i'm sorry your mother is so obsessive and condesending. i dont really know what to say, as i've never been in a situation like your's before, but i'm happy to help in anyway i know how. i would suggest maybe just not telling your mom stuff. I know its wrong to lie and i'm against that but if it will make both your lives eaiser, maybe you should just tell her what she wants to hear. This way you can date the guys you want and also not have her thinking your doing porn everytime you go into your room. If you need anymore help, please dont hesitate to PM me.