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Old July 17th, 2017, 03:27 PM   #1
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Sup my dudes -
Maybe this is the wrong forum, no idea. But I need some help.
I lost my virginity a long while ago. It was with a girl I thought I loved, I regret it, but it was the past.
I'm sexually active, but recently, I've been having the same problem over and over. When we get to wanting to have vaginal sex, I can get hard enough but not stay that way long enough to actually penetrate. The girl I'm with is a longtime girlfriend who says she understands, but I can tell every time it happens she''s bummed that we didn't do it. I have no performance problems at all until it comes to the moment of actual penetration.
Anybody else know what I'm talking about? I don't think its comfort or stress anymore with her. I watched a ton of porn for several years, and until about 6 months ago, I was the only one that could get myself to climax, and only with at least the sound of a porno in the background. I haven't used it since then, hoping that if it was my brain, I would return to normal.

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Old July 17th, 2017, 03:46 PM   #2
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How often you have sex?
You sure your attracted to her?
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Old July 17th, 2017, 04:25 PM   #3
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I think you're 18, why don't you go see a doctor. Maybe he can give you some "help." It sounds like the equipment works ok but the circumstances are somehow messing with your head.
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Old July 17th, 2017, 04:47 PM   #4
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I don't think it's about the porn.
My guess would be that you're getting nervous in that moment and boners don't work well with nervous. You should maybe try to relax, don't take it so seriously, after all, sex is, besides hundred other things, a game. It's supposed to be fun.

So try to ignore these momentary thoughts, get over your nervousness, play along with her, maybe let her lead the whole thing, be creative on the foreplay, turn off your mind for a bit and let the body do its thing.

If that doesn't work, well, a neat old blowjob is always the answer.

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Old July 17th, 2017, 05:22 PM   #5
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It's definitely not an attraction thing.. She can get me to climax every way that I've ever had her try. It's just right at the moment of getting inside her, it doesnt work. I have to be laying on my back to get that hard as well - I cant stand up and keep it that way

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Old July 17th, 2017, 06:22 PM   #6
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Have u had the same prob
with others? Maybe it is her not
being turned on to totally arouse u.
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Old July 17th, 2017, 07:11 PM   #7
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I've had the problem with others before.. But in those cases, I basically realized that the issues were in the girl's lack of ability to get me turned on. Now, that's not the case at all. The girl that I've been trying with most certainly does, and it's glaringly obvious how aroused she gets around me as well

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Old July 17th, 2017, 08:18 PM   #8
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I don't think it's about the porn.
My guess would be that you're getting nervous in that moment and boners don't work well with nervous. You should maybe try to relax, don't take it so seriously, after all, sex is, besides hundred other things, a game. It's supposed to be fun.

So try to ignore these momentary thoughts, get over your nervousness, play along with her, maybe let her lead the whole thing, be creative on the foreplay, turn off your mind for a bit and let the body do its thing.

If that doesn't work, well, a neat old blowjob is always the answer.
Im guessing what he said.. That the situation is messing w ure head (pun kinda intended) and when it comes to prforming the brain sez no, so the bonr sez oh well.
Try and relax, laugh, and like OK said, juss try and enjoy it for what it is.

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Old July 17th, 2017, 08:20 PM   #9
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Maybe you need her to do more foreplay with you and really get you in the mood more. Sex is a two way street. Both partners need to help each other out to enjoy it at it's best. Try talk to her to do some things for you to get really hot. Things will work great then.

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Old July 17th, 2017, 08:26 PM   #10
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It happens to me but I am bi and so far I only date two guy. I am able to get hard but I can't cum from it. It is something psychological with your brain. I talk to my roommate and he had similar problems.

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Old July 17th, 2017, 10:39 PM   #11
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I've talked to her and I can tell she gets it.. but like.. It's not my inability to cum. I can from a BJ or her hand just fine. It's literally just penetrating her to get inside. We've been able to before - usually after a couple drinks or a joint, though

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Old July 18th, 2017, 04:53 AM   #12
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U should go to the doc and see what he says
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Old July 18th, 2017, 05:05 AM   #13
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Do you use condoms?
I know for me that's a dick softener lol!!
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Old July 18th, 2017, 09:47 AM   #14
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boners don't work well with nervous
Oh, this could easily become my favourite quote.
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Old July 18th, 2017, 09:56 AM   #15
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Oh, this could easily become my favourite quote.
I'd then have to suggest this:
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Do you use condoms?
I know for me that's a dick softener lol!!
as a second favorite. Condoms, the good ol' dick softeners. Pure gold and 100% relatable.

I need a drink.
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Old July 18th, 2017, 01:07 PM   #16
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Condoms, the good ol' dick softeners. Pure gold and 100% relatable.
See, I don't have that issue with condoms. I mean, I am not a fan how they feel, but they don't "bring me down".
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Old July 18th, 2017, 02:02 PM   #17
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You should really ask a doctor about this. A doctor xould definetely point you in a better direction thsn a bunch of teenagers on this forum can.
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Old July 18th, 2017, 02:28 PM   #18
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Condoms are a total no-go. They kill it every time, even if I'm alone. Luckily she has an IUD.

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Old August 1st, 2017, 09:12 PM   #19
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Maybe you could try lube. If you are already using lube try a different one. Hand jobs and BJs are only for your pleasure and not hers. Is it possible that you get nervous when you know you are going to pleasure her. You could have a psychological problem. If it keeps up see a dr.


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