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Old July 17th, 2017, 09:06 PM   #12
elmoc
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Join Date: November 3, 2013
Location: Texas
Age: 19
Gender: Male
Default Re: Guilty about burdening others

Hi Katie,
You seem to be a very kind & caring person, & I'm sure that you have supported friendswhen they were in a crisis. One of the best things you can do for those friends is to allow them to return that support.

I had an older brother killed by a drunk driver a few years ago. My friends listened to me, cried with me, & offered so much support. Since that time, I have been able to offer support to them when they had family problems. This is why we have good friends, to support each other.

This is what I learned: When my brother was killed, my friends REALLY wanted to help me through it, but they didn't know what to do. When I asked them to just listen to me, I had a chance to talk through my feelings. Even better, when we finished, THEY also felt better, because they were able to do something for me.

Some days you're the bug;
some days you're the windshield.
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