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Old June 29th, 2018, 04:35 PM   #1
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Default When do you reach a breaking point?

I've got a friend. She was there for me in a time when I was really struggling, and so I'm really appreciative, and care about her because of that. And I really like the friendship that we've had.

But lately things have changed, taken a turn for the worse I guess. A few weeks a go I was trying to plan a time we could hang out and I thought that I had successfully done that. And then the day before, I wanted to confirm our plans. She had forgotten them entirely. I understand, I can be forgetful sometimes. I asked if, even though she had forgotten, she still was free and wanted to hang out, and she said sure. And then that night at around 12:30 I get a text saying that she was busy the next day. This was a bit annoying since I had cleaned up around the house a bit, but hey, at least I get a cleaner house out of it. We reschedule for a week later and the whole time it just seemed like she didn't;t want to be there, and basically said as much. We've hung out a few times in group settings since then and half the time it seems like she hates me and half the time it seems like the opposite. And then earlier this week I asked when she was free and it was painfully obvious that she was reluctant to hang out, and I basically told her that if she doesn't want to hang out with me then that's fine we don't have to. But we made plans for today. And then last night I wanted to confirm the plans and she canceled again. Then today she said maybe she would be free today. And then she canceled again.

It's just frustrating and I don't really know what to do. Another friend had asked if I was free today and I told them no because I had these other plans. I understand being disorganized or being busy, but it just seems like I'm the only one putting effort into maintaining this friendship. It seems like the only time we talk is when she tries to keep our snap streak alive. I want to try and mend the friendship and make it strong like it once was but I don't really know how, I don't know if I can. I don't know when it reaches a point where it's not worth the effort anymore.

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Old June 29th, 2018, 04:59 PM   #2
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Default Re: When do you reach a breaking point?

If she is truly a friend, then there really shouldn't be any breaking point...unless she does something REALLY terrible. Stuff happens, people's lives change... I really only have like 2 or 3 friends that I see on a REGULAR basis...all the others I just kind of see whenever...but they are still good friends.

How about just stop trying to get her to hang out for a while, she will probably notice...and then she'll come to you.

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Old June 29th, 2018, 05:53 PM   #3
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Default Re: When do you reach a breaking point?

Don't ask her again at this time. Give
her space and c if she makes the next
move. If not then she maybe just lost
interest. U can ask her what the prob
is but she might not give u an answer.
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Old June 29th, 2018, 06:10 PM   #4
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Default Re: When do you reach a breaking point?

Maybe she just want to keep you happy so she tries to meet you but then can't force herself to meet you.

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Old June 30th, 2018, 10:30 AM   #5
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Default Re: When do you reach a breaking point?

I'd back off entirely from trying to make plans with her. Be nice, polite and respectful but perhaps a bit more aloof. Maybe she is feeling pressured or perhaps she is unsure about the relationship she has with you. Again, I'd back off and let her decide if she wants to hang out and continue a friendly relationship with you. Good luck.
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Old June 30th, 2018, 10:34 AM   #6
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Be straight up and ask her what’s wrong. If she gives some weird bullshit answer stop wasting your time with her. People just change like that.
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Old June 30th, 2018, 12:36 PM   #7
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Mostly if friends do the same things your does. Dont like it when dont show up. i instantly lose it when i keep asking them and they dont give a good answer
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