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Old January 21st, 2007, 09:39 PM   #1
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well Ive never had much depression as lots of you people on this forum tell me about until my best friend died 4 months ago and the pain comes and goes, i know how to deal with my own pain in good ways considering I'm studying to become a psychologist (weather you guys think they're helpful or not) but still every time i talk to his parents or little sister i freeze up, and yesterday i was playing basketball and she came over on her bike and asked me why i didnt come over anymore and i just wanted to cry and i don't know what to tell her i just freeze up when i talk to them and shes only like 10 so she doesn't really know and i just cant go over there anymore, what should i tell her
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Old January 21st, 2007, 09:43 PM   #2
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Shes not that young.. and kids just know.. In simpler ways just give it some time 4 months isnt that much..

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Old January 21st, 2007, 09:49 PM   #3
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so are you just saying i should avoid her untill she forgets about me?
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Old January 21st, 2007, 10:57 PM   #4
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Just talk to her but if she mentions your friend just try to change the topic.
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Old January 22nd, 2007, 06:51 AM   #5
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Lol no you shouldn't avoid them, if they remind you of your friend you have to learn how to deal with loss because something like that will problably happen in your life again but you dont realy have to socialize with them like mad, you have to be able to socialize with them normally but yeah pretty much what Brody said

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Old January 22nd, 2007, 02:48 PM   #6
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The loss and pain that you are experiencing now won't go away. It will lessen with time and you will get to a point when you can think of him and be happy for the moments you two had together.
For now you will just have to be strong. Do not avoid them, they are experiencing the loss and the pain too. You are both in the same boat. Maybe you will all give each other distractions so it's not too painful all of the time. Yes, you will be reminded of him throughout your life. But talk normally with his sister. Chit chat about light hearted things like sport, school etc. 10 is not that young and she will understand the situation. Just try to be natural. I know it's hard. But you have to be strong.


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Old January 23rd, 2007, 05:50 PM   #7
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I lost my father about 4 months ago. I know exactly what you are talking about. Eyes starting to water. Heart slow's, sadness sets in. It's okay to cry. She is somewhat young yes, but i think she will understand if you explain it.

Some one once said, "Life is like a box of Chocolates...." well that must have been one crappy box of choclates. It must have been on clearence at a gas station!
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