Virtual Teen Forums
 

Go Back   Virtual Teen Forums > >
Register Blogs FAQ Calendar Mark Forums Read Chat Room

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old March 31st, 2017, 03:27 PM   #1
sunflowerfields15
New Member
 
sunflowerfields15's Forum Picture
 
Name: Grace
Join Date: March 31, 2017
Location: California
Gender: Female
Default Am I being abused by my girlfriend?

I've been with my girlfriend Mia for almost six months, and our relationship is going good so far, but she's been acting weird lately. She gets irritated by the smallest thing, and then yells at me for no reason about it. She apologizes after. She's gotten worse over the past month because she's been dealing with issues with her parents. She yells more and louder, and I thought she was going to slap me. A few days ago, I was trying to back away from her when she was yelling, but I was up to the wall and she grabbed my arm and now my wrist has a huge bruise on it. My brother and mom asked about it and I just said it was from dance (I'm a dancer and get bruised a lot). I'm scared and I want to talk to her about it but I don't want her to get upset or have my family find out.
sunflowerfields15 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old March 31st, 2017, 04:03 PM   #2
BlackParadePixie
Awesome Poster
 
BlackParadePixie's Forum Picture
 
Name: Fiona
Join Date: September 22, 2014
Location: San Diego, CA
Gender: Female
Default Re: Am I being abused by my girlfriend?

Personally, IMO, I think calling that abuse would be a stretch. She has a temper, that's obvious. Just talk to her, maybe at a time when you know she is not so annoyed by things.

17 - f - Wes Anderson fan


BlackParadePixie is offline   Reply With Quote
Old April 1st, 2017, 05:55 AM   #3
maddogmj77
Nice Poster
 
maddogmj77's Forum Picture
 
Name: Matthew
Join Date: February 14, 2014
Location: California, USA
Age: 17
Gender: Male
Default Re: Am I being abused by my girlfriend?

If your partner is physically hurting you, then yes, that's abuse.

She may be going through a hard-time right now & taking it out on you. It's difficult to judge the situation.

You need to have a serious conversation with her about this, it's not okay.

It's pretty serious if you're actually scared to talk to your partner about something, that isn't right.

Try bringing it up to her when she's in a calm mood; You can do it over text if you don't feel safe enough to do it in person

Matthew - 17 - Gay
Feel free to message me

"Is this a test? It has to be, otherwise I can't go on."
maddogmj77 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old April 1st, 2017, 08:55 AM   #4
Amethyst Rose
The Fragile
 
Amethyst Rose's Forum Picture
 
Join Date: May 27, 2016
Location: The Crystal Garden
Gender: Cisgender Female
Blog Entries: 22
Default Re: Am I being abused by my girlfriend?

At this point, I wouldn't call it abuse. But if you don't take care of it while it's still a fledgling then it could very well escalate to that. You need to have a serious talk with her about how her temper is affecting you. If she needs outside help like counseling that's up to her, just let her know you'll support her, you care about her and you can't continue putting up with this.

"To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world."
PM Me Ask Me [email protected]

Quote:
Originally Posted by Desynchronized View Post
Gawd dammit the mods r so cruel.
Quote:
Originally Posted by The Special One View Post
I just food and I still have a hungry.
Amethyst Rose is offline   Reply With Quote
Old April 1st, 2017, 09:26 PM   #5
PlasmaHam
Awesome Poster
 
PlasmaHam's Forum Picture
 
Join Date: July 7, 2016
Location: The South
Gender: Male
Default Re: Am I being abused by my girlfriend?

Abuse is such an overused word. I don't see your girlfriend as initially abusive, but I do suggest you talk to her about her increasing hostility though. She is probably just going through a hard time and doesn't realize that she is taking it out on you. Just talk this out.
PlasmaHam is offline   Reply With Quote
Old April 1st, 2017, 09:52 PM   #6
Beauregard
Member
 
Beauregard's Forum Picture
 
Join Date: November 12, 2012
Gender: Male
Default Re: Am I being abused by my girlfriend?

It doesn't matter what you call it but it's wrong not being able to control your temper for whatever reason and lash out on innocents.
So I would advise you to talk to your girlfriend about it. It's maybe not an abusive relationship on this point but it's also not a healthy relationship anymore if you are afraid of her and lie about where your bruises come from.
This is exactly the pattern how abusive relationships start.
Beauregard is offline   Reply With Quote
Old April 3rd, 2017, 10:41 AM   #7
Just JT
I give a actual fuck
 
Just JT's Forum Picture
 
Name: JT
Join Date: June 27, 2015
Location: Kingdom of God
Gender: Male
Blog Entries: 4
Default Re: Am I being abused by my girlfriend?

I agree with everyone here. Abuse is called all kinds of things. And it's an easy progression to get worset, especially if you don't put a stop to it. Only cause she will believe it's ok to treat you this way

Reality is that when someone uses their hands to get a point across to someone else which causes pain and leaves marks on your body, they have some communication issues. She needs to help to fixture out how to express her anger better than that. May not be something you can help her do.

And your lying to your caring family about where the marks came from?
So you know this is all wrong huh?
What do you think they'd say if they knew the truth?
Just JT is offline   Reply With Quote
Old April 26th, 2017, 10:31 AM   #8
Londongirl01
Member
 
Name: Harmony
Join Date: April 16, 2016
Location: London (Bromley)
Age: 16
Gender: Female
Default Re: Am I being abused by my girlfriend?

Yeah, 'abuse' would be a strong term for what you described there. But violence of any amount in a relationship is really unhealthy. Try and address what makes her so angry

14 y/o looking to make new friends xx
Londongirl01 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old April 26th, 2017, 10:31 AM   #9
Londongirl01
Member
 
Name: Harmony
Join Date: April 16, 2016
Location: London (Bromley)
Age: 16
Gender: Female
Default Re: Am I being abused by my girlfriend?

And as hard as it can be at the time, try and just give her a hug- hugs are good

14 y/o looking to make new friends xx
Londongirl01 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old April 28th, 2017, 02:58 AM   #10
Uniquemind
VT Lover
 
Join Date: April 1, 2015
Location: USA
Gender: Other
Default Re: Am I being abused by my girlfriend?

I'm going to differ from everybody's sugar-coated answers here and say that "yes", it was an instance of physical abuse.


Do I think it's to the point of a breakup? No. But it's definitely a moment of "we need to talk, these bruises from that argument we had crosses a line".

Here's why I say that, if the shoe were on the other foot, and you left a bruise on her, legally she could claim abuse.

Why everybody else here is forgetting that this part of feminism' equality is beyond me, but it is, especially if physical altercations from her to you become a pattern and you end up bruised or emotionally abused.
Uniquemind is offline   Reply With Quote
Old June 24th, 2017, 01:46 AM   #11
zac2004
Junior Member
 
Name: Zac
Join Date: June 8, 2017
Gender: Male
Default Re: Am I being abused by my girlfriend?

thats just how women are,
zac2004 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old June 25th, 2017, 09:21 AM   #12
Just JT
I give a actual fuck
 
Just JT's Forum Picture
 
Name: JT
Join Date: June 27, 2015
Location: Kingdom of God
Gender: Male
Blog Entries: 4
Default Re: Am I being abused by my girlfriend?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Uniquemind View Post
I'm going to differ from everybody's sugar-coated answers here and say that "yes", it was an instance of physical abuse.


Do I think it's to the point of a breakup? No. But it's definitely a moment of "we need to talk, these bruises from that argument we had crosses a line".

Here's why I say that, if the shoe were on the other foot, and you left a bruise on her, legally she could claim abuse.

Why everybody else here is forgetting that this part of feminism' equality is beyond me, but it is, especially if physical altercations from her to you become a pattern and you end up bruised or emotionally abused.
Wasn't trying to sugar coat it, I'm on board with you. Abuse comes in many forms, and is/is not gender specific.
Just JT is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump


All times are GMT -5. The time now is 09:49 AM.


Powered by vBulletin®
Copyright©2000 - 2017
Search Engine Optimisation provided by DragonByte SEO (Lite) - vBulletin Mods & Addons Copyright © 2017 DragonByte Technologies Ltd.
Copyright 2004 - 2017, VirtualTeen.org