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Old June 2nd, 2014, 10:39 AM   #8
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Default Re: um just wondering if im the only one

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Originally Posted by thatgothgirluknow View Post
so maybe this is in the wrong form but i dont know what to call it and this seemed like the closest thing so here it goes because of abuse and trust isuses im realy sensitive to others position and touch like if someone goes behind and i dont know theyer there ill flinch when i turn around and see them behind me but its not that they scared me i dont know why i flinch and i have the same problem with my shoulders like i absulutley can not stand for them to be touched by anyone else but me and when someone does i tense up and often flinch people constantly try to hug me and put theyer arms on my shoulders and i do everything in my power not to flinch because i worry that itll make them think i dont like them or something but i dont know how to explain my problems can anyone tell me if they have had simular problems and if so what can i do
Maybe just instincts? Usually when someone is standing behind me, not even touching or even very close, the hairs on the back of my neck would stand up and I would have goosebumps all over. If a hand slides on to my shoulder I would flinch although not too obviously and turn to see the person. I'm not a touchy-feely kind of guy and I'm always on the ready to defend myself if and when someone attacks me(lol that saved me more than once too).
Try something like Katiya said to ease your nerves and be less sensitive.
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