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Old October 21st, 2018, 07:24 AM   #1
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Hey Everyone.
So I knew I was gay about 7 months ago (I知 16). I realized I was super attracted to guys and I was never atttaced to girls. I masturbated to guys and gay porn and on the street for example I値l be looking at guys. I知 pretty sure I知 gay.
Yesterday I came out to my sister (20) and she was super happy for me, but she said that I知 a little young and the truth is since I haven稚 kissed a girl/guy or had sex with a girl/guy So i don稚 really know. She thinks I should experiment and really know.
I still am almost positive I知 gay cause I知 attracted to men! I literally only have sexual attraction to men and basically none to women.
What do you guys think? Should I come out soon, or should I wait until I experiment more? Thanks!
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Old October 21st, 2018, 09:29 AM   #2
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Hey Everyone.
So I knew I was gay about 7 months ago (I知 16). I realized I was super attracted to guys and I was never atttaced to girls. I masturbated to guys and gay porn and on the street for example I値l be looking at guys. I知 pretty sure I知 gay.
Yesterday I came out to my sister (20) and she was super happy for me, but she said that I知 a little young and the truth is since I haven稚 kissed a girl/guy or had sex with a girl/guy So i don稚 really know. She thinks I should experiment and really know.
I still am almost positive I知 gay cause I知 attracted to men! I literally only have sexual attraction to men and basically none to women.
What do you guys think? Should I come out soon, or should I wait until I experiment more? Thanks!
It is pretty clear that you are gay based upon what you have described, and it is good that your Sister was supportive.

I would be careful about coming out because you need to look at the situation at home and beyond. If you have a family that would accept your reality and support you, then coming out should not be an issue; if you have a family that is homophobic, then wait until you're 18 and are out on your own to come out because by then you can do your own thing. My thinking is that you really should hold off on coming out until you find the right person and know that you will be safe at home, with your extended family, and beyond.

As for experimenting, I would not recommend that. It is not good that you use others or yourself as a guinea pig to determine your sexuality. When you share yourself with someone it has to be because you both deeply care about each other and want to express that love in a physical way. Sexuality should not be like going to an ice cream store where one takes samples of different ice creams to figure out what they like. It is your choice, but I would not just put yourself out there and be used like a tissue for the sake of discovering your sexuality.
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Old October 21st, 2018, 10:20 AM   #3
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Hey Everyone.
So I knew I was gay about 7 months ago (I知 16). I realized I was super attracted to guys and I was never atttaced to girls. I masturbated to guys and gay porn and on the street for example I値l be looking at guys. I知 pretty sure I知 gay.
Yesterday I came out to my sister (20) and she was super happy for me, but she said that I知 a little young and the truth is since I haven稚 kissed a girl/guy or had sex with a girl/guy So i don稚 really know. She thinks I should experiment and really know.
I still am almost positive I知 gay cause I知 attracted to men! I literally only have sexual attraction to men and basically none to women.
What do you guys think? Should I come out soon, or should I wait until I experiment more? Thanks!
First off, good on you for knowing yourself. Second, sounds like you've got a great and supportive sister. All I'd suggest saying to her is to ask how she knew she was straight (assuming she is) before she'd ever kissed a guy. There are some things you just know and at 16 you're only a short skip from being considered an adult.

Bear in mind that sexual attraction isn't a once-and-forever carved in stone thing. It can change. When I was 12 or 13 I was certain I was gay. By 15/16 I thought I was straight. Now I'm certain I am bisexual and attracted to both guys and girls.

Whatever, be confident in yourself. Have fun and be safe with those you get involved with and make sure there is respect involved and that it goes both ways. Peace.

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Old October 22nd, 2018, 06:45 AM   #4
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Hey Everyone.
So I knew I was gay about 7 months ago (I’m 16). I realized I was super attracted to guys and I was never atttaced to girls. I masturbated to guys and gay porn and on the street for example I’ll be looking at guys. I’m pretty sure I’m gay.
Yesterday I came out to my sister (20) and she was super happy for me, but she said that I’m a little young and the truth is since I haven’t kissed a girl/guy or had sex with a girl/guy So i don’t really know. She thinks I should experiment and really know.
I still am almost positive I’m gay cause I’m attracted to men! I literally only have sexual attraction to men and basically none to women.
What do you guys think? Should I come out soon, or should I wait until I experiment more? Thanks!

Well done for knowing, being proud of and telling your sister and all of us. I’m also the same as you (except I’m 13) with the same situation and the few people I have told (close friends) have been really supportive and proud of me. If you are sure you are gay then you shouldn’t have to experiment. If your family don’t judge homosexuals then it should be ok to come out to them and if your friends are true friends then they shouldn’t judge you either so it’s up to you but it should be ok to come out whenever

Recently I told my parents and they said similar things, about how I should experiment but they also said to keep an open mind because I might just be confused but I know I’m not because it’s been at least a year since I realised I was gay... I don’t know how to feel to be honest because I feel like they don’t trust me or don’t want that to be who I am but they say they will support me no matter what.

A weird yet normal 13yr old going through puberty. What痴 the worst that can happen??

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Old October 22nd, 2018, 02:27 PM   #5
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I would say that u r gay and if the
time is right I would experiment but
since u have had no contact with girls
or guys how can u experiment more to
prove if u r gay or not. There is nothing
wrong in being gay and if u care to come
out and u r confident in urself to do so
then do it but there is no hurry.
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Old October 22nd, 2018, 03:35 PM   #6
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If you say you are gay then you are gay. Experiment if you want to but dont do it cause You think you have to.

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Old October 25th, 2018, 04:21 PM   #7
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You need not come out as gay until you feel the time is right. There is no problem with experimenting too. I would say by what you posted that you are most likely gay. I knew myself when I was between 11-12.

I am gay and happy with that.
I love talking to people very open & willing to listen.
I am also glad to try help with questions or problems.
Hit me up for anything. I promise I don't bite.
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Old October 25th, 2018, 04:23 PM   #8
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no offense but, your sister sounds like a c**T

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Old October 25th, 2018, 04:35 PM   #9
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It is pretty clear that you are gay based upon what you have described, and it is good that your Sister was supportive.

I would be careful about coming out because you need to look at the situation at home and beyond. If you have a family that would accept your reality and support you, then coming out should not be an issue; if you have a family that is homophobic, then wait until you're 18 and are out on your own to come out because by then you can do your own thing. My thinking is that you really should hold off on coming out until you find the right person and know that you will be safe at home, with your extended family, and beyond.

As for experimenting, I would not recommend that. It is not good that you use others or yourself as a guinea pig to determine your sexuality. When you share yourself with someone it has to be because you both deeply care about each other and want to express that love in a physical way. Sexuality should not be like going to an ice cream store where one takes samples of different ice creams to figure out what they like. It is your choice, but I would not just put yourself out there and be used like a tissue for the sake of discovering your sexuality.
I agree with the above. I would wait until 18 to tell anyone else. A friend of mine told his parents and he was thrown out of his house.
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Old October 25th, 2018, 05:26 PM   #10
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Default Re: Gay. Came out to my sister.

Sexuality is about attraction, not experience, so if you're attracted to guys but not girls and you're sure of that, then you're most likely gay. You don't need to have kissed, had sex, or otherwise experimented with someone to know sexuality for sure.
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Old October 26th, 2018, 07:22 AM   #11
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Well ok then. She’s not she was super nice about it, she was just in a little bit of shock and she wants to make sure that I’m happy. Quite the opposite of a c**t tbh.
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Old October 26th, 2018, 03:34 PM   #12
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If you think and feel you are gay then you are gay. Don't let your sister decide what you are.
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Old October 28th, 2018, 09:38 PM   #13
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good for you man! Don't be afraid to switch around labels a lot, but if you feel like something sticks, than thats the one for you. if you feel like you are gay then you are gay and that is that
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Old November 11th, 2018, 05:15 PM   #14
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You seem pretty sure about your sexual orientation. That's really brave of you to come out like that.
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Sexuality is about attraction, not experience, so if you're attracted to guys but not girls and you're sure of that, then you're most likely gay. You don't need to have kissed, had sex, or otherwise experimented with someone to know sexuality for sure.
Totally agree
It痴 like my best buddy is gay but before he came out he was really conflicted as you can imagine and girls loved this guy (what痴 up with that lol?) and he痴 done stuff with them - but he told me how he felt he really was
He knew I was straight but asked if we could try some things
Just for him to be sure basically, and yes we did and yes he realised he was totes gay
I知 not saying I was grossed out or didn稚 like all of it but I知 not attracted to him or other guys - I知 comfortable with me
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Love you my dude.

I came out at 15 so I know you're struggles!


talk to me if you need, I know the feels.
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I mean I have sex or had my first kiss, but I masturbate to gay porn and just know that I am 100 percent gay. Wait a few more months tho to make sure u are confident in yourself and it will make it easier to come out, good luck x
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