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Old February 12th, 2019, 03:09 PM   #1
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Do you think it is still possible to remain friends after a break up, I split up with my boyfriend the other day we have decided to stay friends as we we were good friends before we went out but will it still be the same
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Old February 12th, 2019, 03:11 PM   #2
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Sorry to hear about the breakup. If you both agreed, and no one was dumped by the other, I think it's possible to go on as friends.

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Old February 12th, 2019, 03:27 PM   #3
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Sorry to hear about the breakup. If you both agreed, and no one was dumped by the other, I think it's possible to go on as friends.
Yes we both agreed still feel hard but I hope nothing changes too much
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Old February 12th, 2019, 03:39 PM   #4
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Its unfortunate but yeah if the two
of u agree its possible to still b friends
but I don't think its going to b the same
way like it was before depending how
close the two of u were. Take it now as
a Bro relationship.
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Old February 12th, 2019, 03:42 PM   #5
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Yes we both agreed still feel hard but I hope nothing changes too much
I hope so too. It'll possibly be different when either of you find someone new, it would be awkward to hang out like you used to by then I imagine.

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Old February 12th, 2019, 03:50 PM   #6
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It definitely depends on the situation. I broke up with my boyfriend like 6 weeks ago, we have tried to be friends but instead it’s just caused a lot of drama within our friendship group (we have all the same friends) so I think in that situation it’s better not to be friends.

However I recently got in contact with my ex girlfriend (I made a thread about it) and although there were some issues with her still having feelings for me, I think she’s moved on now - or enough to not flirt or confess her attraction to me in most conversations. In this situation, I’m glad we’re still friends. However we were almost completely out of contact for a year.
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I think it’s possible if the two of you aren’t around each other constantly every day. I can see situations where someone is hurt or jealous because of the attention shown to a third person (“I wish he would have treated ME that way”). Be careful. Being friends is great and I fully encourage it, but I don’t think it’s a good idea to be best friends afterwards

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Old February 12th, 2019, 05:26 PM   #8
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It can work but sometimes it's not easy, especially when you're still in love with even if you broke up. But try is the way to know it. You two will see anyway.

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Old February 13th, 2019, 09:01 AM   #9
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I'm sorry about your breakup.

Yes, it's possible to remain friends, but I think it's not likely that your friendship will be the same as it was before you were involved with each other. You set yourself up for disappointment if you have that expectation.
How you interact now depends on so many things: how long you were a couple, how much of your social groups overlap, the nature of your relationship, etc.

Some people find time completely apart makes it possible for them to be friends again in the future, more easily than trying to be friends right after breaking up.

In any case, you can't 'go back' to the way it was before because the two of you have experienced a different dynamic.

Good luck.
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Old February 13th, 2019, 12:02 PM   #10
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I'm also sorry to hear about the breakup. Life happens and relationships in our teen years are rarely gonna evolve into anything permanent, they are more about learning how to interact successfully and having fun doing things together.

I've dated several people for as long as several months and after we decided to go our separate ways I've remained friendly with all but one of them. She suddenly developed a strong aversion to the whole concept of two girls being together which I think was put upon her by her parents and the pastor of her church. Since she has issues with me and my values now, although she was the dominant partner in the relationship and had originally asked me out, we are polite when we see each other at school but have agreed that we simply can't be friends. The others that I had dated are all fairly good friends with me now and we sometimes find ourselves doing stuff together in a group activity like at the church teen group.
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Old February 13th, 2019, 01:33 PM   #11
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I have to admit I wouldn’t know if it would still work, it would depend on how close you two were if you can still remain friends then that is good and I hope you still can be
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Old February 13th, 2019, 01:53 PM   #12
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Yeah, definitely. I've seen people end relationships and still stay good friends.

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Old February 13th, 2019, 02:38 PM   #13
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Of course it's possible. Unless one of the people in question can't accept it and want to make drama all them time.
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Old February 13th, 2019, 03:41 PM   #14
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Sorry for your break up.

I do think it is possibly since both of you are in agreement and both of you also seem really mature about the whole thing.
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Old February 13th, 2019, 10:22 PM   #15
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In my experience, which is limited, you can stay friends if you really liked each other from the beginning but had some obvious differences that wouldn't allow the relationship to work. In other words, there was nothing personal about the break up. And the more time passes, the easier it will be to be friends.
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I think it’s possible if the two of you aren’t around each other constantly every day. I can see situations where someone is hurt or jealous because of the attention shown to a third person (“I wish he would have treated ME that way”). Be careful. Being friends is great and I fully encourage it, but I don’t think it’s a good idea to be best friends afterwards
Genuinely couldn’t word this any better myself, as this is currently the issue I have at hand. Because I see my ex boyfriend nearly every day at school it does make it very awkward within our friendship group.

At the end of the day it’s your decision, I'd just say try your best not to have your expectations too high for being the same way you were prior to the relationship.
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It can work but sometimes it's not easy, especially when you're still in love with even if you broke up. But try is the way to know it. You two will see anyway.
Yeah if one is still in love with the other it's no go. Both parts need to have lost that feeling for each other for a friendship to work.

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Old February 17th, 2019, 04:41 PM   #18
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It's possible but unlikely
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Old February 18th, 2019, 05:26 AM   #19
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It is definitely possible...it’s would be sad to lose a good friend.
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Old February 18th, 2019, 10:22 AM   #20
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Sorry to hear about the break-up.
If you can be friends great. Its certainly better than slagging each other off.. I don't think I would be able to be that mature though..at least at first.
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