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Old January 14th, 2014, 10:55 PM   #1
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Just wondering if anyone out there has been molested. On here, you can't go into detail, but if you did just say how old you were who did it, do you think about it?

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Old January 14th, 2014, 11:22 PM   #2
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Just wondering if anyone out there has been molested. On here, you can't go into detail, but if you did just say how old you were who did it, do you think about it?
I'd rather not say anything about it, other than I think about it every day. Every single day.
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Old January 15th, 2014, 02:43 PM   #3
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I'd rather not say anything about it, other than I think about it every day. Every single day.
I feel you man, I think about it often......without telling you what happened my last name triggers the memory so yeah I'm constantly reminded.

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Old January 15th, 2014, 02:48 PM   #4
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Old November 25th, 2014, 12:38 PM   #5
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I'd rather not say anything about it, other than I think about it every day. Every single day.
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12, a "friend", sometimes.
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Old February 23rd, 2014, 02:55 PM   #7
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12, a "friend", sometimes.
wait wot

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wait wot
You are going to have to be waaay more specific
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You are going to have to be waaay more specific
where did he touch you

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It wasn't really a matter of that, and I think I would get in serious trouble for going into detail.
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Old January 15th, 2014, 05:17 AM   #12
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No, but my mom was 'nearly' raped.
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i was 8. im just going to say a bad person. i think about it everyday. no matter how hard i try i cant forget. i still have nightmares about it sometimes

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Old January 16th, 2014, 07:46 AM   #14
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12, I forgot her name, and yeah but it doesn't bother me

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Old January 17th, 2014, 09:10 PM   #15
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I think about it a lot even though it was very insignificant. Especially sense other rpeople have went through much much much worse. I don't deserve to feel anything about my megar issue. But I still think of it despite reminding my self I'm selfish for remembering it and being bothered by it.

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I think about it a lot even though it was very insignificant. Especially sense other rpeople have went through much much much worse. I don't deserve to feel anything about my megar issue. But I still think of it despite reminding my self I'm selfish for remembering it and being bothered by it.
exactly how i feel all the time even though i try not to think about it at all

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yes many times by 4 different people and i think about it allot in fact i hate thinking about it but my mind refuses to let me forget it so i just have to learn to deal with it
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I think about it a lot even though it was very insignificant. Especially sense other rpeople have went through much much much worse. I don't deserve to feel anything about my megar issue. But I still think of it despite reminding my self I'm selfish for remembering it and being bothered by it.
any kind of sexual abuse at all is traumatic and you have the right to be upset over it no matter how small you think it is and u cant help how u feel from my experience u seem to be a very smart kind person dont put urself down

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Old January 19th, 2014, 09:56 AM   #18
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I was 12 & the predator was the mother of some kids that I babysat. I think whenever penetration is involved, the victim, male or female, has suffered a truly devastating experience.
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Old January 21st, 2014, 02:57 AM   #19
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I was 12 & the predator was the mother of some kids that I babysat. I think whenever penetration is involved, the victim, male or female, has suffered a truly devastating experience.
No offence but that's kind of implying simple molestation is not as bad and there for should be treated as such when in fact some people are more disturbed by molestation or other abusethan others are of aactually penetrating rape.
I have a friend who was raped, and really it doesn't bother her. I know her well enough that I can say its the truth. Its just not a big deal to her and she claims the emotional abuse by her dad was much worse on her than the rape (buy a guy from college).

Then there are other people who are molested and it destroys their lives. Its got more yo do with the persona feelings about it than the event it self.

For instance you could call me fat all you want and wouldn't give a shit. But another girl might become bulimic over it. Its just personal tolerance.

Once again I'm not saying you ment it that way. Just pointing it out.

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Old January 30th, 2014, 03:53 AM   #20
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Thanks for commenting on my statement. I appreciate your viewpoint.

Again, I respectfully disagree. Molestation is certainly a traumatic experience, but Imit that I enjoyed the feee, even at age 12. This process occurred over 4 months. She eventually did penetrate me rectally, but I will not be specific. The penetration took things to a completely different level of trauma. Many scholarly studies support that statement in both male & female child victims.

As for your friend that was raped & has no problems, I suspect she may be using denial as a coping mechanism. It is much easier to act like it didn't bother you, than to face reality: Your body was penetrated against your will; your ability to trust trust will never be the same. On the other hand, you know her personally, & I am generalizing, based on group therapy sessions with other child/teen victims, and published psychological studies.

I agree with you completely: Different people react differently to various types of inappropriate sexual manipulation. You are right- some people will be devastated by fondling. In my experience, as well as my weekly participation in a therapy group of sexually abused teens, penetration (oral, rectal, or vaginal) multiplies the trauma exponentially.

It isn.t something that can be easily explained, but when the adult takes the molestation from fondling to penetration, the victim feels a complete loss of control of our own bodies.
Please know I in no way mean to deny yours or any one else's experience. And the trend does lean towards penitration, however there is a minority that doesn't. And Ive completely agree on multiple traumas. I know from my own experience with other trauma that it gets worse with repeats. Some that have been heavily abused say it hits a top eventually and it just becomes life. Which I can see as a valid experience.

My main reason for the feed back is some (not you) people believe the most heavily abused person should get treatment and the others are resource suckers that should just get over it. And are treated as if they are selfish for wanting help furthering their negative feelings. Experiences can not be objectified.
There is also hang ups between psychological, physical and sexual abuse. Sexual is often considered most important and emotional attention seeking. Even though there have been a few people that claimed the emotional abuse was worse than the sexual abuse. Which I'm sure has a lot to do with the individual and situation. I don't believe in taking help away from some one who has been waiting and giving it to the person you think has it the worst. That iswrong as it further mistreats the person who is constantly pushed aside for "more serious cases" and starts to destroy them further emotionally.

And eventually you end up with a system like where I am where if you aren't a rape case you just need to suck it up and get over it and stop attention seeking. And then the rest of us with different polar opposite traumas are left to just suck it up until we explode or commit suicide. There is much help for sexual abuse, some for violence, and none for emotional. And as a person who went through emotional it can get very very brutal. Its a lot more than just words. Its a whole nother world. I imagine other types of abuse are just as different and awful. I've been through physical as well but it was my own fault because I fought back so I don't get to say much there.

Any way I'm rambling again. Lol I just put it out there for the casual onlookers browings around. So noting is ment personal and i in no way want to deny any ones experience. Im a big advocate of everyone's right to feel their trauma however they do. I think everyones trauma is equaly important. If they feel its that bad then it is, for them. Who are we to say what others feel them selves. I just point out there are other less known experiences. Gota get all them view points in there!

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