What is wrong with being too obvious or blatent. She may have a boyfirnd 120 miles away because she doesn't really want to have a boy friend at all and this is how she drives others away. Subterfuge is a way to avoid your friends mocking your efforts. They will mock them anyways, its what they are there for, keeps you from thinking your better then you are. Well, your only as good as you are. All you can do is be an alternative to a dude 120 miles away. If she don't like you, you won't change her mind.
And don't ever write "'aroused'" with the quote marks again. You might as well have written "my penis becomes engorged with blood" Settle for you think she is fine, you find her atractive etc. I mean seriously, ick.