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Old May 28th, 2019, 12:53 AM   #1
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So Iím staying with my grandparents for the summer
My brother may join us but I doubt it, not for long
My twin sister is staying with mom in the city and has no wish to come out here in the Rockies.
Weíve grown apart the last few years to the point I just barely know her and sheís my twin so itís even harder
But I just canít stand to be around her, I love her but sheís just this totally different person now, has no respect for herself and I worry sheís going to end up pregnant or get an STD the way sheís going

I donít like getting caught up in her drama and being around her friends

Breaks my heart but I donít want to go home, I want to stay and change school and live with my grandparents
Itís like nothing I can do to help her

Sorry I donít know if Iím venting or asking for help or not
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Old May 28th, 2019, 04:33 AM   #2
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Was it real????
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Old May 28th, 2019, 04:40 AM   #3
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I'm sorry to hear this. I can't even imagine the frustration when a family member ruin themselves like that. :/

If you get a parrot and name it Polly, you don't have much imagination.
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Old May 28th, 2019, 10:37 AM   #4
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It does sound like your heart is in the right place. She may just be going through a phase or completely down hill. Let her know you are there for her. Ask your parents if there is anything else you can do. All i can say is if she does something silly like get pregnant young, she will have a sister that cares for her and will support her
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Old May 28th, 2019, 11:05 AM   #5
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Sorry to read on this familys can be really difficult
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Old May 28th, 2019, 06:05 PM   #6
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Family can be like that sometimes. But from what you said sounds like you still care about them. Have you told your sister how you feel about how she acts? And do your parents know you feel this way? And know everything about what your sister is doing?
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Old May 28th, 2019, 10:28 PM   #7
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Was it real????
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Old May 28th, 2019, 10:33 PM   #8
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Thanks everyone for your kind words <3

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I'm sorry to hear this. I can't even imagine the frustration when a family member ruin themselves like that. :/
It’s just really hard, it hurts, I know she’s not happy and she’s just being so self destructive

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It does sound like your heart is in the right place. She may just be going through a phase or completely down hill. Let her know you are there for her. Ask your parents if there is anything else you can do. All i can say is if she does something silly like get pregnant young, she will have a sister that cares for her and will support her
I know and I have tried and I’ve told her that but when I do it’s very much a “so?” / “like I care” response
I’m giving her space, she knows how to find me

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Sorry to read on this familys can be really difficult
It really is. It just makes no sense

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Family can be like that sometimes. But from what you said sounds like you still care about them. Have you told your sister how you feel about how she acts? And do your parents know you feel this way? And know everything about what your sister is doing?
I have and she just doesn’t care, mom is doing all she can, but it got to the point where she would throw all my things out of our room and said I needed to find somewhere else
I think that’s what hurt that most
We were so twin close I just felt lost for months
I’ve put several states between us, hopefully absense makes the heart grow fonder and she’ll have a change of heart and want to come see our grandparents too
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Hioe you work it out )
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Old May 29th, 2019, 10:25 AM   #10
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Iím giving her space. All of them really
Took buses from Maine to Colorado and Iím staying with my grandparents for the summer or longer
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I have and she just doesnít care, mom is doing all she can, but it got to the point where she would throw all my things out of our room and said I needed to find somewhere else
I think thatís what hurt that most
We were so twin close I just felt lost for months
Iíve put several states between us, hopefully absense makes the heart grow fonder and sheíll have a change of heart and want to come see our grandparents too
Yeah having some time away to yourself sounds like a good idea. And hope that in that time she'll realize how much shes hurt you, and what shes doing isn't that good an idea and she'll probably regret this time of her life in the future

Is there anything that happened to make her the way she is at the moment that you know of? As you said you were close I'm guessing she was more like you when she was younger
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Old May 29th, 2019, 03:11 PM   #12
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Yeah having some time away to yourself sounds like a good idea. And hope that in that time she'll realize how much shes hurt you, and what shes doing isn't that good an idea and she'll probably regret this time of her life in the future

Is there anything that happened to make her the way she is at the moment that you know of? As you said you were close I'm guessing she was more like you when she was younger
I canít think of any one thing but sheís been drifting further away for yeari noticed at my grandparents looking at vacation photos, sheís hardly in them 4 years ago even
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Iím giving her space. All of them really
Took buses from Maine to Colorado and Iím staying with my grandparents for the summer or longer
thats good to hear space can work at times.
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I hope you’re okay
I’m feeling really distanced from my sister and brothers right now
They’re... used to a level of intimacy together I can’t deal with even after they got me to try it
I think you went through something similar
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I’m sorry you’re going through that. Were you always close before? She could just be going through a phase like some people said. I’ve seen some shows or things (can’t really remember) that said sometimes one twin will try to be different so that they can feel like they have their own identity instead of being known as a “twin”. Hopefully everything will work out.
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I hope youíre okay
Iím feeling really distanced from my sister and brothers right now
Theyíre... used to a level of intimacy together I canít deal with even after they got me to try it
I think you went through something similar
Yes sounds like the same situation
He got us to do things when we were younger on vacation but I thought it stopped there, but he continued with her and went further
How far did things go with you, her and your bros?
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Yes sounds like the same situation
He got us to do things when we were younger on vacation but I thought it stopped there, but he continued with her and went further
How far did things go with you, her and your bros?
Oh you too :/?
Yeah it sounds like someone should start a support group here, I know enough who claim to have been involved in it, some positively, most negatively

I have two bros, 14 and 17 years old
Turns out my oldest bro and sister (15) have been doing it a couple years and encouraged my other brother to get me into it
felt right at the time
Theyíve both had me since
But now I donít want to and told them and theyíve stopped trying with me because they donít want me to say anything to our parents
I donít want to tell my parents either but at least hey donít try anymore
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Oh you too :/?
Yeah it sounds like someone should start a support group here, I know enough who claim to have been involved in it, some positively, most negatively

I have two bros, 14 and 17 years old
Turns out my oldest bro and sister (15) have been doing it a couple years and encouraged my other brother to get me into it
felt right at the time
Theyíve both had me since
But now I donít want to and told them and theyíve stopped trying with me because they donít want me to say anything to our parents
I donít want to tell my parents either but at least hey donít try anymore
I hope you can stil stay close with your siblings in other ways
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I hope you can stil stay close with your siblings in other ways
Why do you hope that?
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Why do you hope that?
They are your family. I think families should look out for early other
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