Re: How did you first find out you were gay or bi?
For context I'm pan.
I always suspected or kinda knew my feelings were more nuanced than strictly boy & girl. But an older girl on my swim team was very out and proud. So she kinda "normalized" it for me. Basically she set a good example of "this exists and it's ok". I think she knew what I was only discovering because she would ask pointed questions and always make sure to say that whatever I felt was normal and healthy.
So for me it wasn’t one big discovery, it was the conclusion of a long and gradual journey.