 a day. Limiting to 1800 is still healthy if you aren't a very active person.



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Old August 23rd, 2011, 05:37 AM   #20
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i understand what FaithandTrust is saying, even though for you calorie counting is not obsessive or a worry to your health, for people on a recovering ED board its demotivational and triggering- because they're trying to achieve the opposite.

1 star for me I had some rice with my curry (:
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