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Old June 22nd, 2019, 12:43 PM   #1
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Default Dad questioning my sexuality

So a little backstory... Im a 15 year old guy who is gay from New York who has parents that have support LGBTQ+ community equality. Ive come out to a some friends over the past couple of months but thats about it. Anyways, my dad and I were having a conversation the other day when he just straight up asked, Are you gay? Totally caught me off guard and I said no just because I was replying in shock. I was just getting enough confidence to start planning how to come out to my family, but now I feel like this could be a really awkward situation. Im thinking about only coming out to my mom to start and then have her help the situation. Have any of you guys experienced this? What would be your plan of action?
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Old June 22nd, 2019, 12:49 PM   #2
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If your parents support LGBT then you dad should support you, you should talk to him and say how you feel and you was caught off guard by his question and would have like to have told him in your own time
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Old June 22nd, 2019, 06:14 PM   #3
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It could b that ur Dad knows much
more about u than u do. Just leave
it at that with ur Dad and if u want
to ease into telling ur Mom then do
since both of ur parents are LGBT
friendly. I would only come out if
u r ready to. My parents also are
LGBT friendly and I am Bi but at
this time I am not ready to declare
anything bout myself. It is my choice
and I don't care and its no one elses
business. If u feel u are ready then
bring it up with ur Mom.Tell her ur
Dad asked.
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Old June 23rd, 2019, 03:16 PM   #4
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I guess the issue is more to do with not being honest with dad more than coming out.
I expect he will understand.
Maybe tell mum first like Ashleigh said.
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Old June 24th, 2019, 10:15 PM   #5
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My parents are open minded as well but not sure how they would take it if I said I had an interest in other guys -- I haven't really discussed it with them yet as I haven't really decided myself --- and with being an only child I guess that makes me hesitant to have that discussion.

I would say talk to whoever you are the comfortable with -- And I think others are right -- your Dad may already know and was just giving you the opening to have that talk with him........

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Old June 25th, 2019, 03:00 PM   #6
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When I came out to my parents as bi, they almost laughed at me. They said they had known for a long time.
So maybe your dad already knows and was giving you the opportunity to come out. But I wasn't there to hear the tone in his voice but he seems supportive.
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Old July 10th, 2019, 10:16 PM   #7
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My dad never questioned...but I think he thought I was gay cos I used to look kinda delicate, girly and skinny.....When I got a bit filled out he said 'you look straight now'
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Old July 15th, 2019, 11:07 AM   #8
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My dad never questioned...but I think he thought I was gay cos I used to look kinda delicate, girly and skinny.....When I got a bit filled out he said 'you look straight now'
Sorry, this is not meant to be harsh and not criticising your post but there does seem to be some odd ideas around.
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Old July 16th, 2019, 07:16 PM   #9
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Seems to me if your parents are open and supporting, you had a good opportunity to be honest with the ones who love you most. (Assuming your ready to come out) and its ok of your not

From my experience its really not a big deal, yeah, go head and ask me Ill tell you lol!!!

Just be you, kinda surprised he had to ask, other than just seeking confirmation....

Tells me he (they) already knew

And theyll still love you either way, gay straight bi open or closeted, your Theo kid, they love ya bro.....

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Old October 26th, 2019, 02:31 AM   #10
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My dad never questioned...but I think he thought I was gay cos I used to look kinda delicate, girly and skinny.....When I got a bit filled out he said 'you look straight now'
I mean, you cant really judge someone based on looks. I find this odd.

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