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Old July 18th, 2007, 09:49 PM   #1
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I get beat up by my "friends" in my youth group, about half the time I'm around them. For example, today, I was just standing in line, waiting to play a game, when two of them come up beside me, on both sides, and deadleg me (With their knees, not their fists.), ON BOTH LEGS. Of course, one's pretty small, though he's like 17, so that leg doesn't hurt as much, but the other one hurts like crap. And this isn't the only time they've beat me up. One of them punched me last year so hard on the arm, I had a big black bruise the size of texas, and then a couple of days later, he did it again. IN THE SAME EXACT SPOT. I can't think right now I'm so mad and in pain... *sigh* What should I do? I have to go to VBS all the rest of this week, and I'm thinking of just fighting back if it happens again! I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE. I'M TIRED OF BEING TREATED LIKE THE WIMP I LET MYSELF BE. So should I just tell my youth leader, or just handle it myself? (They're 3-4 years older than me, and about 2-5 times tougher.)

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Old July 18th, 2007, 09:57 PM   #2
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Default The short answer, Jeremy,

Is that it's never okay to allow yourself to be abused, so you should protect yourself. First, you might tell them that they need to stop, let them know that you'll tell the authorities. Then tell. Or, if that doesn't work, if they won't listen or you think there's a risk in talking with them first, just tell the authorities and let them take care of it.
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Old July 18th, 2007, 10:00 PM   #3
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You should tell someone if anyone is abusing you or beating you up and you can't handle it very well on your own, especially if it's a group of people. Tell your youth leader!
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Old July 18th, 2007, 10:17 PM   #4
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Tell your youth leader. Don't handle it by yourself especially if you want to handle it physically. Fighting back will just get you in trouble. The easiest way is to tell your youth leader and have him/her deal with it.
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Old July 18th, 2007, 10:44 PM   #5
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erugh.....i'm gonna get in soooo much trouble for this


Dude i'm about to tell you something that nobody else here has and that someone in my "position" shouldnt be supporting


Fight back
I suggest you get some of your friends/brothers etc...
you find the assholes that are beating you up
and you beat the living shit outta them
if there five times stronger bring 4 more buddies

why? because thats the only way to 100% ensure they'll fuck off
because right now your a pushover
an easy target

I dunno how ur parents are but i know mine if anything would be proud
as long as your standing up for yourself
your family
or your friends
and you didnt throw the first punch

If your REALLY scared about fighting back
then go right to the cops
when your tadling on a bully
it always makes them a lil more concerned when its a cop car that pulls up in there driveway then a phone call from someone
press charges
etc...

in canada as long as there over 16 you can press charges

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Old July 18th, 2007, 10:54 PM   #6
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why? because thats the only way to 100% ensure they'll fuck off
Not necessarily. If I was a bully and one of my victims decided to try and fight back on their own, I imagine I would be royally pissed and come back with reserves and a wrath unlike any shown before.

I recommend involving some kind of authority figure, any kind, who would be able to help keep them under control.
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Old July 18th, 2007, 11:15 PM   #7
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Yeah arranging a fight and getting others to beat them up isn't a smart idea. It can bite you in the ass and backfire and get yourself in trouble. I don't think its worth it.
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Old July 18th, 2007, 11:20 PM   #8
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This is absolutly not right! I think that you should either stay close or in eyeshot of your YL so they cant do anything to you without getting in trouble. And if that dosent work just tell on them. I like to do it publically like at the top of my lungs and i sometimes get in trouble but sometimes i dont. To be honest I tell on people all the time but I do it in a joking way so I dont get crap for being a "tatle tale". yeah i think you should try those because thats what i always do and im not easily pushed around!






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Old July 19th, 2007, 12:43 AM   #9
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Not necessarily. If I was a bully and one of my victims decided to try and fight back on their own, I imagine I would be royally pissed and come back with reserves and a wrath unlike any shown before.

I recommend involving some kind of authority figure, any kind, who would be able to help keep them under control.
But if you were taddled on then you'd be cool with it? (not trying to be mean just asking)
and when you saw him walking around without the youth leader around you wouldnt kick the shit outta him for telling?

I'm not trying to be the horrible influence here
i'm just saying no matter who you tell
they cant protect you all the time
and as far as being beatten up
thats happening already
besides the majority of bullies pick on younger kids or smaller kids because there pathedic cowards
so I honestly dout theyd bother you much again


meh
you dont have to listen to me
talk tou your parents
ask your dad tell him that your getting beat up allot and if you fight back would he get mad

or you could listen to all of us
tell someone if that dosnt work
tell the cops
if that dosnt work make them wish they'd never been born
-shrug-

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Old July 19th, 2007, 06:34 AM   #10
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Yeah sure like some little punk is gonna listen to an youth leader or a cop who can't do shit to him

Here's my advice get some ppl, get a metal pipe and bash hes head open, or/and break his legs, hands whatever

I'm tough, rough, ready and able
To pick myself up from under this table
Don't stick no sign on me, I got no label
I'm a little sick, unsure, unsound and unstable

But I'm fighting my way back

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Old July 19th, 2007, 06:44 AM   #11
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Honey ya got to tell someone it aint right for folks to come along and beat ya like guy in a ring with a boxing kangaroo and if it is at church dont beat them up at church and dont beat them up period. I advice ya tell ya youth leader or someone and if this continues afterwards tell someone else and if that dosent work which it probaly will but take action i hope it all works out for ya

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Old July 19th, 2007, 09:22 AM   #12
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Default Lots of different approaches

but the result is what counts. Your decision should be based on what will most effectively stop them. Fighting back works only if you are sure you can win (and then there's the risk that they will be so pissed at you that THEY will tell on you!). Bashing someone with a metal pipe is just plain stupid (sorry), as the stuff you'll face in prison as a result will be far more intimidating and dangerous than these guys.

Telling the authorities is not 'tattling', it's self protective. And they will stop it.
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or you could listen to all of us
tell someone if that dosnt work
tell the cops
if that dosnt work make them wish they'd never been born
-shrug-
Yeah, I think that's probably the best course of action.
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Old July 19th, 2007, 01:07 PM   #14
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Here's my advice get some ppl, get a metal pipe and bash hes head open, or/and break his legs, hands whatever
NO! no weapons
and they throw the first punch
which makes you legally in the right
So you cant get in trouble from the cops anyway
i'm being serious
i dont want some boasting manly man crap
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why? because thats the only way to 100% ensure they'll fuck off
because right now your a pushover
an easy target
I think it's fine that you should say fight back...it doesn't have anything to do with your "position"
As far as fighting 'em back, I wouldn't do that! They're older than you and stronger than you. I mean, I got picked on by the guys in my weight training class, and I was a pushover. Now I don't stand for that crap, and I think it's good to cuss them out because they're little pricks.

Although this is another case because they're phsyically harming you.

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but the result is what counts. Your decision should be based on what will most effectively stop them. Fighting back works only if you are sure you can win (and then there's the risk that they will be so pissed at you that THEY will tell on you!). Bashing someone with a metal pipe is just plain stupid (sorry), as the stuff you'll face in prison as a result will be far more intimidating and dangerous than these guys.

Telling the authorities is not 'tattling', it's self protective. And they will stop it.
I completely agree with this - it isn't tattling at all. You'd get the most out of telling someone about this, whether it's your parents, a teacher, or the authorities.
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Old July 19th, 2007, 03:10 PM   #16
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But if you were taddled on then you'd be cool with it? (not trying to be mean just asking)
and when you saw him walking around without the youth leader around you wouldnt kick the shit outta him for telling?

I'm not trying to be the horrible influence here
i'm just saying no matter who you tell
they cant protect you all the time
and as far as being beatten up
thats happening already
besides the majority of bullies pick on younger kids or smaller kids because there pathedic cowards
so I honestly dout theyd bother you much again


meh
you dont have to listen to me
talk tou your parents
ask your dad tell him that your getting beat up allot and if you fight back would he get mad

or you could listen to all of us
tell someone if that dosnt work
tell the cops
if that dosnt work make them wish they'd never been born
-shrug-
I've told both my parents, and they both vote for if it happens again, tell my Youth Leader, or fight back. (I am a yellow belt in akijutsu, you know...) I don't want to hurt them, just get them off my back. So thanks guys.
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Old July 19th, 2007, 03:42 PM   #17
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first go to ya leader and if that fails kick thar behinds like cousin max did to racheal and if that dosent work just keep on getin back

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Old July 20th, 2007, 10:24 PM   #18
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Guys, I'm sorry I even brought this here. They don't mean it badly, they're just playing around. (Though it does hurt...) Ah, I was just being a wimp. I'm sorry. And it's taken care of. (If it happens again... Which it better not... *Grins evilly*) So... If you want:
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