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Old January 8th, 2018, 07:43 PM   #1
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Default Is it ok that I call myself bi because I haven't decided

Often on VT people ask about orientation, I haven't decided mine yet. I probably won't decide until I am like 15.

If you don't know your orientation, what do you call yourself?

My name is Adrian, I am 14 years old, dunno if I am gay or str8 (I am probably more of straight). I am a geek, and I am proud of it. I love computers, and all kinds of nerdy technology.
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Old January 8th, 2018, 07:46 PM   #2
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Well I try to tell people to not worry about putting a label on yourself. If you don't know, you can say I don't know or I am curious. I also say you can think your one thing but discover down the road that is not really the case and that's ok too.

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Old January 8th, 2018, 07:55 PM   #3
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I would say that you're just not sure yet. Undecided. Like Seth said, don't worry about a label yet. But if you feel like you want some identity, and bi is the closest you feel today, then go with that.
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Old January 8th, 2018, 07:57 PM   #4
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Tell them you don't know. You don't need to decide anything before you're ready. You don't even have to put a label on yourself.
If they can't handle you saying "I don't know (yet)", then that's their problem, not yours.

I'm les, feel free to contact me
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Old January 8th, 2018, 09:06 PM   #5
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U don't label urself. If someone
asks tell them its none of their
business. Theres a lot of time
before u can decide who or
what u r. For now-ur u.
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Old January 9th, 2018, 12:19 PM   #6
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Old January 9th, 2018, 03:37 PM   #7
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I am straight but curious

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Old January 9th, 2018, 06:47 PM   #8
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There is no rush to label your sexuality. You will know for sure in your mind and heart someday. If it makes you feel better to call yourself Bi then do it. We are also all somewhat curious about other guys and girls and it's a normal part of puberty and growing up. You could also call yourself straight curious if you wanted to.

I am gay and happy with that.
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Old January 9th, 2018, 11:08 PM   #9
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outside of VT, practically speaking, your life will be easier if you just tell people you're straight until you know otherwise. people will just assume you're gay if you say "none of your business" or "curious". i mean, unless you go to a super inclusive school like i do.
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Old January 10th, 2018, 01:46 PM   #10
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I don't think you should get at all hung up on labels - you can choose and change whenever you want. However, maybe saying 'not sure' would be better than telling people you're gay unless you are sure you are, because otherwise it can get a bit complicated.
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Old January 10th, 2018, 07:34 PM   #11
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Often on VT people ask about orientation, I haven't decided mine yet. I probably won't decide until I am like 15.

If you don't know your orientation, what do you call yourself?
You do not need to put a label or assign a particular age to put it. Just enjoy the life, that' s what our age is about. Don't feel the peer pressure and just live the way you want to live. your life, your rules.
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Old January 10th, 2018, 10:31 PM   #12
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As the other said it isn't necessary to label yourself.
At your age being undecided is sorta normal so I don't think there's a need to call yourself anything.

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Old January 16th, 2018, 11:54 PM   #13
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Yeah you don't need to label yourself especially this early on but if you feel the need to label yourself it's not like you can't change your mind and you are stuck in that category

17 and Bi. Hopefully i answered your question! I love helping everyone with their questions and problems so feel free to message me if you need to talk!
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Old January 18th, 2018, 11:50 AM   #14
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Old January 18th, 2018, 11:51 AM   #15
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Often on VT people ask about orientation, I haven't decided mine yet. I probably won't decide until I am like 15.

If you don't know your orientation, what do you call yourself?
Just say havent decided

Or non decided

Undecided

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Old January 18th, 2018, 11:55 AM   #16
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Old January 21st, 2018, 03:26 PM   #17
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dont label urself yet - youre young. you may just be in a 'phase' also. heck we all wanna compare dicks at some point
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Old January 23rd, 2018, 06:35 AM   #18
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Default Re: Is it ok that I call myself bi because I haven't decided

I think that labelling yourself as bi would be wrong. Not that there is any reason to label yourself at this young age or possibly ever, but if you insist on it say that you are currently investigating your sexuality. It's true and it's not guessing as to what it might be. It is very misleading to anyone that might be interested in you to make up a label because you feel like you needs one.


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Old January 23rd, 2018, 03:29 PM   #19
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Old January 24th, 2018, 08:01 PM   #20
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Default Re: Is it ok that I call myself bi because I haven't decided

I'm jumping on the bandwagon here to say that there's no rush to label yourself. If you don't know, it's perfectly fine to say so. I cannot remember what book it was I was reading, but one character said "you don't owe anyone a label" to another, and I have to agree with that. If you find a label you are comfortable with and want to use it, great. If not, don't stress about it, because it's quite normal to not be sure.
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