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Old April 16th, 2015, 02:39 PM   #21
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Thanks I'm gonna need this...I don't see it turning out too well
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Old April 16th, 2015, 02:41 PM   #22
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No I don't. I haven't done anything that good in my life. The best thing I've done was hold this girl while she cried. That's the best thing I've done. I don't really deserve it. But I want it.

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Old April 17th, 2015, 04:54 AM   #23
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No I don't.
"There was only one variable that separated the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging and the people who really struggle for it. And that was, the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging believe they're worthy of love and belonging. That's it. They believe they're worthy."
- Bren Brown: The power of vulnerability, TED 2010.
If you have a spare 20 minutes, I would highly suggest seeing the whole talk.

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Old April 17th, 2015, 08:40 AM   #24
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"There was only one variable that separated the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging and the people who really struggle for it. And that was, the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging believe they're worthy of love and belonging. That's it. They believe they're worthy."
- Bren Brown: The power of vulnerability, TED 2010.
If you have a spare 20 minutes, I would highly suggest seeing the whole talk.
Break that down and explain it for me please. I'm a dumbass I know

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Old April 17th, 2015, 12:47 PM   #25
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Break that down and explain it for me please.
I'm not sure exactly what you mean.
I meant that I urge you to see this: https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability
It was a life changer for me.

If you saw it and didn't understand it, then, in short, she is talking about how our fear of that we are not worthy of love and connection is the only thing that keeps us from it. We all need to understand that we are all worthy of it no matter how imperfect we think we are. It is important to understand that we are enough. "And so these folks had, very simply, the courage to be imperfect. They had the compassion to be kind to themselves first and then to others, because, as it turns out, we can't practice compassion with other people if we can't treat ourselves kindly. And the last was they had connection, and -- this was the hard part -- as a result of authenticity, they were willing to let go of who they thought they should be in order to be who they were, which you have to absolutely do that for connection."

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No you deserve to be happy.
No I don't...
This is why I'm telling you this and this is why I urge you to see this talk.

EDIT: About your "psychotic episode/breakdown." I don't think that it was something to worry about, I think that large doses of alcohol + all these emotion you've been experiencing recently just played a mind trick with you. It'll sound very scientifically, I know, but it sounds like you very just thinking with your subconscious.

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Old April 17th, 2015, 03:13 PM   #26
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I'm not sure exactly what you mean.
I meant that I urge you to see this: https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability
It was a life changer for me.

If you saw it and didn't understand it, then, in short, she is talking about how our fear of that we are not worthy of love and connection is the only thing that keeps us from it. We all need to understand that we are all worthy of it no matter how imperfect we think we are. It is important to understand that we are enough. "And so these folks had, very simply, the courage to be imperfect. They had the compassion to be kind to themselves first and then to others, because, as it turns out, we can't practice compassion with other people if we can't treat ourselves kindly. And the last was they had connection, and -- this was the hard part -- as a result of authenticity, they were willing to let go of who they thought they should be in order to be who they were, which you have to absolutely do that for connection."


This is why I'm telling you this and this is why I urge you to see this talk.

EDIT: About your "psychotic episode/breakdown." I don't think that it was something to worry about, I think that large doses of alcohol + all these emotion you've been experiencing recently just played a mind trick with you. It'll sound very scientifically, I know, but it sounds like you very just thinking with your subconscious.
I don't believe we're all worth of love. When you go and break multiple peoples heart in a 3 month period you don't deserve love. You just don't. I don't deserve love because I've hurt to many people looking for it. I've broken people's hearts made people hate me just to find something I'll never find. And as to your edit, I'm starting to think that too. Nothings happened since and I don't thin anything will. I think it was just all the booze I had is what did it. It just freaked me out because I never thought I'd get to voices in my head. I didn't think I'd end up that bad. Then I started worrying if I told anyone I'd end up in the psych ward which I fear being. But I did tell my psychologist and he told me the same thing you did since it never happened before and hasn't happened since

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You haven't ment to hurt / break people's hearts have you ?
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Old April 17th, 2015, 03:20 PM   #28
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You haven't ment to hurt / break people's hearts have you ?
I've breaken hearts, hurt, and made people hate me for looking for it. But I didn't do it in a 3 month period that's someone else I know. And no I haven't wanted to but I had to. I don't want a relationship that I know won't last so I've turned a couple people down because I knew they wouldn't work

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