Finding this girl is a needle in a hay stack. I think you're wasting your time. You don't even know if Betsey feels the same way or has even forgetten about you. She may already have her eye on someone else. Even if you were to find her, do you expect to say "Hey I'm the Dude from the Disney Cruise Line" and she gives you a smile and a hug and it's all good? There are a ton of obsticles around you. One is her parents. I think you're giving yourself false hope.