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Old February 5th, 2019, 05:40 AM   #1
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my friend's sister tried to commit suicide today (second time in 2 weeks) and I'm not sure how to support him, and what to do since he really only talks to me. What should I say to him? What do I say? Do? Think? I want to be supportive as he confines in me but I don't know anything about self-harm

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Old February 5th, 2019, 07:57 AM   #2
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I would tell him you’re there for him for whatever he needs and let him come to you when he’s ready. Sometimes it’s easier not to talk about stuff right away.
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Old February 5th, 2019, 06:01 PM   #3
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Let him know you're there for him in any way he needs you.

I've found it helpful to ask the person what they need from a friend, how you can help him.

Some people want to talk about it. Some people def don't want to talk about it. Some people want to be around others and some want to be alone.

If he wants to be alone, ask him if he'd like you to check in with him.

Don't expect you can change the way he feels or that you can make things better for him. Just be there in whatever way he'd like you to be there.
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Old February 14th, 2019, 03:50 PM   #4
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People don't change... He did it twice already, he will try it in future again and no matter what you say to him. These people are bombs with time mechanism, all you can do is try to cut some wires to back the x day, but it will come anyway... If you want to help him, let him go...
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Old February 14th, 2019, 06:29 PM   #5
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You have to tell her you are always there to listen to her. Sometimes just sitting there and lending an ear or a shoulder to cry on is the best thing you can offer.
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Old February 14th, 2019, 10:45 PM   #6
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I think also your friend would need to see a shrink in order to talk about it. Or maybe go to a meeting in whichpeople talk about experiences. It's not easy when you feel very bad. When you're a suicidal person, you don't want to talk about it, yes. You prefer to isolate yourself from the rest of the friends, family. You put a negative pin on things, you see everything in black. You can only support him indeed but i think your friend need help. It's serious at this stage. What do his parents think about it?

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