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Old June 26th, 2009, 07:33 AM   #1
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Old June 26th, 2009, 11:55 AM   #2
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Austin, I'm assuming your description of 'abuse' is that your dad uses unreasonable force for no reason. If his reaction is the result of your getting caught doing things you know you're not supposed to do, I'd highly recommend you stop doing them. Although it's never OK to be subjected to extreme discipline, if you're provoking it, it's best to not do that!

Ok, assuming he's out of control here, you need to find a way to work with your mom so she can intervene on your behalf. Eventhough you might find her incapable now of doing this, that might be because she might not be aware of the extent of what's going on (as remarkable as that might sound). So, the task is to find a way to calmly work with her, on an ongoing basis, to get her to step in. I say 'ongoing' b/c one convo might not do it, sometimes it takes a while before people 'get it' and take the necessary steps to address whatever the issue is.
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Old June 26th, 2009, 01:47 PM   #3
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abuse is a pattern. ur not the one that's doing anything wrong, they are. many parents aren't fit to raise kids. abuse is a crime mate, not a privilege. move out the first chance u get, when you're old enough. no one need 2 put up with control freaks

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Old June 26th, 2009, 06:54 PM   #4
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Dude i used to get crazily abused by my dad,i was shit scared of him,i stil am,bt dude,seriously im gna giv u the advice that was givn to me-GET HELP,if need be get outta there and go to a friends house,call the police and/or social services.
What ur going through sucks.big time.u just need to make the authorities aware.
My dad is in prison now,and im happier than i was when i lived with him,but im still scared of him bc i waited too long before getting help.dont make the same mistake i did,get help,quick.

If u want to talk pm me.good luck dude
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Old June 26th, 2009, 08:08 PM   #5
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Old June 26th, 2009, 10:54 PM   #6
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Well i know that you just said that you are not going to call the authorities... but you cant just keep being abused. Have you ever considered talking to a trusted friends parents, or maby someone who can help you? Im sure that if your friends mom/dad knew what was happening, they would let you stay with them for awhile while everything gets sorted out.

But your parents have no right to abuse you, and if you ever feel that it is you fault, it really is not. And if something goes totally wrong, dont be afraid to leave, because a beating can always get worse.


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Old June 27th, 2009, 12:56 AM   #7
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dude u should run away and get help or go live with a relative or friend my uncle sometimes can get abuse verbally sometimes physically

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try talking to him
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Old June 27th, 2009, 03:19 AM   #9
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Old June 27th, 2009, 05:57 AM   #10
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Okay,u dont have to call the authorities if you dont want to,its your choice.but dude,seriously get outta there incase the beatings get worse,(check my thread on my father,u wil c how bad it got because i left it too long,he controlled me without being there)
Seriously duude,get help.
Why dont you talk to your teachers at school?someone who can quietly sort it,because i remember i didnt want help until i needed it,and by then it was too bad,my beatings were ferocious and i needed help but i was scared about what he would do when he found out,but i ran and got help,then i was safe.u have got to reach out to someone you trust,it will guts to do it,but you came here with ur problems and that proves u got guts.
Get to someone who can help and you will be safe.(social services would be best)
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Old June 27th, 2009, 05:03 PM   #11
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Old June 27th, 2009, 06:04 PM   #12
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Then other family would be ur best option
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Old June 27th, 2009, 08:37 PM   #13
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Old June 27th, 2009, 11:32 PM   #14
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But you have to go to someone, even if it is not family... you have to get out of there

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Old June 27th, 2009, 11:44 PM   #15
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well the chat wont let me talk to you for some strange reason, but talk to some friends about it, or even their parents, they would not let you stay with him

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Old June 28th, 2009, 12:07 AM   #18
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I dont know, it wont load right currentally, but i have MSN if you need to talk to me

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Old June 30th, 2009, 10:59 AM   #19
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right, if he's hitting you, you need to ring social services and get him arrested, its alright saying you dont want him arrested etc but if you want it to stop you have no choice. why dont you try and speak to him as an adult and ask him to spend quality time with you alone, that way he might start to understand you more and start being nicer to you?

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