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Old November 3rd, 2015, 06:10 PM   #1
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Is it true that no one ever stops cutting forever? People keep saying that you'll end up relapsing all your life, even if you go through periods of being clean. Why do people say this?
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Old November 3rd, 2015, 06:17 PM   #2
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No it's not true, people stop cutting.

I have no idea why people say this.
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Old November 4th, 2015, 01:36 PM   #3
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Some people cut their whole lives, but that doesn't mean that everyone who starts is doomed to self-harm forever. It is absolutely possible to stop cutting forever. Relapse is very common, but not inevitable.
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Old November 4th, 2015, 06:43 PM   #4
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It all depends on the individual. Some people have strong willpower and others have less. It's the same as any addiction, such as smoking. My mother, for instance, decided to quit smoking around ten years ago and has not gone back at all since. My father, however, has been trying to quit for years and never fully succeeded - only going maybe a year without it. You just need to be ready to fight it and ready to get away. It is an extremely difficult thing to overcome but it is possible if you try.


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Old November 4th, 2015, 07:06 PM   #5
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It all depends on the individual. Some people have strong willpower and others have less. It's the same as any addiction, such as smoking. My mother, for instance, decided to quit smoking around ten years ago and has not gone back at all since. My father, however, has been trying to quit for years and never fully succeeded - only going maybe a year without it. You just need to be ready to fight it and ready to get away. It is an extremely difficult thing to overcome but it is possible if you try.
so true. with something like cutting I would also recommend some type of professional assistance to help the person quit/learn coping strategies. absolutely possible though

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Old November 4th, 2015, 07:41 PM   #6
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I agree with the last 2 posters
And tbh im not a cutter, but do have close friends who are
And I have my own demons/addictions myself
And when we talk, help each other through tough spots, seems we have similar bottom line feelings
It's only a matter of what is making us feel good atm
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Old November 5th, 2015, 03:19 PM   #7
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This is true for some people and some addictions.

It all depends on the situation, the person and the addiction.

You will generaly relapse if life is terrible because it's a stress release you already know; similiary to how smokers may start smoking again in a stressful situation.

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Old November 5th, 2015, 03:47 PM   #8
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never believe what people said if you change so you not oblige to convince them because they will find something to talking about


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Old November 6th, 2015, 02:39 AM   #9
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I think the reason people say this isn't to say you'll never stop. What they mean to say is that almost no one stops on the first try. Some people will go through relapses for a few months, others for years. I'm almost two years clean and I've only had two very small relapses. There are other people I know who have gone years and then crashed again. It depends on the person.

What people are trying to say is that you're not a failure if you relapse, if it's a week down the road or ten years. Addictions are addictions. And I think it's the urge that take a lot longer to go away. What goes away faster are the actions when you learn to better cope with the urges themselves. Some people may always feel an urge to hurt themselves. I do, whenever something bad happens. But I don't act on it anymore. Other people say they don't even consider it anymore.

Whether you're type A or type B or somewhere in between, don't worry about it. It's different for everyone.
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Old November 28th, 2015, 11:02 PM   #10
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some people will discourage us saying like this
you can stop if you wish
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Old December 2nd, 2015, 07:25 PM   #11
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It might not necessarily be true, but a large portion of people who relied strongly on self harm find that going back to it and relapsing are common. I can't speak for everyone, just myself and the few people I know, but those who go back to it tend to be the ones who were more reliant on self harm in the first place; the ones that cut or burned every day as a way of coping with stress, anxiety or even depression. Of those who self harmed, and stopped permanently, that I know. All were infrequent or had other (usually equally self destructive) methods of coping.

I have no idea if I'm right or wrong, there's no such thing as a one-size-fits-all answer. It seems to me, though, that the more ingrained the behaviour the more likely it is that you'd relapse.
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Old December 3rd, 2015, 12:36 PM   #12
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Good idea to get help for anything that hurts you... even yourself.
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