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Old November 30th, 2017, 07:07 PM   #1
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Default Yep, another confused sexuality thread :(

I just feel so unknowing, I want to know I am the norm but again I don't know if I am in deep denial. So I'm like 15 now and j/o is a guilty pleasure of mine though I am not sure if I should be concerned that I need porn to help me reach the end result . Though 80% I watch gay because it works, whereas if I watch straight, it takes probably twice as long to cum. Straight gives a slow turn on while gay can do the trick pretty well, I want to know I am straight though I am not sure if I am gay, even Bi. Though the thought of being Bi kills me because if I go for one gender, I feel like I am missing out on the other and I can never choose. It's like wth, can some 100% deity tell me something about me that I just can't answer

Edit Add-on: Maybe I am emotionally attracted to girls and more sexually attracted to guys? Though I wouldn't know cause I am still a virgin :/ (Is there any reason to keep it really? I feel sexual af, should I not lose it because of my hormones though?). But is being attracted to guys and girls like that even possible, if so.. then what do I even do.

Add-on: Yeah as I am discussing with myself like I am crazy, I guess does it mean something that I even considered making this thread? To get clarification about myself from other people? If I am doubting being straight, causing me to even make a thread could mean I am in denial?

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Old November 30th, 2017, 07:59 PM   #2
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Default Re: Yep, another confused sexuality thread :(

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I just feel so unknowing, I want to know I am the norm but again I don't know if I am in deep denial. So I'm like 15 now and j/o is a guilty pleasure of mine though I am not sure if I should be concerned that I need porn to help me reach the end result . Though 80% I watch gay because it works, whereas if I watch straight, it takes probably twice as long to cum. Straight gives a slow turn on while gay can do the trick pretty well, I want to know I am straight though I am not sure if I am gay, even Bi. Though the thought of being Bi kills me because if I go for one gender, I feel like I am missing out on the other and I can never choose. It's like wth, can some 100% deity tell me something about me that I just can't answer
With me when I was younger I thought I was completely straight because I'd watch straight porn but then I tried watching bisexual/gay porn and found it could turn me on at times more than straight porn. Because of that, I thought I was bi then.
However, my problem was that even though I was sexually bisexual and turned on by both male and female genitalia I was only ever attracted to women and only ever wanted to date women.
Throughout my whole life, there hasn't been a guy I've looked at and found attractive or thought about sexually. I jerked off with a friend of mine when I was younger and the experience was amazing but I wasn't attracted to him, more just his touch, cock and cum.

I'd eventually decided that my sexually was split. Strictly sexual I was bisexual however emotionally/facial and overall attraction I was heterosexual.
I'm not sure if there is any credit to that or if I'm in denial in some way but I believe that the sexual side of me being bisexual is because when I used to j/o when I was younger I used to try and time my finish with the guy in the video to last the whole time and focus on what was happening to him imagining it was happening to me, even though I'm clutching at straws I think the focus on that may have developed a sort of bisexual sexual side to me.
However though I love it, it gave me much more material and will provide me with much more fun opportunities in life XD.


I don't think you should worry about anything though, you sound pretty normal. You watch pretty straightforward porn and if you're not heterosexual you just have so many more chances to have fun in life. Experiment carefully and comfortably and just see what you like.
Also I wouldn't treat j/o as a guilty pleasure, I'd be shocked if there was a guy who hadn't j/o for at least a considerable period in his lifetime. Porn however, you could treat in a different way as obviously it can lead to addiction and erectile dysfunction if you use it too much so I'd leave that up to your own judgement (although the act of watching it isn't shameful at all).
If I was you next time though I'd try waiting until you're really turned on and rather than using porn just lay back and use your imagination. Think of different scenarios and see what turns you on the most, if it happens to be a gay/bi scenario then maybe that's what turns you on more and there's not a problem with that.
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Old December 3rd, 2017, 09:17 PM   #3
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Default Re: Yep, another confused sexuality thread :(

Give yourself some time to sort through things. You may want to try some things with guys to see what you think and feel. To me loosing your virginity should be with someone you love. People have different thoughts and opinions. Just follow your heart on this and you will be alright. Also there is nothing wrong with being Bi. You probably wouldn't want to get married if you are actively Bi so that you will have to deal with in time. For now be what you feel you want to be. You will know someday who and what you truly are.

I am gay and happy with that.
I love talking to people very open & willing to listen.
I am also glad to try help with questions or problems.
Hit me up for anything. I promise I don't bite.
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Old December 3rd, 2017, 09:45 PM   #4
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You actually seem pretty normal. It’s not uncommon to feel like you do. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
Just enjoy what you enjoy. It doesn’t matter your sexuality. You’ll eventually meet someone and that’ll be that. Male or female is only for the future to know. Between now and then it’s just a matter of enjoying who you are

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Old January 6th, 2018, 10:31 PM   #5
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Default Re: Yep, another confused sexuality thread :(

@Kory123
Hey! Iīve been posting this on different threads because there are many people that have the same doubts. Hope you find it useful:

(Before answering. English is not my native language, sorry for any mistakes)

Hey man! Look, someday I was talking with a straight friend and he explained me the meaning of the pride flag (or rainbow flag or the name you want). He told me that they choose a rainbow because the rainbow contains ALL the colors the human eye can see.

You see, the spectrum of sexuality is as big as the spectrum of colors and, as in the rainbow, there is not just one kind of color. For example, there is not one tone of "red" or "green" or whatever you like, there are many greens and many reds, itīs the same with sexual preference.

The way I see it it would be very hard to find one person COMPLETELY straight (or gay), I belive most of us are a different "tone", the situation is that almost our entire life society tells us that there are only two options: being straight or gay, and there is only one that is "correct". The way I see it a man can prefer girls and donīt feel anything about other men, but if he meets a VERY feminine guy he may like him. That doesnīt mean heīs gay or bi or whatever (the way I see it). He can even like something on certain age and then change his mind, and is perfectly fine. Or what could happen is that that person gets turned on watching any kind of gay porn and jerking off to it, or even capable of having any sexual dessire to people of the same sex and only feeling love with people of the opposite sex (what I mean is that some people may be cappable of having sex with a same sex person but only being able to feel LOVE with an opposite sex person).

In summary what I think is that you shouldnīt worry about this. When you get older you may define yourself in one "tone" or maybe not, and itīs ok. Just enjoy life man.

Btw, i checked on internet what my friend said about the meaning of the flag an didnīt found anything of what he said (lol), but I think that what he said would be a better explanation.

In addition to what I already said.
Iīve always watched porn like most people on the planet, and some day I was looking to the different categories and clicked on "gay". I saw the different options clicked on the video with the youngest looking actors (wasnīt interested in some 40+ year old actors obviously) and watched it. It was so different to straight, and I masturbated. It was awesome, a "whole new world"! Anyway, since then I must say that most of the porn I watch is of two+ men. I even had the chance to have sex a couple of times with different male partners (me being on top) and I enjoyed it, but itīs a completley different story if we talk about love. I am not interested in stablishing that kind of bond with a man, neither I feel like it, I can only feel love with a woman, thatīs why I consider myself more on the straight side. What Iīm trying to say is that theese kind of things donīt matter, just enjoy life.

Since I already wrote this much two more lines wonīt hurt. The best advice that I can give you is that, if you have given too much thoght on something and you canīt find the answer to it, just donīt give more sh*ts about it.
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Old January 10th, 2018, 01:53 PM   #6
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Default Re: Yep, another confused sexuality thread :(

Don't fret about it too much for the moment; overthinking won't help much and (from experience) will just make you feel even more confused. I'd say that if you aren't sure, don't rush to label yourself (publicly especially). For your own thoughts, I'd suggest to just go with what you fancy, whatever that may be. As you get older, you'll be able to experience relationships and whatnot until you can make a decision. What you're feeling is totally normal though - don't worry about being bi too - just because you like both genders, it doesn't make it much harder to settle down with one person that you love (its like how straight/gay people might still find other people of the same gender as their partner attractive, you might just find both attractive).
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Old February 6th, 2018, 03:55 PM   #7
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@Kory123
Hey! Iīve been posting this on different threads because there are many people that have the same doubts. Hope you find it useful:

(Before answering. English is not my native language, sorry for any mistakes)

Hey man! Look, someday I was talking with a straight friend and he explained me the meaning of the pride flag (or rainbow flag or the name you want). He told me that they choose a rainbow because the rainbow contains ALL the colors the human eye can see.

You see, the spectrum of sexuality is as big as the spectrum of colors and, as in the rainbow, there is not just one kind of color. For example, there is not one tone of "red" or "green" or whatever you like, there are many greens and many reds, itīs the same with sexual preference.

The way I see it it would be very hard to find one person COMPLETELY straight (or gay), I belive most of us are a different "tone", the situation is that almost our entire life society tells us that there are only two options: being straight or gay, and there is only one that is "correct". The way I see it a man can prefer girls and donīt feel anything about other men, but if he meets a VERY feminine guy he may like him. That doesnīt mean heīs gay or bi or whatever (the way I see it). He can even like something on certain age and then change his mind, and is perfectly fine. Or what could happen is that that person gets turned on watching any kind of gay porn and jerking off to it, or even capable of having any sexual dessire to people of the same sex and only feeling love with people of the opposite sex (what I mean is that some people may be cappable of having sex with a same sex person but only being able to feel LOVE with an opposite sex person).

In summary what I think is that you shouldnīt worry about this. When you get older you may define yourself in one "tone" or maybe not, and itīs ok. Just enjoy life man.

Btw, i checked on internet what my friend said about the meaning of the flag an didnīt found anything of what he said (lol), but I think that what he said would be a better explanation.

In addition to what I already said.
Iīve always watched porn like most people on the planet, and some day I was looking to the different categories and clicked on "gay". I saw the different options clicked on the video with the youngest looking actors (wasnīt interested in some 40+ year old actors obviously) and watched it. It was so different to straight, and I masturbated. It was awesome, a "whole new world"! Anyway, since then I must say that most of the porn I watch is of two+ men. I even had the chance to have sex a couple of times with different male partners (me being on top) and I enjoyed it, but itīs a completley different story if we talk about love. I am not interested in stablishing that kind of bond with a man, neither I feel like it, I can only feel love with a woman, thatīs why I consider myself more on the straight side. What Iīm trying to say is that theese kind of things donīt matter, just enjoy life.

Since I already wrote this much two more lines wonīt hurt. The best advice that I can give you is that, if you have given too much thoght on something and you canīt find the answer to it, just donīt give more sh*ts about it.

Thank you a lot! That has a lot of mind opening elaboration
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