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Old January 27th, 2018, 09:56 AM   #1
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Default How to come out to parents?

Up until my teen years I haven't felt any feelings for boys only girls. For the past 2 years I've been figuring out everything and don't really want to confine myself to a specific sexuality more like just open to anyone that will love me so if you had to specifically put me next to a sexuality i'd have to say pansexual (Ik my bio says bi but I'm to lazy to change).

What I'm trying to say is I don't know how to tell my family I want to explore all possibilities since I can't really say who I am right now. I don't know if my parents are homophobic or not I mean they voted yes for gay marriage legalisation so that's a good sign, they also watch shows with gay couples. My family are also religious including me. But apparently I can't be catholic if I'm not straight.

I hope someone can answer my questions.


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Old January 27th, 2018, 02:01 PM   #2
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Default Re: How to come out to parents?

Keep ur faith in God and u need not b afraid.
My opinion-U can b Catholic and religious and
whatever u want to b-as long as u don't hurt
anyone including urself. Now ur 13 and I think
there is a lot of time for u to figure out who u r
and when to tell anyone anything bout urself.
Get through the ups and downs of crazy puberty
first before u label urself. Ur parents seem to b
liberal and I agree that is in ur favor but I would
just live my life right now and like u said explore
all ur possibilities before u do or say anything.
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Old January 27th, 2018, 03:29 PM   #3
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Default Re: How to come out to parents?

Tbh i don't Think you need to tell them anything, figure your Life out and do
what you feel is right, and when you know who you are it will be easier to tell
them. I don't know your parents but they sound nice so you problebly don't
have anything to worry about. (Just try not to hide it to much, if they have a
hunch they might get 'use' to it befor you tell them)

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Old January 27th, 2018, 05:21 PM   #4
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Default Re: How to come out to parents?

You're only 13 so no rush, you don't have to label yourself, just have fun with life and when you get older you'll discover yourself more.

I remember when i was 13 i was adamant i was straight (in complete denial) despite my strong attraction for men haha.

Religion is perhaps more tricky, though your parents sound like very open minded and liberal Christians so you probably will be just fine coming out.
Furthermore, i know quite a few religious folk who happen to be part of the LGBT community, so you can have faith and be Bi/Pans.
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Old January 27th, 2018, 05:27 PM   #5
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Why do you need to tell anyone?
Just be who you are and theyll figure it out on their own
And the Catholic religion is becoming much more relaxed about same sex issues with the new pope in Town now
Plus your really young, hormones are making you feel all kindsa new weird stuff. Just enjoy it the best you can, dont label yourself yet, its harder to relabel yourself later on
So just roll with life

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Old January 27th, 2018, 10:26 PM   #6
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Default Re: How to come out to parents?

I agree, you don't have to make a statement. But if you want to know what your parents think, you can ask them about these matters. I mean, to know their opinion, ask general questions like "What do you think about this... that person's choice, that couple..." etc.

Sorry for my English...

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Old January 28th, 2018, 08:08 PM   #7
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Default Re: How to come out to parents?

Don't be in any hurry to come out. It sounds like you are not sure in your own mind so absolutely don't come out as gay until you know in your heart and mind that you are truly gay. Your only 13 so you are still at the age of peaked curiosity too. So just wait a while.

I am gay and happy with that.
I love talking to people very open & willing to listen.
I am also glad to try help with questions or problems.
Hit me up for anything. I promise I don't bite.
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Old February 4th, 2018, 11:35 PM   #8
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Default Re: How to come out to parents?

Lets start by talking about how you are defining yourself. You say that you don't want to label yourself, which is smart. As you kept writing, you labelled yourself twice. And then you asked us for advice about telling your parents about your latest label. Right now, you need to start fresh without any labels. You said that you want to explore your sexuality to see what you are and that is fine. However, that doesn't make you bi or pansexual, it makes you undecided. If that is what you discover that you are in the future, label yourself then. But only when you are confident in your findings.

Next, the Catholic Church. While many Catholics who disapprove of being anything other that straight, the church is liberalizing. Most Catholics know that it is more important not to judge one another than it is to debate over social issues. Whoever told you that you can't be Catholic and a homosexual is incorrect.


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