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Old November 25th, 2017, 08:58 PM   #1
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So I've been self-harming for over 2 years now and I want to get help but my parents are not the kind who understand that I'm depressed they think I'm a disappointment, selfish, and a chicken for self-harming they found out in 6th grade and know I'm in 8th and I hide everything from everyone where they cant see.
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Old November 25th, 2017, 09:04 PM   #2
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Why would you need help? Just stop.

edit: How hard can it be to just stop cutting(I assume) yourself?

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Old November 25th, 2017, 09:12 PM   #3
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Its not that easy just to stop you shouldnt just tell someone that you dont know what is going on and why ;not everyone can just stop.
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Old November 25th, 2017, 09:15 PM   #4
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If you need someone to talk to i would recommend a phycologist. Never self harm yourself. Don't let those thoughts that are trying to kill you, kill you. Don't let those thoughts that are trying to tell you that you are worthless, bad or whatever it is get through. Those thoughts are lying to you. Because your more than a conqueror, your more than what your going through. YOU do have purpose, you are awesome and you are special. Despite what you have been going through.

I hope that peace tells you that everything is going to be ok. So you put down that knife or whatever it is that your using to self harm. Put it down. Because there is more to your life than what your currently going through. And you will never understand it if you quit right now. Life will get better, but if you end your life or harm yourself you prevent it from getting better..

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Old November 25th, 2017, 09:15 PM   #5
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Its not that easy just to stop you shouldnt just tell someone that you dont know what is going on and why ;not everyone can just stop.
Why is it not easy to just stop? Just throw away all knives or whatever you use, and tell yourself to stop.

edit: btw, if you need to talk to someone, feel free to send me a message.
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Old November 25th, 2017, 09:18 PM   #6
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You wouldnt understand Rasmedveten you have never been through it,
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Old November 25th, 2017, 09:22 PM   #7
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You wouldnt understand Rasmedveten you have never been through it,
No, I understand it. I've been suicidal several times. And I'm depressed.
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Old November 25th, 2017, 09:23 PM   #8
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For some other people, it's different. Depression is a hard thing to get through.

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Old November 25th, 2017, 09:24 PM   #9
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Well then their for you should know its not easy just to stop.
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Old November 25th, 2017, 09:28 PM   #10
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Well then their for you should know its not easy just to stop.
I didn't say it was easy (and if I did I shouldn't have).
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Old November 25th, 2017, 09:31 PM   #11
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I know your just trying to help but for me i can't stop i've tried.
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Old November 25th, 2017, 09:44 PM   #12
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I know your just trying to help but for me i can't stop i've tried.
These are the alternatives I can come up with:

1. Next time, just take a 30 minute walk and if you still want to cut yourself when you get back, then go ahead and cut.

2. Get a sandbag and cut it instead.

3. Buy a plastic knife that doesn't harm you when you cut with it.

4. Fap instead.


edit: oh wait, you're a girl so ignore the last one.
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Old November 25th, 2017, 09:47 PM   #13
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lol ok well i guess i have two ways that keep my mind off of cutting but their not good for me.
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Old November 25th, 2017, 09:51 PM   #14
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Self-harm is a serious matter so I would not take it all too easy.
Even if your parents don't seem too understanding I would say you should at least talk to them to ask them to get you professional help.
Or depending on where you life you could ask a school counselor if you don’t wanna talk to your parents.

You could try different stuff to use as alternatives. There is a informative collection here.

If you have questions or just wanna talk feel free to contact me. I have been self-harming, stopping and relapsing for several years now and now it is not easy.
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Old November 25th, 2017, 11:22 PM   #15
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If you need someone to talk to i would recommend a phycologist. Never self harm yourself. Don't let those thoughts that are trying to kill you, kill you. Don't let those thoughts that are trying to tell you that you are worthless, bad or whatever it is get through. Those thoughts are lying to you. Because your more than a conqueror, your more than what your going through. YOU do have purpose, you are awesome and you are special. Despite what you have been going through.

I hope that peace tells you that everything is going to be ok. So you put down that knife or whatever it is that your using to self harm. Put it down. Because there is more to your life than what your currently going through. And you will never understand it if you quit right now. Life will get better, but if you end your life or harm yourself you prevent it from getting better..
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These are the alternatives I can come up with:

1. Next time, just take a 30 minute walk and if you still want to cut yourself when you get back, then go ahead and cut.

2. Get a sandbag and cut it instead.

3. Buy a plastic knife that doesn't harm you when you cut with it.

4. Fap instead.


edit: oh wait, you're a girl so ignore the last one.
you got my thing locked
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Old November 26th, 2017, 12:20 AM   #16
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What do you mean?

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Old November 27th, 2017, 04:59 PM   #17
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Talking to a friend who can empathise helps. If you can have a serious conversation with them and you trust them it helps gets stuff of your chest.
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Old November 30th, 2017, 07:14 PM   #18
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Find a friend that cares. If they are a good friend they will help you.
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Old December 16th, 2017, 07:44 PM   #19
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Cutting is as serious an addiction as any other. Not only does your body learn to automatically go to that as a coping mechanism, but the adrenaline and other chemicals released by your brain can also end up having a similar effect to other chemical addictions and lead to feeling like you have to do it again.

A therapist and possibly psychiatrist are important, but that can be difficult if there are things you don't want them to tell your parents. idk how that works before you're 18, but it'd still be worth talking to a therapist and finding out.

A fuzzy blanket, a good book, and headphones, and all is right in the world <3
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Old December 16th, 2017, 11:39 PM   #20
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I am so sorry that that is the way your parents reacted

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