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Old January 27th, 2015, 11:16 PM   #21
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That was legally and morally rape. There is no doubt about that.
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Old January 28th, 2015, 12:39 PM   #22
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Rape (according to the Oxford Dictionary) means: The crime, typically committed by a man, of forcing another person to have sexual intercourse with the offender against their will.

From your description of it, it definitely sounds like rape. You told him no several times, yet he kept going.

Rape is a crime, and it needs to be stopped. It depends on how long ago this happened, but you can still probably call the police and give them some information about him and the crime, and they should be able to help.

Also, if it feels like it scarred you, you can try calling a Rape Hotline or see a Therapist about it. I hope you feel better soon.
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Old January 29th, 2015, 11:28 PM   #23
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From a legal standpoint, that was rape. You said no, you were underage, but it happened to you anyway. You could not have stopped it, and you didn't just let him do it. He overpowered you. I would report him to the authorities. I feel so bad for you, good luck.

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Old January 30th, 2015, 04:34 PM   #24
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It was definitely rape because you said no, and there is plenty of background to support that. However, I don't know if there is any benefit in reporting it at this point, or if the police will even acknowledge it (as sad as that sounds). It's worth a try if it bothers you that much, but maybe you should seek help with a therapist first before going to the police. Yes, you will have to tell your parents, but you will feel much better that you did.
I'm sorry to say that if this happened awhile ago, this reply is pretty much the best advice you can go with right now. A lot of officers and courts will simply dismiss the case because there would be no remaining evidence and it would just be a "he said, she said" battle.

I'm so sorry this happened but if you need to talk to someone, you should probably seek out a professional, if just to give you some closure.

If you are ever in a position like this again, remember that no always means no. Consent is important. And if you feel your consent is being violated in any way, you can fight back in self-defence. Consent can also be withdrawn so if you ever feel like you're being pressured and say yes but then decide you've changed your mind, that is still well within your right. I hope you're okay.
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Old January 31st, 2015, 06:02 PM   #25
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If you say "no" then it's rape

Edit: You don't necessarily have to say no for rape to be rape. It's considered rape if the act isn't consensual.

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Old February 4th, 2015, 09:59 AM   #26
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If you said no, it was rape. What's more you start to cry. The attitude he had was extremely wrong and I am sorry that this has happened to you. I hope everything goes well with you , kiss

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Old February 12th, 2015, 04:35 AM   #27
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Totally rape, you should tell a councellor and the police
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Old February 12th, 2015, 03:04 PM   #28
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Rape is sex without consent. You did not consent, ergo it was rape.

You should talk to a school counselor or another trusted adult (parents if you have the kind of relationship with them in which that sort of subject would be comfortable for you to breach.) Whether you report him or not is up to you.

I went through something similar, and trust me when I say that society has really shitty support systems for victims of sexual assault. If you do decide to report, it will be a frustrating and difficult process. That does not mean that you shouldn't report, but it does mean that you should be mentally prepared for the process of questioning if you do.
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Old March 31st, 2015, 03:02 PM   #29
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How old were you both?
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Old March 31st, 2015, 03:13 PM   #30
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As everyone has already said, it was rape. Even though it occurred a number of years ago, there is nothing stopping you from reporting him to the police. There have been numerous convictions for historical rapes, although they are hard to prove with forensic evidence which will have been lost over time. He shouldn't be allowed to get away with what he did to you.
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Old March 31st, 2015, 05:53 PM   #31
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As others have said, again and again, it is rape. But there is a pressing issue, and that is the time and evidence. From your testimony, due to the time, it's possible that he would not be prosecuted. However it does mean that if he commits the offence again or has in the past it means he can be charged straight away, but that is again only if the other victim (if there is one) comes forward.

My sister was beaten and raped by her boyfriend, his punishment was 11 months in prison, which is very minimal. Half way during that time we found out he actually raped an underage girl in the place he was put on tag, he is now serving a 12 year prison strech with no chance of early release. The difference between them two cases is that the victim went to the Police when it happened.

So again, do report it, but don't get your hopes up on a serious charge.

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Old April 5th, 2015, 11:08 PM   #32
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Yeah it is a black and white case of rape, it's not even in that grey area which is politically incorrect even to mention the grey area.

You should immediately report it and at the very least break up with him.

Get a doctor to check you out as well for health reasons.

Also general advice to anybody who needs to report being raped and or support a friend who is reporting it...be prepared some police dept. are respectful but others are really bad so you need to brace yourself.

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You need to see a doctor and a gynecologist ASAP because not only could be physical damage, but you could be pregnant as well!

And it could be a dangerous pregnancy, because your body may not be ready yet.

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Old April 6th, 2015, 12:32 PM   #33
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As others have said, again and again, it is rape. But there is a pressing issue, and that is the time and evidence. From your testimony, due to the time, it's possible that he would not be prosecuted. However it does mean that if he commits the offence again or has in the past it means he can be charged straight away, but that is again only if the other victim (if there is one) comes forward.

My sister was beaten and raped by her boyfriend, his punishment was 11 months in prison, which is very minimal. Half way during that time we found out he actually raped an underage girl in the place he was put on tag, he is now serving a 12 year prison strech with no chance of early release. The difference between them two cases is that the victim went to the Police when it happened.

So again, do report it, but don't get your hopes up on a serious charge.


Only 12 years? Is it possibly less if he "behaves well in prison" ?
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Old April 7th, 2015, 07:00 PM   #34
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Only 12 years? Is it possibly less if he "behaves well in prison" ?
Nope, there's no chance of early release, he'll also be on the Sex Offenders registry for the rest of his life.

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Old April 21st, 2015, 08:54 PM   #35
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Nope, there's no chance of early release, he'll also be on the Sex Offenders registry for the rest of his life.
That's hardly a punishment.

He should be sent to hard labor or executed.
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Old April 21st, 2015, 09:01 PM   #36
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That is rape dear
You definitely should report him

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Old June 10th, 2015, 03:17 PM   #37
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He raped you. Period. Call the sexual abuse hotline at 800.656.HOPE (4673) and the police. Get help now.
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Old June 17th, 2015, 09:56 PM   #38
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Yes you were definitely raped by this guy. You said NO several times and he continued to force himself on you until he was having sex. Whenever you say NO it means you don't want to do it and the guy should stop immediately.
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Old June 18th, 2015, 04:47 AM   #39
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Tell yours parents and the police.
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Old June 18th, 2015, 05:30 AM   #40
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I'm sorry but you were raped

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