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Old August 5th, 2011, 12:10 AM   #1
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Default Innapropriate things to say around a Self harming person

I got this from another site, RYL, and it kinda helps- Just post anything that has been said to you about self harming (a random comment etc) and say how it made ya feel.

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Old August 5th, 2011, 03:18 AM   #2
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"Your life insurance will go up now because of your suicidal tendancies." - I never had suicidal tendancies, but apparently my self harm makes me suicidal. >.<
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Old August 5th, 2011, 03:38 AM   #3
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Mmm, if I'm taking this the right way, what I can think of is when someone makes a joke about the emo stereotype, tells someone to cry in the corner and slash their wrists, jokingly of course, but it gets to me.

That joke that goes like "I wish my lawn was emo so it would cut itself" is really pissing me off lately as well.


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And I'm sorry the writing's on the wall. Well, I guess I'm the sorriest of all.
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Old August 5th, 2011, 08:54 AM   #4
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"What is wrong with these people? How can they want to die and cut themselves? They have everything and people dying in africa have nothing! What the heck is wrong with them? They should die"

This was from someone who was my friend. It really hurt.

"Emo people suck. Oh my god I'm gonna go in a corner and slash my wrists. Boohoo"

I can't stand it.



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Old August 5th, 2011, 09:25 AM   #5
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SH jokes,that those who do it is sick fucks that deserve to die if they want it so bad.
My friend said that when he talked about a girl that do it,to hear that come from him was like getting punched in the stomach

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Old August 5th, 2011, 09:29 AM   #6
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That joke that goes like "I wish my lawn was emo so it would cut itself" is really pissing me off lately as well.
That pisses me off as well.

Then there is the whole "Oh your emo, you must cut!' or vice versa. Stupid stereotypes

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Old August 5th, 2011, 11:59 AM   #7
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its not really and insult, but its when people make you promise not to self harm again, when they dont understand its not that easy :/
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Old August 5th, 2011, 03:53 PM   #8
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showing an "emo" cartoon clip with a kid cutting his wrists with a violin bow and saying that it's funny, my older sister saying what im doing to myself is fu*** up and saying i probabally did it b/c someone wasnt paying me any attention which was kinda like a slap in the face, people singing that really annoying song The Emo Kid Song by Adam & Andrew and all the "emo" jokes just irritate me i find it sad people make jokes and laugh and say that people who cut are messed up it honestly makes me feel worse even when its not directed at me....but really whats more messed up the people cutting b/c they feel hurt or the people that laugh about it? I smh
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Old August 5th, 2011, 04:00 PM   #9
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"How can people cut themselves, when there are people who have it so much worse? They should just suck it up and get over it" Just because there are people that have it worse, doesnt diminish the feelings that my problems give me.

"People cut because they want attention. They just want people to feel sorry for them"

That one bothered me because when I used to self harm, I never did it for attention. It wasnt a cry for help. I also didnt want people to feel sorry for me, which is why I constantly hid the marks and never told anyone.


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Old August 5th, 2011, 04:01 PM   #10
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When people bring god into it. Like:

"god gave you this body, don't hurt it"

"god loves you, so you should love you and stop"

"how can you do something so horrible to god's gift?"

And it's not just because I'm an atheist. My friend, who's very religious, was told by her first psychologist that she should stop cutting because god gave her a gift and she's not appreciating it, which only made her guiltier.
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Old August 5th, 2011, 04:22 PM   #11
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"Stop complaining and doing this to yourself, you can change your life, stop being a baby and make yourself happy."

Because I haven't tried already? And failed a billion times? Thanks for making it seem so fucking easy, I guess I'm not capable of this either.

"Attention-seeker."

Ignorant.

"I read online/heard that people cut because..."


That's nice, that doesn't apply to me.
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No one knows I self harm and one comment that really made me cut quite a few times over after it was said was "Emo's are people who have long hair, stay in the bedroom all day with the curtains shut and cut" or something like that. Even remembering it now is giving me an urge.

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"Cutting is for crazy people"
that came from my mom. still echoes in my brain

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I never really cared. I had more problems. I don't give a shit if people joke about self harm. They can think what they like, and say what they want because I know it is wrong and different for some. But if they start to criticize me on WHY I do is a guaranteed ass kicking.

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That joke that goes like "I wish my lawn was emo so it would cut itself" is really pissing me off lately as well.
Really? I find that joke overused but funny. *shrugs*

Wearing black long sleeves and my wristcuffs "You hidin' cuts?"
- *facepalm* Maybe i am, maybe i'm not. Youre in no place to ask random person.

"just stop"
It's not that easy. /inb4trolling

"How can you destroy your body like that"
-_- Just. -_-

"But God ..."
Fucked me over. I don't want to hear it.

"Why don't you go cut yourself?"
Um. thanks..

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Old August 5th, 2011, 06:51 PM   #16
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Before my brother knew I never noticed how many suicide/self harm/cutting references he joked around with. I remember sitting in a restaurant with him and my mum (my mum knew, he didn't) and he make a joke about having a rough day, started to pretend to 'hack' at his wists. We didn't laugh, my mum wouldn't look at me and quickly changed the subject.


Also reading my mums texts and seeing 'she's just doing it for the attention'. It couldn't have been a worse response. It's on repeat in my head when I cut...

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Old August 5th, 2011, 07:22 PM   #17
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Also reading my mums texts and seeing 'she's just doing it for the attention'. It couldn't have been a worse response. It's on repeat in my head when I cut...
My mom thought I was doing it for attention too. Yeah. Ok. I do it for attention, totally, that's why I went through hell hiding it from you and everybody for months. TOTALLY makes sense.

& people tell me that she just doesn't understand it, and she doesn't understand what's going through my head, but really she can't use common sense?
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Old August 5th, 2011, 07:52 PM   #18
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Jokes don't bother me really but I can't stand the way self harm is portrayed on the telly

Example one
I was watching family guy and it was the one where connie makes chris popular which makes connie unpopular which makes her friends with meg. Long story short connie asks meg to help her and meg holds her arm up and points to cuts on her wrist saying "this one is because you called me fat, this one is cause you locked me in the locker room, this one is cause you pulled my skirt up infront of everyone...."

Example two
I love saw they are like my favourite films. But on one there's this man that cuts and jigsaw says, you don't appreciate life blah blah blah. If you want to live you need to cut yourself by climbing through this barbed wire but if you truly want to die then you can just sit there till the time runs out
Iv got to admit that I was a little scared at this point incase some one like jigsaw was actually watching me!



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This happened in biology.
Kid #1 Fuck I just failed a test!
Kid #2 Don't cut yourself because of it.
Kid #1. Bahaha yeah *Imitates cutting wrists* it hurts so good!

Then there was the time when my friend came up to me and made me listen to this song called the emo kid song or something like that and she said it was funny. I almost cried. In fact, later that day, I did cry thinking about how someone can think it's funny or make a stupid song that parodys that.

this was never said to me, but I heard it before "Go bleed me a river you emo fuck"

Another thing that happened in biology
Kid #3 who's not even in the class came running in saying HEYYY WASSUP BITCHES
Kid #2 from before says Go fuck off and kill yourself.

Those words made me freeze, I couldn't think straight, all I could think about was the many times I could have died... I think I cried somewhere later in that class durring a movie (Thank god no one sat next to me or anything) because the thoughts consumed me. It was a horrible day.

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"what are you gonna be all emo and cut yourself"

bothers the fuck out of me.

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