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Old May 27th, 2019, 03:53 PM   #1
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I've always been attracted to girls and have had girlfriends (usually it doesn't last because my dad ruins it for me) but there is this man who is a lot older than i am (he is a male social worker that i see) who i feel attracted to and i wonder if it is normal to feel an attraction to older men and does it mean i am bi? i do not know but i definitely feel an attraction to this man and have had sexual thoughts about him but i guess its really inappropriate because he is older and he is a social worker. i have not told my parents as my dad goes mad about everything and this is another thing that would send him crazy and he would probably say i should have a different social worker but i really get on with him and do not want a different one
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Old May 27th, 2019, 04:05 PM   #2
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Feeling same-sex attractions are normal during puberty. I consider myself straight, but I've felt attracted to a male or two, but the attractions went away. I wouldn't make it a big deal. As for the older part, I have older friends, but haven't been attracted to them as you have stated.

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Old May 28th, 2019, 12:40 AM   #3
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It may or may not. Could be it's just your body "thinking out loud", so to speak, figuring out what it likes. So you're not necessarily bi, but it's not impossible either.

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Old May 28th, 2019, 01:11 AM   #4
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It may just be the role model / inspirational nature of the guy and it’s not really a sexuality thing
Lots of guys can’t stop staring at Zac Efron when he takes off his shirt but they aren’t gay either
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Old July 23rd, 2019, 03:40 AM   #5
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I had a massive crush on our youth councilor. But never really towards a girl/woman. I do sometimes stare, but thats just because I want to see what she has that I don't. Nothing romantic
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Old July 23rd, 2019, 11:52 AM   #6
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It may just be the role model / inspirational nature of the guy and it’s not really a sexuality thing
Sometimes people feel more attraction to people with power. It's a psychological thing
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Old July 23rd, 2019, 01:13 PM   #7
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It is normal to have these feelings and
crushes on older men. I wouldn't carry
anything out with him cause he may
lose his job and u will not have him
to help u. It is good to fantasize but
I would channel my feelings to some
one who is closer in ur age group.
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Old July 26th, 2019, 11:05 PM   #8
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I been attracted to older guys like in their 20s and early 30s.

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Old July 30th, 2019, 10:06 PM   #9
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Yeah I get this feeling
And older guys are hitting on younger more and more too
We get that a lot at the beach
They like us to go for a walk with them into the dunes
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I was really attracted to my math tutor - granted I was 15 (since turned 16) and he was 20, now almost 21. So not a HUGE age difference but seen as not appropriate either. We hung out a lot over the summer and my parents knew, but my dad is his college adviser and well, you can guess how it turned out. So, natural - sure. Allowed, not always.

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Old October 3rd, 2019, 07:55 PM   #11
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Hey Riley I know we’ve chatted a bit over time but.....gonna be straight up honest here ok? Cause I’ve been in situations with authoritative older men

1). Your dad is hard on you, always was and prolly always will be
2). What you don’t get from him you may be looking for what you lack on dad from someone else with similar authority
3). Nothing wrong with older guys, there hot, know what they want and want we want also, there experienced.
4). If it feels good bro go for it.....so long as it consenting and nobody gets hurt

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perfectly natural, perfectly normal to have feelings like that despite the age difference. I used to be attracted to my therapist who was way older than me and was really crushed when he left because we really worked. BUt its nothing out of the ordinary for you to have feelings like that. I wouldnt tell your dad about it though, it would only cause more stress and anxiety for you and its not like you are going to act on your feelings, anyway. Right?

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Was intrigued once when I was ten by an older boy. I was in my gay/curious phase and this older boy who was sixteen came into the locker room at the Y. He was changing and I saw that he was hard. He didn’t seem to care that I saw besides I too was naked (not hard though... or yet anyway) I said I thought It was pretty big . He had a little hair but I personally don’t like hair there but at the time I didn’t give it much thought. I learned he too must have been gay because he said he thought mine (small and hairless) was cute looking.

I told my then “boyfriend” about it and he said to stop looking at other boys.

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Was intrigued once when I was ten by an older boy. I was in my gay/curious phase and this older boy who was sixteen came into the locker room at the Y. He was changing and I saw that he was hard. He didn’t seem to care that I saw besides I too was naked (not hard though... or yet anyway) I said I thought It was pretty big . He had a little hair but I personally don’t like hair there but at the time I didn’t give it much thought. I learned he too must have been gay because he said he thought mine (small and hairless) was cute looking.

I told my then “boyfriend” about it and he said to stop looking at other boys.
Your perpencity for bullshit never fails to amuse me.

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Old November 20th, 2019, 05:41 PM   #15
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i've moved on from the social worker now
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Old November 22nd, 2019, 01:54 PM   #16
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Can't blame you. Guys (and girls) our age tend to be immature lol

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Your perpencity for bullshit never fails to amuse me.
What a cynic you are. I'll bet you don't believe that cute avatar pic is of him either, do you?
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What a cynic you are. I'll bet you don't believe that cute avatar pic is of him either, do you?
I highly suspect it to be his nephew

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