A friend of mine.

a friend of mine is being groped and the guy doing so is trying to fore her into sexual activity.

Myself and my friends want to know who it is, but she wont tell us.

she's obviously afraid we are going to break his bones..

i just want to tell him to back off, i cant speak for my friends, but they respect my decisions (i'm like, the leader of the group, you know?)

i want to know if there's any way i can calm her down enough into talking with me..?

I don't think she's scared that you will break his bones. Chances are he threatened her, or she's worried that he'll hurt you. The easiest way is to tell her what you intend to do and be honest, or ask if she's been threatened etc, then after that ask again.
I'm sorry she's in this situation.

Originally Posted by evil.angel

I don't think she's scared that you will break his bones. Chances are he threatened her, or she's worried that he'll hurt you. The easiest way is to tell her what you intend to do and be honest, or ask if she's been threatened etc, then after that ask again.
I'm sorry she's in this situation.

Hmm...
that is a very good point.

I Thank you Alex, i will try this.

And i will say how it goes.

If I was that concerned about her,
i'd tell a teacher at school, she could be forced into something or threatened.
And of course, that is abuse which could give her mental illness.

if anything happens call the cops but try to prevent anything just sit down with her and have a Come To Jesus Meeting.... So you know how to prevent this and lock up whoever this dude is in jail..Good Luck

You need to let her take her time. This is something that is very traumatic for a woman, and they all deal with it in different ways. Even though you may feel as if shes crazy for not telling you, respect her decisions. If it gets out of hand to extremes, follow your guts and do what you see fits.

Well!

i had a word with her, shes sitting here now with me and my girlfriend, she's doing well and is telling us everything we need to know,

both she and the guy harassing her are 14.. while WE are 19.

tomorrow i will find, and have a word with this boy... i will warn him at first, if he continues, i will go to the police,

thank you everybody.

Originally Posted by Kcorb

Well!

i had a word with her, shes sitting here now with me and my girlfriend, she's doing well and is telling us everything we need to know,

both she and the guy harassing her are 14.. while WE are 19.

tomorrow i will find, and have a word with this boy... i will warn him at first, if he continues, i will go to the police,

thank you everybody.

Well done to her for talking about it.
Just remember that you have the upper hand on this boy so don't take advantage of that.
Don't threaten or anything because if you end up going to the police he could use that against you. Good luck with it!

well, this day we woke up at 6:00.AM. and went to meet with him, we tricked him a little, he thought he would only be meeting her, but it was the only way we could think of.

We told him to back off, he seemed scared of us and promised he would leave her alone.

I told him, if he does it again i will get the police involved.

She is here now, sitting happily, eating breakfast.


thank you all for the help, couldn't have done it without you.

Hi, if you've offered your friend help and she doesnt want it, theres not a lot you can do, i think you should talk to your friend again and let her know that you're there for her and she doesnt have to let this person do that to her and let her know that help is available, nobody should have to be scared and treated like that, i hope it gets sorted. Best thing you can do is be there for her