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Old December 6th, 2017, 12:48 AM   #1
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Unhappy I only have two friends....they started dating.....and Iím in love with one of them.

For a long time I didint really have any friends until earlier this year. One, a boy is one of the best people I have ever met and the best friend I ever had. The other, a girl...I fell deeply in love with.

I started liking her earlier in the summer, before they started dating and from what I know my friend was able to tell. Later that summer she told me that she liked him and not long after that they started dating.

Itís been many months now, they both know I like her, and everyday I still fall deeper in love with her. I feel like she is my soulmate and everyday I see them all over eachother and it just hurts so bad. Iíve tried many times to move on from her but I just canít.

I donít know what to do to feel better...can someone help.
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Old December 6th, 2017, 06:26 AM   #2
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That is hard to take. Since u
knew her first and ur best friend
stepped in-r u sure he is the best
friend that u make him out to b.
Idk-only u know them well enough
to understand if they r making u feel
jealous. Either u wish them luck or get
to know someone else. Just maybe their
relationship will end and then u can step
back in. Get to make other friends.
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Old December 7th, 2017, 01:44 PM   #3
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I know that this is really hard. I went through something similar once. My advice is to try to distance yourself from your closest friends. Since they are so close it will be difficult. When you see them or think about her you are feeding your feelings for her and as long as you continue to do so these feelings will grow.

You also need to stop concentrating on those feelings. My advice is to make more friends. Join new activities and clubs. Act confident and make sure that you don't act desperate as it is an unattractive quality.


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Old December 7th, 2017, 04:03 PM   #4
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That is hard to take. Since u
knew her first and ur best friend
stepped in-r u sure he is the best
friend that u make him out to b.
Idk-only u know them well enough
to understand if they r making u feel
jealous. Either u wish them luck or get
to know someone else. Just maybe their
relationship will end and then u can step
back in. Get to make other friends.
I didnít get that the guy friend knew he liked her yet but possible

To the OP, you ever hear that old saying if you love something set it free?
Itís hard and what your going through is rough. Especially when itís your 2 best friends.

I see 2 sides here. If you keep chillin with them itís gonna eat you up inside
Other side is you lose close friends. Neither one is good.

Try and be happy for both of them the best you can. If/when they break up things will change in every way.
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Old December 8th, 2017, 07:55 PM   #5
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I know that this is really hard. I went through something similar once. My advice is to try to distance yourself from your closest friends. Since they are so close it will be difficult. When you see them or think about her you are feeding your feelings for her and as long as you continue to do so these feelings will grow.

You also need to stop concentrating on those feelings. My advice is to make more friends. Join new activities and clubs. Act confident and make sure that you don't act desperate as it is an unattractive quality.
I agree with this, the more close time you spend with them the harder it will be for you to move on from something that sounds unlikely to work out for you.

You say that they both know you like her, but do they really or are you thinking they must because you're so in love with her how could they not know? I'd find it weird if they knew and it didn't make things awkward for them.

You also said that your friend must've known you liked her, but again, did you actually ever tell him you were interested in her as more than a friend? Even close friends can't read minds. So it doesn't sound to me like he intentionally cut you out or stepped in, it probably looked to him like you guys were just friends and then she put out there that she liked him.

As hard as it might be to hear, even if she hadn't started dating him, there's no guarantee she would've dated you if she didn't feel the same way. And even if they were to break up, she might not want to date you. Sorry, not trying to be harsh, but I think you need to step back and think about all this realistically.

It probably seems like she's the only one for you (soulmate) if you've stopped being open to other possibilities. Like NewLeafsFan said, start broadening what you do, make new friends, clubs, etc.

Hope everything works out for you!
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Old December 11th, 2017, 02:33 AM   #6
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You can only wait and look around. I'm sure there are a lot of good girls around who you do not really want to know.
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Old December 11th, 2017, 07:45 AM   #7
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This... is such a sucky situation, I’m so sorry. Sometimes the fact that someone is unavailable is specifically why you want them so much. Maybe consider spending more time away from them for a while, since it sounds like this is really painful for you
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Old December 11th, 2017, 07:16 PM   #8
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Loosing out on a crush or love really hurts. Sadly there is really nothing you can do but to deal with it and accept that she is with your friend and not you. You have to move on my friend.

I am gay and happy with that.
I love talking to people very open & willing to listen.
I am also glad to try help with questions or problems.
Hit me up for anything. I promise I don't bite.
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Old December 11th, 2017, 10:19 PM   #9
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That must be really hard.

PM me any time if you wanna chat!
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